to be annoyed by people who let their kids run round supermarkets 'playing'

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Actually screaming and running into people.
I had an interesting 'conversation' with a woman when i muttered for someone to stop them screaming and running around. This woman, who didn't actually have anything to do with the kids, who were roughly 4 and 2, told me they were only playing.

I told her it was a very busy supermarket and they shouldn't be playing here
She then muttered about some people having to take their children shopping. I told her I had had to take all of mine (6 under 8) and no they were't ever allowed to run round screaming whilst I ignored them.
Wtf is wrong with people?

I was in a shop that rhymes with shmalfords for 20 minutes today. 19 of those 20 minutes was spent being tortured by a boy and girl (aged approx 6 and 4) honking some obscenely loud horns constantly, running into people, and screaming at each other from across the shop.

The only time their mum/guardian got involved was when the 4 year old ran out of the shop towards a very busy road, then she went straight back to ignoring them while they ran riot.

All the staff looked visibly relieved when they left. My ears were actually ringing. I definitely had my judgy pants on.

DS1 plays up sometimes, and occasionally he'll have a tantrum in public, but you can bet I'll at least be trying to calm him down and get him to behave appropriately.

I wouldn't describe any child as a brat, but it was clear they had no boundaries.

There is a complete lack of empathy here . Very negative .

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Yes. It shows complete lack of empathy when some parents allow their children to treat supermarkets like playgrounds. It shows complete lack of empathy when they allow their children to disrupt other people shopping by scooting around on heelies and causing am obstruction to others. You're right, there's a total lack kf empathy when people allow their children to shout and scream and charge around shops.

But somehow I'm not sure that was your angle.

Parents should control their children in supermarkets, one of my patients came in recently with a large leg wound where a child with a trolley crashed into her, this turned into a leg ulcer, became very smelly and took months to heal.
The elderly should feel safe in shops and when they go out not have to dodge unruly children.
There is a time and a place for uncontrolled running around and the supermarket is not it.

On a recent return from holiday I was waiting at the luggage belt for my suitcase. Cressida and Tarquin were next to me with their tousled haired moppets, who were sticking their fingers on the moving belt, attempting to sit on it, grabbing people's trolleys as they overbalanced and generally getting in the way. C and T gave feeble "don't do that darling, mummy's had to tell you twice now" type ineffective rebukes. There were a few raised eyebrows from fellow passengers as this went on for fifteen minutes or more (luggage took fucking ages to arrive 😱) I was knackered and it really started to bug me as they caused havoc in the crowded area. Eventually I lost my shit and said in my teacher's voice "your mum has now told you fifteen times not to do that, I usually only give one warning so here it is. Stand still by your parents and stop annoying others or I'm going to call a security guard." I turned to the parents and said "this is why some kids come to school and canny behave themselves or take instructions from adults the first time they're asked. It's a public place and they have to respect the space they share with others." I got a round of applause from the gathered crowd and the kids never moved a muscle after that. It's not the kids who are the problem, it's their fucking arsehole parents who fail to provide the parameters that kids need to become decent members of society.

I find this thread utterly depressing and downright horrible.

People need food.
My kids individually are great in supermarkets. Helpful and listen. Put them together and they are nightmares.

They don't listen, they want to play and have fun and turn everything into a game.
They are 4 and 2. They don't have scooters.

Fuking attitude of some people. Trust me, I parent but no even more so I feel absolutely judged by complete strangers who sit back smug as anything with their perfect children.

This post is just a horrible way to judge other parents.

They may want to play and have fun but I would hope that playing and having fun doesn’t involve running in a supermarket! If it does then yes I will judge the adult with them who lets them.

Read some of the injuries caused by people being knocked over by running children!

Not for lack of trying. Trust me. But it's hard in supermarkets to get my kids to stop and pay attention.

So what you'll see is kids running, me parenting. Them stopping. 5 minutes later and we do it all over again.

My kids are preschool, we still have to eat and I avoid going with both as much as possible but when I do have to, I would rather not be judged by rude strangers who then feel the need to come on MN and call my children brats.

Nope sorry your job is to stop them running. Put the two year old in the trolley seat. Make the 4 year old hold the trolley or push it with you, use a little life type backpack but don’t let them risk injuring other shoppers

I missed the post about allowing their children to swing on and climb the poles on the underground. To that poster, why is that even ok in your mind? Acceptable for your children to do? Seemingly you don't have any limits at all until either somebody 'official' stops you - heaven forbid - one of your children has a nasty accident or causes on to somebody else.

Ditto to the parent who allows their child to 'scoot' in a supermarket. What is wrong with you?

I would not want to be or even know a parent that has so little regard and consideration for other people, it's pathetic and you will be sorry when your children that you are so indulgent about now, turn into selfish, entitled older children and adults that nobody wants to be around.

So many perfect parents with perfect children here.

This is an awful thread.

Bring back reins
A child set off the fire extinguisher in our local supermarket last week. Had been told by sales assistants not to touch....parent nowhere to be seen.
Father kicked off at manager for telling his child off. He is now banned.

Well turn that around the other way - "So many awful parents with children who deserve to learn better boundaries so they can be happier children themselves".

It is an awful thread as there seem to be an awful lot of those pseudo-parents about.

My kids are not perfect but they are NOT allowed to behave in ways that impact other people - EVER. It's not that hard to think of other people and be cognisant of them and their right to be in the same public space, is it?

I smiled at a poster ^ describing the game she plays with her child about 'magic boots'. No impact to other people because SHE is aware of them and they don't play this if there is an impact to them^. That's pretty cool parenting, in my book.

Please don't tell me how to parent my kids.

My two year old won't sit in a trolley, he will climb out and stand on the seat which is dangerous.

They're bloody kids and it's not for lack of parenting. People like you are the reason I come home in a state and feel shit about myself.

And people like you are the reason people end up in hospital with broken hips, infected wounds etc!

Oh god Its a nightmare isn't it.

I'm sorry but it's just too dangerous to let kids run riot everywhere. It's not ok to have your kids run about potentially cause elderly or disabled people to fall or hurt themselves then play the victim cos everyone's judging you

Bikes scooters a s rollerskates are not meant for walking round supermarkets. That's not judgemental.its bloody obvious I thought are people seriously pissed off that others expect their children to not turn some where into a deathdrap?

Selfish behaviour. And very modern. This didnt happen so much when we were kids. You stood still in queues you behaved in shops and sat your arse down on the bus.

Shop online, cookiesandchocolate, better for you, better for your child and - absolutely better for everybody else who doesn't want to be impacted by your child's behaviour.

Your choice; either child behaves and sits in the trolley or doesn't get to go. 2 is a tough age, without a doubt, but they have to learn whilst we can still hoick them out of danger - to themselves or others.

And somehow the same people who let their kids run off miles ahead and play hide and seek around the displays and let them poke the produce seem to be the same ones who are against reins

Well said MaisyPops!

To all those posters complaining about the lack of empathy and people being judgemental, please just stop for a moment and think about AuditQueen's 80 year old father who is in hospital having been mown down by a badly behaved child in a supermarket. Think about his pain and suffering NOT your own self esteem.

I still can't get over the story of the nice old lady who died after being knocked over by children on roller skates. Awful

QueenoftheSilverDollar12 well done, I wold have applauded you too!I find it interesting that the people who don't like this thread are the ones who can't control their kids.
cookie tie your child into the trolley, it's not hard. I can't stand it that people make endless excuses for not being able to control their kids as if no one else has the problems they do.
Other people have kids that stand up in trollies too you know, I had at least one that did that. I bought a strap to clip round him and the seat. You can do the same or you can carry on moaning about how nasty people are just because you can't be bothered to find solutions to your child's behaviour issues.

Yanbu my children are 3&5 and aren't allowed to run around in the supermarket , I do tell them it's not a playground and they need to be quiet and look for other people. I get mine involved in getting shopping as well they love finding the beans or carrots to put in the trolley

Can't say it's some thing that really bothers me. They're not my kids. Not my problem. I focus on shopping rather than other people's parenting.

If children are given half a chance, they'll run, shout, play and loon around; they're kids, that's what they do.

The issue here is that parents are doing the whole hands-off parenting thing and letting their kids think it's okay to behave poorly. Poor parenting, not 'badly behaved' kids.

I'm assuming the kids were not actually called cressida and tarquin? Pretty sneery post