Work colleague commenting on my food

[LisaDav]

Hi all,

I've worked at my current job for around 4 years, and I enjoy what I do.

This past year, I've avoided eating in the staff kitchen area because of this one woman. She wonders around the office most of the time, and I'll be quietly sitting at a table eating what I want for lunch, almost every time she comments on what I'm eating. Whether it's a meal deal from Sainsbury's, or a McDonald's (I work in the city centre, so loads of food places) and she comments negatively on my food each time. It gets to the point where I just eat my food at my desk.

One time, I was unwell for 3 days and my first day back at work, I wasn't feeling anything heavy. So I went to the shop and got some bread to have toast for lunch as that was the only thing I could keep down. She walks in and comments "oh that's not very nutritious" and gives me a lecture about my eating habits.

Today, I snapped! I had a salad for my lunch and decided to eat in the kitchen, in again she wonders 'that's more like what you should be eating' I told her she needs to stop commenting and she took this to HR to report me.

So my AIBU question is, after all this time of her commenting on what I'm having for lunch, AIBU to tell her not to comment such negative things?

I'm concerned this will be a full complaint against me, because I was quite snappy (but didn't say anything horrible)

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@lastnamefirstfirstnamelast Perhaps a wry look at his knob area and a comment of "Well YOU certainly don't need big knickers" would have been appropriate?

hahaha yes counterAthurs, I would have but i was stuck for words....

He'd just have taken it as meaning he wasn't overweight I should think!

Or he'd have put in a complaint.

Glad it worked out for you OP. She sounds like the classic critical person who can't take any criticism in return.

I keep getting fat shamed by a colleague, who is at least 2/3 sizes larger than me. I regularly have salads, fruit etc. I exercise 2/3 times a week. She constantly criticises what I eat/drink, only last week, when there was lots of cakes/crisps/biscuits at work, she was stuffing herself silly, I had one cake, caught her looking at me, I said oh I'm doing really well on my diet, lost 1/2 a stone. she says well you'll put it back on eating that!

Please log any other comments she makes and counter complain about her if she continues to behave in this way.

They mentioned I should watch my tone on how I say things in future

Translate: next time tackle the persons behaviour sooner rather than waiting until you are at the end of your teather

Good to hear the saga is over op, maybe celebrate by bringing a nice big slab of cake in tomorrow and eat it in full view of the woman.

@lou1221

Thats awful! What a vile cretin, people like her keep the fit. i dont want to end up like them

A recent colleague, now thankfully departed, used to comment on my food, not in a negative way, just comment "Oh, you've got x I see, did you buy it at Supermarket Y?" (It's Supermarket Y's own brand, Sherlock) and afterwards, "Did you enjoy your x?" (No, I hate it, because I hate myself, so I deliberately eat things I don't like - I did actually say that to him one time but he just laughed). For a bit of variety it was "You always have x, don't you?" (No, yesterday I had z, actually, and you said exactly the same thing about it.) Got to the stage where I started to hide the packet at the bottom of the dustbin so he couldn't glance over and see what I'd had.

I didn't kill him, honestly, he left of his own accord - not, apparently, because of me being snippy, which he seemed not to have even noticed.

I would be putting in a complaint anyway, it will be interesting to see if this woman stops her comments now.

Sorry to raise this subjecy but I've just had this while the butty van arrived! An over-weight male colleague commented -"oooh you'll regret that". ConsideringI was ravenous from my pre-work gym session I was just not in the mood.