To ask if I look ok?

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Feeling a bit shit about myself...

OP getting a sense that really you're asking why you're on your own with your lovely figure when others (maybe not with such nice figures) are in relationships. It's about being comfortable in your own skin (which if you're insecure enough to ask the question, suggests you're not).

Hope you are having a fab holiday, and not near the awful fires in Greece.

What an odd AIBU. OP, you can't seriously have expected anyone to say anything other than you look good. We all live a compliment but I'm not sure what it achieves.

Lots of people feel insecure, it's a normal thing to worry about how you look. If you are worried that you are single but not by choice then that's another matter.

So if I were you I wouldn't worry about worrying iyswim

What do you think is wrong with you, OP?

Attention-seeking, yes, but there are very specific reasons why I don't feel confident in my body

So why would you post a photo of yourself in the bear pit that is AIBU, asking if you look OK?

What would you have done, if everyone had piled in to say you looked shit? Felt better? Reassured?

It's a bit disingenuous.

Op may I ask you honestly if you are actually Asexual (as you said upthread) why are you worrying about being single and childless? Have i misunderstood you there?.

We all have insecurities. Do you want to know what i look like? Skinny stick legs on a wobbly tummy. A big round moon face with fordyce spots all over my lips. All over them so i need lipstick 24/7 to hide them as best as possible. Dermatologist said there was no treatment for mine.
I have little eurasian eyes behind huge thick glasses. A have a double chin and skinny forarms and chubby upper arms. I have bad acne and huge black circles under eyes. Im 27 and look older.

And yet i can get people to sleep with me. Just not to stay with me.

We all have our hang ups. But dont let anyone make you feel bad.

OP getting a sense that really you're asking why you're on your own with your lovely figure when others (maybe not with such nice figures) are in relationships. It's about being comfortable in your own skin (which if you're insecure enough to ask the question, suggests you're not).

Not exactly, but it does seem that the whole world is in couples and it doesn't seem to matter what flaws they have, whereas my flaws seem to make it impossible for me to meet anyone.

I certainly didn't mean to make anyone feel bad. Just feeling very envious of everyone who doesn't have to go on holiday on their own.

What do you think is wrong with you, OP?

Fuck knows. A hopeless case, probably.

The whole world isn't in couples, but the majority of people go on holiday as a couple or a family. You're seeing a small section of society on holiday. Think of all the single people sat at home who don't have the courage to go away by themselves. Also you look fab!

To ask if I look ok?

It's all subjective, innit.

In reality, the answer to this question has to be "compared to whom"?

You're not going to be invited onto the next Sports Illustrated swimsuit calendar, but on the other hand, no-one is going to cover their eyes in disgust at the sight of you.

You look fine. If you're single (and don't want to be) it's not because of your appearance.

Bloody hell I didn't look like that at 20.

You are stunning and your skin is beautiful

Op may I ask you honestly if you are actually Asexual (as you said upthread) why are you worrying about being single and childless? Have i misunderstood you there?

I said intersex, not asexual.

Ooh, I also have nice feet. Maybe it's compensation for having a face like yesterday's pizza and a body like an elderly sofa.

Seriously, OP, crack on, you look fabulous.

Sorry op I misread intersex as asexual doh!

Well bodywise you are gorgeous and i am very jealous.

@MarthaArthur the OP said she was intersex, not asexual. Wildly different things.

Sorry, x-post

And yet i can get people to sleep with me. Just not to stay with me.

Yes, me too. It sucks.

I don't like people posting pictures claiming to be them and asking for critique because it could be a picture of someone else and they're doing it for evil purposes.

I don't mind people asking if an outfit suits them but not how their face or body looks.

I wish I looked like that in a bikini

Well, I have a face like a dropped pie alligator but peculiarly my face transforms into something equine in photos (horse like). Maybe I should be grateful for that?

I don't really have a double chin until someone takes a picture of me upon which three of the fuckers unroll from nowhere. That, and the face like a smacked baby's arse

You're seeing a small section of society on holiday.

That is a very good point.

Well horses are know to be beautiful beasts rou

Op have you tried OLD not necessarily to meet the one but to give yourself a chance to chat to men and get some confidence talking to them?

Whats intersex mean?

You look fab by the way