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Original poster

to be annoyed by people who let their kids run round supermarkets 'playing'

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ProperLavs · 26/07/2018 15:04

Actually screaming and running into people.
I had an interesting 'conversation' with a woman when i muttered for someone to stop them screaming and running around. This woman, who didn't actually have anything to do with the kids, who were roughly 4 and 2, told me they were only playing.

I told her it was a very busy supermarket and they shouldn't be playing here
She then muttered about some people having to take their children shopping. I told her I had had to take all of mine (6 under 8) and no they were't ever allowed to run round screaming whilst I ignored them.
Wtf is wrong with people?

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Baumederose · 29/07/2018 23:11

Another ODFOD only you get a Biscuit as well

TheMonkeyMummy · 29/07/2018 23:12

Lethal, have you? Oh well. It made me chuckle

manaftermidnight · 29/07/2018 23:12

you really need to specify who you are telling to fuck off (and not hide behind silly acronyms)

Baumederose · 29/07/2018 23:13

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manaftermidnight · 29/07/2018 23:15

Clear enough to report you, yes.

Baumederose · 29/07/2018 23:18
Biscuit
GabsAlot · 30/07/2018 00:10

we werent allowed to run round as kids in any shop

i love it when little johnny is pushing the trolley that he cant even see over and bashes into your leg and the mother looks at you like you shouldnt have been in their way

QueenoftheSilverDollar12 · 30/07/2018 04:11

@manaftermidnight I was meaning you playing the card 🙄 you're using ASNs as an excuse here, I'm afraid. I think most of us are bright enough to recognise if a kid has ASNs and the parents are struggling as opposed to simple ineffective or downright bad parenting in supermarkets or wherever, again which is blatantly obvious. You pulling the ASN cars Is frankly insulting to those who do struggle with this vs folk who just indulge or ignore bad behaviour from their kids. Yuk 😕

QueenoftheSilverDollar12 · 30/07/2018 04:15

@manaftermidnight you sound very aggressive too, bad day with the kids?
@Lethaldrizzle it's a funny notice, not intended to be serious in the slightest. It's called irony....honestly, I think some folk on MN require an urgent sense of humour transplant and an injection of good old common sense, while they're about it. The perpetually offended are everywhere 🙄

hallygore · 30/07/2018 07:41

my daughter has behavioural issues, I have 4 kids and I use a wheelchair. My older ones take it in turns to hold my toddlers reigns, carry baskets, find things etc but if my daughter starts struggling we just grab as much as we can and leave. It's stressful and I hate it but needs must. I certainly wouldn't be letting them scoot or run around the shop and if it's busy then I would have the toddler on my knee.

I used to work in a craft shop and it was noticeable the amount of unaccompanied 10 year olds who wouldn't think twice about trying out and trashing pens, scooting around the shop, spilling their costa smoothies everywhere. The amount of times I was dispatched to deal with them was shocking. It was like they'd never been taught how to behave in a shop.

Tell you what's worse though, people with dogs who think it's cute to let their pets slather allover fabric. Why why why (unless it's an assistance dog) would you ever think it's acceptable to take your dog to a craft shop. They were supposed to be banned but the manager was a dog person. Made me and the assistant managers lives hell though because we both have allergies.

Waits to be called a dog hater lol

Lethaldrizzle · 30/07/2018 07:44

I'd prefer it if the sign said something like 'naughty people will be made into pies' - I've worked in the hospitality industry and by far the worst behaviour I witnessed was adults!

Lethaldrizzle · 30/07/2018 07:46

Also - 'the perpetually annoyed' are the ones complaining about kids in public places.

YouTheCat · 30/07/2018 07:52

I prefer the one about misbehaving children will be given espresso and a kitten. Grin

QueenoftheSilverDollar12 · 30/07/2018 08:01

@Lethaldrizzle
Also - 'the perpetually annoyed' are the ones complaining about kids in public places.

Just the ones who haven't been parented properly. As I said upthread, it's not the kids' fault either. It's the fault of ineffective parents who aren't making the effort to ensure their kids can become fully functioning members of a civilised society. I actually feel sorry for the kids in these cases, if I'm being honest.

jocarter67 · 30/07/2018 08:07

I couldn’t agree more, it makes shopping 100 Times worse. I’m in a wheelchair and I guarantee you at least once every shopping trip a child isn’t looking where they are going and they either run into me, or trip over my wheelchair. This then ends with the parent/ carer telling ME to look where I’m going!! It happens all the time, occasionally I get an apology from the child or parent but that’s a very rare thing.

MaisyPops · 30/07/2018 08:09

'the perpetually annoyed' are the ones complaining about kids in public places
I love fake generalisations. look at the people who dislike it when ineffective or lazy parents allow badly behaved children to be a nuisance to everyone else. See, they have children and think they should never, ever be in public ever... oh and they must also hate people with additional needs too. How horrible of them

Reality - people quite like children and notice that most children are well behaved and if they have a wobble, most parents actually parent. It's quite a shame that some children will grow up thinking they can act how they like because their parents were too lazy to say no to heelies and screaming in Tesco.

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ProperLavs · 30/07/2018 08:55

hallygore bravo to you and your attitude. Sounds like you're doing a fab job under very difficult circumstances. So you are in a wheelchair and have a child who can be tricky but still manage not to let your child disturb other shoppers?

Also don't you know that dogs are humans too? They have every right to slather over the fabric. You'll probably find that they were being asked their opinion on colour choices so absolutely had to be in the shop.?

I too hate the ASN card- it's always reeled man we have already discussed that. Please read the thread. It might help you.

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ProperLavs · 30/07/2018 08:58

if someone is blocking the aisle with ridiculous trolley parking I always politely ask them to move. Same as the wankers who put bags on their seats on trains and buses when there are people standing. I ask them to move their bags. They're never happy about it but then they are wankers so I don't suppose they would be.

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YouTheCat · 30/07/2018 10:29

Well, I've just been to the gym and popped into Asda on my way back. Not busy but plenty of kids and not one behaving badly. All being chatted to like people and engaged with. One young lad was scooting about with a wheeled basket but his mum stopped him pretty much straight away.

LG123 · 30/07/2018 16:19

When I was about 9, I was in Asda with my parents and my brother. Wasn't running around like a brat disturbing everyone but as soon as my parent's backs were turned I got on the end of the trolley and did a Rose from the Titanic when she wants to jump from ship.... safe to say I went smack on the floor face first, knocked myself out and ended up in an ambulance on my way to casualty (the mean paramedics wouldn't let me sleep as it hit my head and had huge lump 😂😂). Goes to show that pissing about in places you shouldn't can be dangerous and you or someone else could end up seriously hurt! That showed me (I never did it again....)

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ProperLavs · 30/07/2018 16:29

I popped into said supermarket again today. It was actually pleasurable. All children impeccably behaved and actually being told by adults to look out for other people. All stayed by their parents' sides. I accidentally nudged someone with my trolley and they turned round and apologised to me!

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LG123 · 30/07/2018 17:10

I've had that before when someone has said sorry and I'm just about to apologise for being in their way/nudging them lol!

QueenoftheSilverDollar12 · 30/07/2018 22:44

I've been reported by some posters on here to HQ so will leave my contribution here. Thanks to those who have supported the comments I've made - much appreciated. To those who took umbrage at my opinions, I apologise if I offended anyone. Freedom of speech is a British institution? Discuss 😉
Peace out.

MaisyPops · 30/07/2018 23:08

queen
What did they say? You've been reported for suggesting that parents should parent? And that parents of children with additional needs parenting their child and managing/supporting their child's needs is different to lazy parents who say 'aww kids are kids' as their kids squeal and scream and roll around Tesco in their heelies? Confused

Well that explains some of the crap we have to pick up in schools when a loud minority of parents think their spirited child should be left to behave how they like, ruining other children's ability to learn.

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 31/07/2018 08:45

I still keep DS2 in the trolley at nearly 7. It doesn't help that people keep telling him he's too big. The SENCO thinks he's got ADHD, CAMHS don't want to label him yet. I don't know what I'll do when he does get too big for the seat.

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