To ask if there is anyone out there that finds being a mum soooooo hard?

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I'm 30, have 2 DC, DD is 18 months and ds is 4 months.

I love my children, I really do, but I find being a mum so damn hard.

Everyday is a slog, and I often wonder how on earth I am going to make it to the end of the day.

The days are long....sooooo long

Baby groups are boring, and full of mums who just seem to love every minute of it.

Days are filled with meaningless tasks like going to a shopping centre just to buy a new grobag even though you could have bought it online but at least it gave your day some kind of a purpose.

Everyone around me seems to love it, seems to cope, dreads their children growing up, and I'm just here wondering when my life will ever resemble something somewhat normal. Where days aren't filled with screaming, crying, picking up, putting down, picking up again, nappies, food that doesn't get eaten, mess...eugh it's never ending.

Please tell me it's not just me...please!

Used to but in my stride now.

IT GETS BETTER honestly. You have two little ones, you’re long long given birth, you’re actually a saint!

Not long given birth...

You've got two babies! Be kind on yourself it's really tough, even the yummy mummies at baby group are struggling (whixh is why they are there)

Survive the days and rest as much as you can.

It gets easier, I promise.

I have 20 month old twins and yep, it’s so hard- our two are super whiney and one is very clingy and just hangs off me so it’s hard to get anything done!

But I do love my children so much, doesn’t mean I can’t find them hard.

Probably fairly lucky that a couple of girls in my parentcraft class are the same so we get to relate to each other over a glass of wine!

Your babies are young OP. It's so hard at this stage, especially with 2 close together. Mine are 8&10 now and it's so much easier. It's a different world honestly. Hang in there x

Oh god you’re in the thick of it aren’t you?

My two eldest are 14 months apart. I look back and think ‘how the fuck did I do that?’

It’s al that stuff you say it is, and it’s really boring much of the time. Everyone puts on a brave face I think.

Trick is is to find a few people with DCs the same ages who are your kind of people. They get you through. Gets a bit easier when they get to pre-school or nursery because you see the same people every day and you can suss them out.

It’s bloody tough though.

It’s not just you. I was exactly the same, and very agitated by all these saintly mothers who were in raptures. I absolutely hated never having peace and quiet for myself - I like to sit in a comfy chair and read a book - but instead it was constant drudgery and demands.

It has got better. Grit your teeth and stick with it.

I get you. This is why I waited til DD was over 3 to even consider having another one! Two that close would have done me in I reckon. You'll get there!

@TillllllThen there's always one! Don't think OP needs comments like that when she's clearly feeling crap!

It's not just you. I've got a 3 1/2 year old and a 3 month old and it is hard, hard work. I really don't enjoy it at the moment. But I know it gets better. Just hold on to that, thought, OP - 'this too shall pass' x

It's totally normal to feel the way you do at times! And it DOES get easier!

Yeah you’re in the well hard part!

Mine are 2 and 3 now (16 month gap so a bit more than your gap). It’s easier in the sense that i sleep better now. However, the days are still very very hard.

Anyone who says it gets better- what kind of age do you reckon this happens?

Every day on maternity leave I used to visit a different supermarket. I'd feel genuine joy when I realised we needed something. Yes!!! I've run out of shower gel!!!! Come on DS, let's have a walk round Tesco!

I feel you, I honestly do.

It gets easier.

Mine are 14 and 16 now. The tiredness and the business and log is still there, oh and the mess and the whinging! But it does get better with regards to getting your life back I promise. You may have to wait until they are at school as when that happens they start being their own little people and not literally hanging off of you.

Yep, I find it really hard.

Currently pregnant with no.2 but DD will be nearly 5 when baby arrives which tells you how hard I find it considering it took me that many years to think I could even possibly manage it again.. with PND and a tough ride where some days I thought im not sure I'm cut out for this (and still do now sometimes)

2 under 2 is tough. Were you enjoying no.1 before you had your second if you don't mind me asking?

It actually isn’t never ending, my younger two are 2 and 3 now and it’s fine.

You’re in the worst part of the small-age-gap-doldrums imo.

KOKO you will be fine

Mine are 6 and 4. One at school, one about to start. Old enough to know consequences and how to behave. Old enough not to need constant entertainment!

Blimey, 18 months and 4 months, you’re a superhero! I have one DD and although I do really enjoy motherhood, I’ve found parts of it so hard and boring I doubt we will have anymore children.

I found 4 months really difficult anyway- she couldn’t sit up yet or sit in a highchair and snack etc, but didn’t want to be in her pram, so going for lunch / coffee etc was really difficult!

And yes to the PP who said about supermarkets! We go every day!

I’m also 30, dd4, dd3 and ds 18 months. Some days are good and some days are bloody awful but yes every day is hard!
I often wonder, what am I doing wrong? Why is this so hard? And I feel constant guilt that I’m just not cut out to be at home with my kids everyday! I love them but I crave my own space and adult company that doesn’t revolve around talking about kids.

God yeah. Mine are 4 and 1. Some days are like Groundhog Day, today for instance I was on the fucking edge!

@hooli yes this is so me right now, anything to make me feel like I have done something non baby related cheers me up even by just a little, it's depressing really.

@rachie the honest answer...no I wasn't enjoying it, but I knew I wanted a sibling for DD, and that if I didn't bite the bullet and do it asap then I would never do it, and I felt that the regret of not giving her a sibling would be greater than the regret of finding these years so hard. That reads like I regret my ds and I absolutely do not, I adore him, I just hate the way I feel.

Some days yes. On the whole I really enjoy it, but I have had days (weeks) like you describe OP. It gets better. My DS is slightly younger than your eldest and it’s much easier once they get past two I think. You’re finding it hard because your youngest is so young

Sorry my DS is 3, I thought your eldest was 4! It’s definitely because they’re young!