To ask if I look ok?

[LSE27]

Feeling a bit shit about myself...

You have:
Gorgeous even toned smooth skin.
Nice boobs that look great in your well chosen bikini.
A nice smoothly muscled stomach.
An elegant neck.
Graceful arms.
No cellulite.
No weird belly button
No batwings.

You look lovely over all.

I'm a bit envious.

Try to stop over analysing your appearance and enjoy your holiday.

@MarthaArthur

Thank you.

Op you are beautiful. No one is forcing people to comment on this thread so the horrible comments are particularly unfair.

People suffer all kinds of problems with mental health and low self esteme is being recognised as one of them. So I firmly believe talking about your worries in the open is better than bottling it up jhst because people want an excuse to be nasty and kick you when you are down.

OP, do you want honest answers or ego boosting ones?

I'll give you an honest one. We can only see your waist and the camera angle you've chosen is probably the worst possible angle you could have gone for. Makes you look bigger than you probably are.
Apart from that, you look like an average woman on holiday. If you're having trouble getting a relationship, your body isn't the reason.

MarthaArthur

‘If you’re asexual why are you worrying about being single and childless?’ = ignorant.

‘Just out of curiosity, do asexual people generally still want to get married and have children then?’ = polite and respectful question.

If you can’t see the difference, I can’t help you any further.

Thank you for the reply OP. I still find the thread very weird.

Oh OP, I hear you. I didn't quite understand where you were coming from with your first post but totally get it with your updates.

"I'm fucking 44 and I feel like I'm completely failing at life. Please tell me I at least look ok in a bikini otherwise I think I might as well shoot myself”
Genuinely this is exactly what you should have said because at least it’s more honest.
I hate threads like this because they’re just fishing for complements and frankly, dull as fuck.

lostinjapan you sound ignorant. There was nothing rude about my question and ignorant is a stupid as fuck thing to say about a question.

Ignorant= not knowing something.

Asking a question= finding the answer to something you were ignorant about.

I'm not apologising because a stranger doesn't like how I phrased a simple question.

It was an irrelevant question anyway.

Oh fuck off Mari50. Seriously, just fuck off.

Bye then mari no one told you you had to stay and read and waste your time commenting.

Please tell me I at least look ok in a bikini otherwise I think I might as well shoot myself

I know that was tongue in cheek, but I think you need professional help if you are pinning your self-worth on how you look in a bikini.

You are a person first and foremost. Your (very lovely) body, is just the casing for what's inside.

Try to enjoy the rest of your holiday.

A quick google of 'asexual' (which isn't even what the OP is) suggests it means - 'a person who has no sexual feelings or desires'.

So that sort of does suggest asexual people don't do a whole heap of dating, having sex, falling in love, having children and getting married, etc.

I don’t want to derail this thread any further, so here’s a useful link if anyone wants to educate themselves on asexuality: www.whatisasexuality.com/intro/

LSE27 Did I read correctly that you envied the families with children? Also that you’ve been in therapy 10year? Also no ovaries, no partner etc.

You can become a parent without a life partner & ovaries. There’s adoption, Surrigercy (so) etc.

Explore what could enhance your life rather than post on here and be bullied by randoms.

You look great btw

Honest opinion on your figure? I am green with envy. You look amazing. Not "for your age" either, just amazing full stop. And womanly, too, might I add.

I think being intersex is not as uncommon as all that. I mean rare, but far from unheard of. Maybe about one in a thousand people, something like that, have some intersex traits.

no-one can make a comment on how a person is based on a picture of them in bra and knickers, or indeed on any picture. None of us know you personally, whether you are fun, nice, pleasant, interesting, witty, generous etc.

or you could be vain, idle, boring, self-obsessed, and dull. Hopefully not. (and hopefully this isn't fishing for the 'you look gawjus hun' reactions, because if it is you will get your arse handed to you)

it is a body. We all have one and it is the least interesting thing about any of us.

may no-one's obituary ever include the word 'beautiful' because that is not an achievement.

Being Asexual doesn't stop you dating I am Ace and I've dated.

Unless all of you are putting out on every date?

OP I know exactly how you feel, it's hard when everyone seems coupled up and you're just sort of there on the fringes. Makes you feel a bit crappy about yourself. On the up side, there's no lazy git getting under your feet, creating washing and stealing your food then having the bare faced cheek to want a shag.

Also OP, have a closer look at some of those couples on holiday - many will be studiously ignoring each other, or will be blatantly hating each other.

Being in a couple is definitely not superior or better than being single. Many people have very happy and healthy relationships, and many are bitterly unhappy. In fact in US studies, single women are consistently found to be happier than married women - the happiness chart goes 1. Married Men

1. Single Women
2. Married Women
3. Single Men

So if you are unhappy, please don't think a relationship would fix that - it probably wouldn't. Do you have friends you could holiday with if you don't like doing it alone?

Blimey YES! You look fab and nice bikini top 👍 I think it's more a case of there being plenty of shit men around rather than you having a shit personality.

You look fine. You know you look fine. This isn't the place for your kind of question.

You look fine.

Not sure what ele you wanted from this post - but, you look fine.

Wish I had the nerve to go on hols on my own, I'd love it. I think you look good, fwiw, and there's been some really good and decent advice on here, so take the good stuff on board!! Enjoy the holiday!

Confused as to why you’d post this. Body looks ok, but obviously can’t tell if you actually look good or not as can’t see your face. People can have an amazing body and an ugly face, or a pretty face an ugly body. None of that really matters though as it really depends on what you’re like as a person. No point being gorgeous but boring or annoying!

I think you need to work on your self esteem