to wish my name wouldn't always come up in the baby names threads?

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NC for this. My name always comes up in the baby names threads. Always as 'dated' or 'common' or 'chavvy' etc etc. Sick of seeing my name slagged off and I never felt down about it until mn. To the point that I have hidden the baby names threads and never read them, even though we are currently trying to think of a name for DC1. AIBU to think that we don't think of these things when we slag off other people's names on the internet? That people actually have these names?

"my name is irrelevant in this context"

Its really not since, you know, you started a whole thread ABOUT YOUR NAME

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I suppose it's the difference between 'in ny experience Xs have tended to be...' and 'all Xs are...'

Having taught, I do notice trends (e.g. Amelias are almost always very quiet, girls who seem to have lots of silent letters added to otherwise normal names tend to be quite loud and involved in endless friendship drama) but that doesn't mean I'd prejudge a child, like or dislike them because of their name.

We get to know people as people so for instance I was put off one name (a very mumsnetty name) because of the arrogance of a couple of children who had it. It's starting to be a trend I'm seeing.

I think disliking a name is nothing to do with disliking a person, one of my best friends has a name I hate but that doesn't mean I think any less of her, just that her mum has bad taste 😂

Dh is Paul Madam but yeah he was born in in 1975 i dont think i know any baby pauls

Someone off TOWIE has a baby Paul

I hate terms like chavvy, I think they reflect more on the person using them than on the people being referred to.

Agreed!

I don't agree, though, that nobody called their son William before Prince William was born. William is a classic boys' name that has never gone out of fashion. I doubt if it's ever been out of the top 100 for the last 1000 years.

My own name is not much liked here (I'm not very fond of it myself!), but so what. I'm stuck with it and I'm used to it now. My children's names are often written off as boring. My husband's name is a bit more unusual but not much used these days and sometimes laughed at. Again, so what!

Eleanor Roosevelt said No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Wise words.

I agree, I have a hyphenated name and they are hated on here. Does my head in. There's nothing wrong with it. Better than having a middle name that hardly anyone knows about.

I'm going to name change, so no one can link me to old threads, I'm going to moan and complain about a name that I'm not going to tell you what it is...

Yawn

I know what you mean OP, but I’d just ignore it. My name is also one of the hated, ridiculed names about which people say things like someone with that name is a loud fat chavvy Essex girl type, which is far from the case.

It’s part of the overt snobbishness that seems to be allowed on here and is probably the worst aspect of Mumsnet. There’s certain things that people have no shame in being openly judgy about, such as baby names, along with caravans, all inclusive holidays in places like Benidorm and harmless activities like sitting in the front garden. It just says more about them than you.

To avoid being accused of not revealing the name in question, mine is one of Sharon, Tracy, Linda, Joanne, Michelle or Elaine.

It used to get me down, because while my name was very much of it’s time, when I was at school, it was already starting to be seen as unfashionable and unpopular. But I really don't mind it now, it's my name, it hasn't stopped me getting on in life.

I don't agree, though, that nobody called their son William before Prince William was born. William is a classic boys' name that has never gone out of fashion. I doubt if it's ever been out of the top 100 for the last 1000 years.

Yes you’re probably right, my point was that it wasn’t commonly heard and then suddenly it was.

I changed the spelling of my name as a teen, to my mother’s horror. I’m sure people think it’s an affectation of hers, which is a shame, because it was entirely mine! Ironically I judge wonky spelling in others, completely forgetting I’m guilty of the same thing.

There'll always be some people who can't stand your name. Mine is always described as dull, couldn't be bothered, no imagination.

Yip Sam Faiers has a Baby Paul.....and a Big Paul

My name is boring as fuck (obviously it isn't Boring As Fuck). Am seriously considering changing it by deedpoll to something fancy.

obviously it isn't Boring As Fuck

it would be a bold choice!

My cousin is called William. He's in his early 30s so younger than Prince William, but he wasn't named after him as such. It's just one of those perpetually popular boy's names that doesn't date or go in or out of fashion.

So for a giggle I went and looked at the opinions on my name according to MN. Here are a few of my favourites

Boring and frumpy. Bit like Paula. A man's name feminised

I really like it. It sounds fractionally dated, but is a fairly classic name and is surely due a revival

Vom

It looks like a mixed bag for my name, but this is my favourite comment

I really don't know why, but I've always associated the name Stephanie with BO
Even though I've never even known a Stephanie, let alone one who had BO

Named my son a nice Irish name and the following year the film 'The Omen' was released. Years of fun. Still not forgiven

Ha ha! Spare a thought for those parents a few years back who thought that "Isis" would be an interesting and different girl's name.

Although according to that thread Stevie is an appropriate shortening of my name 🤔 Never met a Stephanie who goes by Stevie.

Never met a Stephanie who goes by Stevie

If I was a Stephanie I’d so go by Stevie like the incomparable Stevie Nicks

My daughter’s teacher just had a baby called Paul. And I know another 2 year old Paul as well. Both families are French though so maybe That’s why?

@AnkerAlt hormones!
I bet your name (which I don't want to know) is absolutely fine.
Mine has come up on here as not liked - I like it, and I'm so old that it was pretty rare at the time.
Several of the DCs names come up as being posh or horrible on here, I used to take it personally, now I'm disappointed if they don't pop up
However, in real life people have only ever commented positively.
Stop asking on here, get yourself a book, check for embarrassing acronym initials, pick what you and your partner like. Job done.

I an just baffled at the thought people put into name threads.

My name shows up as consistently ‘boring’ or ‘bit of a bitch’ - OP just stay away from those threads if they bother you.

Also, YABU for not sharing your name. And a tad ridiculous as you’re on an anonymous forum and have name changed.

PS My name has been name checked by @AfterSchoolWorry I’m not sharing coz I don’t want to name change yet and I’ve shared personal info under this name!

I'm Sarah and I swear if someone shouted it in a high street every bugger over 30 would turn round.Doesnt bother me