Work colleague commenting on my food

[LisaDav]

Hi all,

I've worked at my current job for around 4 years, and I enjoy what I do.

This past year, I've avoided eating in the staff kitchen area because of this one woman. She wonders around the office most of the time, and I'll be quietly sitting at a table eating what I want for lunch, almost every time she comments on what I'm eating. Whether it's a meal deal from Sainsbury's, or a McDonald's (I work in the city centre, so loads of food places) and she comments negatively on my food each time. It gets to the point where I just eat my food at my desk.

One time, I was unwell for 3 days and my first day back at work, I wasn't feeling anything heavy. So I went to the shop and got some bread to have toast for lunch as that was the only thing I could keep down. She walks in and comments "oh that's not very nutritious" and gives me a lecture about my eating habits.

Today, I snapped! I had a salad for my lunch and decided to eat in the kitchen, in again she wonders 'that's more like what you should be eating' I told her she needs to stop commenting and she took this to HR to report me.

So my AIBU question is, after all this time of her commenting on what I'm having for lunch, AIBU to tell her not to comment such negative things?

I'm concerned this will be a full complaint against me, because I was quite snappy (but didn't say anything horrible)

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OMD I hope HR tell her to stop being so nosey!

Dying to find out what HR say. YANBU, LisaDav.

Wow she's lucky you didn't complain about her first.

I would make a formal complaint about her. She was the one who brought HR into it, so now you continue on from what she’s started.

Seriously though, she's the one that should be reported. I dont think you have much to worry about.

How ridiculous and rude. I can’t believe she’d report YOU.

I have a colleague who does this. Drives me completely batty, it's absolutely none of their business what I choose to eat for lunch!

I'm just waiting to hear what hr said.

Ask your colleague what business it is of theirs what you have for lunch. Until people say something or do something those who do this will just continue to annoy and make others uncomfortable.

God what an arse! I really hope Human Remains managed to see this for what it really is!

Human Remains

Was hoping there would be an update. You can’t still be with HR.

Your colleague sounds nuts. I would have said something a lot sooner.

Human remains flumpy? 😂

She sounds like a right cow. Hope your meeting went okay.

I think YOU should have reported HER. Cheeky fucker, telling you what to eat. She sounds an interfering bitch.

I love your comeback.

Ugh, hope HR tell her to wind her neck in and were just checking you're Ok.

Are you ok?

I agree with going to HR even though it's a trivial matter. You shouldn't feel you can't eat in the staff kitchen and she shouldn't be commenting on what other people eat. She sounds a real pain in the neck and thick skinned.

It's about time someone told her! I hate eating if someone is looking disapprovingly at the food.

I have a lady like this in my office! If she doesnt like the look of whatever you're eating, she sems to feel obliged to comment on it, accompanied by very juvenile expressions of disgust;

"Ewww, that looks horrible>"
"Ugh, that stinks"
"Urrr, that doesnt look nice at all!"

Eventually i got so fed up with her rudeness, I stared at her silently for about 15 seconds and then used my most patronising tone to tell her that we don't make rude remarks about other people's food in this deprtment, because we are all grown-ups. Didnt go down well and she did grumble to my line manager aobut me, but he agreed with me that her constant comments were unacceptable.

She sounds like a drama queen, hope all went okay with HR !

Hope it got sorted - I cannot imagine why she thought it was in any way justofied to report you. Hurt ego i suppose.

How did the meeting go?
She's got a nerve and it's got nothing to do with her what you eat, I hate people who think they can constantly comment on food.
Well don't for lasting so long, I don't blame you for snapping! X

Update please OP! How was the meeting?