to be annoyed by people who let their kids run round supermarkets 'playing'

[ProperLavs]

Actually screaming and running into people.
I had an interesting 'conversation' with a woman when i muttered for someone to stop them screaming and running around. This woman, who didn't actually have anything to do with the kids, who were roughly 4 and 2, told me they were only playing.

I told her it was a very busy supermarket and they shouldn't be playing here
She then muttered about some people having to take their children shopping. I told her I had had to take all of mine (6 under 8) and no they were't ever allowed to run round screaming whilst I ignored them.
Wtf is wrong with people?

sigh greatduck are you being deliberately dense? I used running an screaming because that was what happened in the supermarket this week.Will it help you I can give examples of other anticosocial behaviour that has occurred so that you can better understand what antisocial behaviour is?

Op

Yes please

You were clearly misleading by omission

Interestingly I have just been to Morrisions to their autism hour, so good chance that a lot of the children (and adults!) in the store had ‘issues’ (for want of a better word) which make shopping much harder for them than their peers. Amazingly they all seemed to be managing without the need to run around and risk injuring other shoppers though!

I totally agree with you OP.

Ignore the people deliberately being arseholes

Like I've said my dc are older now and when they were little they were sat in a trolley or a pram in the supermarket so didn't get the chance to run around.

And don't get me wrong I don't care for unruly children myself I just wouldn't speak to someone else's children the way you did that is all

This has reminded me of a supermarket trip last week. I was on my own and walking around and there was a woman with a trolley and in it a young child (about 2?) and an older one, must have been coming up to 4. The baby was screaming his head off and the older child was doing that 'thing', you know where they're pretending to be soothing the baby and they're winding them up. The poor mum looked so frazzled and I could hear that baby all around the store.

Nobody tutted that I saw but there were looks and winces (as the screaming was painful). The mum wouldn't let the older child out of the trolley. I smiled at her, said "We've all been there" and she said that her oldest had to be confined to the trolley or would be up to mayhem. He was kicking at her as she was pushing the trolley so she was holding it at arms' length.

Anyway, I wandered off down another aisle and we ended up at checkout at the same time - baby still crying. I helped her pack and handed her an iced coffee as I left. Poor woman but a bloody good parent. I'm sure it would have been so much easier for her to have let her older boy do his own thing out of the trolley.

Dense? You sound just lovely OP.

@GreatDuckCookery that's a pity.

GreatDuck but if your children wouldn't behave like that, nobody would speak to them like that, would they?

@ProperLavs I'd say obtuse rather than dense. HTH @GreatDuckCookery

Not really Queen. You have no idea why the parents didn't tell their dc to stop messing about. They were probably tired and stressed out themselves not to mention their dc. Don't assume you know best when you no nothing at all about total strangers is my motto

You are correct, meant obtuse not dense.

Tired and stressed out isn’t an excuse to risk your children hurting themselves or others. You can’t just check out of parenting when you are tired!

Do you really think that those parents would have taken any notice of someone talking to their dc in such a way? That it would have had a long lasting impact? I really don't.

Exactly @FrancisCrawford remember the old adage that it takes a village to raise a child 😀
There were signs at the luggage belt telling parents to ensure kids were kept away from the belts, but Cressida and Tarquin obviously didn't believe that rule applied to their precious moppets. I'm sure all 300 fellow passengers were hoping that the luggage belt would transport the kids away.....
I'm sure if little Gustav's fingers had been ripped off by aforementioned machinery there would have been a cheer from the crowd the parents would have been the very first to complain. Fucking entitled arseholes.

If people don’t speak out when there are issues then the crap parenting and out of control behaviour continues and will continue to impact negatively on other people.

Well said. You can always do so in a polite manner and observe others might be less polite (probably true). Worth noting that you are in a way helping the children as well.

Ignore the people deliberately being arseholes

I'm not sure they can help it @SoapOnARoap , I think it's just the way they are.

Your posts are pretty telling Queen. You sound quite nasty.

How old are your children btw?

No excuse @GreatDuckCookery. The vast majority of kids are well behaved and follow instructions from adults, thank God. Don't be an apologist for ineffective parenting. As I said earlier,it's not the fault of the kids - they deserve better than that.

Really @GreatDuckCookery? 😂 I'm loving how randoms on the internet come out with stuff like that.......three posts and you've got someone's personality sussed. Cracker 😉

You had a snippet of their life. You don't know that they are "shit parents" from observing them in that short space of time.
You come across as pretty aggressive in your posts Queen and like you look for any excuse to tell other people's children off.

How old are your dc?