to be annoyed by people who let their kids run round supermarkets 'playing'

[ProperLavs]

Actually screaming and running into people.
I had an interesting 'conversation' with a woman when i muttered for someone to stop them screaming and running around. This woman, who didn't actually have anything to do with the kids, who were roughly 4 and 2, told me they were only playing.

I told her it was a very busy supermarket and they shouldn't be playing here
She then muttered about some people having to take their children shopping. I told her I had had to take all of mine (6 under 8) and no they were't ever allowed to run round screaming whilst I ignored them.
Wtf is wrong with people?

Years ago a colleague was proudly telling how on her son being asked to stop kicking the seat in front on a flight, she berated the complainer for travelling with a travel company that catered for families as children do kick seats.

Most people in the room were

I'd have told you to wind your neck in had you spoke to me like that
Interesting the people who dislike anyone commenting on badly behaved and disruptive children and would be rude to someone are also the ones who allow poor behaviour and poor attitude.

(And then people wonder why on some school threads teachers let off steam about Mrs Blogs who has told her child they don't have to do x y z, or that they can argue back, or that teachers shouldn't have kept them in for talking, or that it's not their fault their precious DC was being disruptive because the teacher should have planned a lesson to suit their child. If you ever see teachers on MN complaining about supportive parnets who allow children to behave how they like, this thread shows thr sort of thing we mean. Thankfully, it's a minority)

ah the bloody seat kickers. There great duck that's another example of antisocial behaviour for you. What you do is tell them to stop.

I didn't ask how many children Queen has, I asked how old they are.

*MN complaining about UNsupportive parents even

Where do these entitled parents come from? @LongSummerDays?
@GreatDuckCookery it's irrelevant how old my kids are, why do you want to know anyway? It's got nothing to do with the discussion 😉 again, your posts show apologist attitude to bad behaviour. And I totally don't get why you are so annoyed f your own kids would never have behaved like that? I'd never have to pull them (or you!) up in public, would I? 😀

Yes the dreaded seat kickers. I've had a few of them in my time. There's a way of speaking to the parents in asking them to get their children to stop it. It has worked every time for me.

Just wondered if you actually had any children if I'm honest Queen that's all.

Really @GreatDuckCookery? Do tell. I'll add it to my teacher toolkit.
Thinks GreatDuckCookery might actually be Cressida

You come across as pretty aggressive in your posts Queen and like you look for any excuse to tell other people's children off.

I'm not seeing that at all.

I think the truth of it is that some people will be having a shit day/feel rubbish and may let some behaviour slip that they wouldn't normally. Other people live in their own little world and really don't give a shit about anyone else around them.

What makes you think I don't have kids @GreatDuckCookery? And how is it relevant to this post and discussion? Please expand and explain. Am interested really I am.

having a shit day is no reason for letting your kids behave badly.

I just think the airport brings out the worst in us. It's bloody stressful at times, we can all be tired and grumpy. I would like to think I'd cut people with children that are also tired and grumpy a bit of slack.

Every single parent on this thread will have had times where they were stressed and tired where their dc didn't behave perfectly but hopefully they weren't dressed down in public and made to feel like twats.

On that note I've got to go and do stuff now so cheerio!

And then people wonder why on some school threads teachers let off steam about Mrs Blogs who has told her child they don't have to do x y z, or that they can argue back, or that teachers shouldn't have kept them in for talking, or that it's not their fault their precious DC was being disruptive because the teacher should have planned a lesson to suit their child. If you ever see teachers on MN complaining about supportive parnets who allow children to behave how they like, this thread shows thr sort of thing we mean.

Absolutely. When a 10 year old child told me to fuck off last year, the parents asked me what I had done to upset him. When I told them that I had asked him to sit down and stop flicking another child on the ear, they both laughed and the mum told me that 'boys will be boys'. Then they told me that I wasn't supporting his individuality enough and that he was 'just a bit of a free spirit'. Luckily my Head took a different view.

Thanks for the support @FrancisCrawford
I'll never know how to discipline other people's kids in a polite and gentle way now. Pity 😉

No matter how stressed and tired you are it is a pretty shit parent who lets things become so lax their child risks hurting themselves or others.

Tired and stressed means give them the tablet to watch peppa for longer than normal or buy and extra bag of crisps not letting them run riot in a dangerous place

having a shit day is no reason for letting your kids behave badly.

No, you're right ProperLavs but I think most of us have had days when we haven't felt like parent of the year. My point was that, although this may not be great, it's different from those who consistently and genuinely don't give a shit about how their children's behaviour impacts on other people. I think it's different anyway.

There's never a reason to let your children behave badly. I always think that if parents are happy to let them behave like that in public goodness knows how they behave at home.

Teachers can try their best with them at school but it doesn't over ride poor parenting.

I think you can spot crap parenting. It's never the parents who are trying their best to control children.

I shouted at a boy in a playpark once who was trying to push DS off the edge of a slide platform. His mother/grandmother/nanny just said (and I swear this is the exact quote) "oh, he does that"
She didn't even attempt to tell him off or take him home. The child will be ruined before he's older and it won't be his fault.