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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To wonder why those who aren’t mums are on mumsnet?

160 replies

Blue09 · 22/07/2018 21:52

Not that I’m against it - I’m just curious really!

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NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 24/07/2018 11:34

I didnt disagree with your commebts about nen on the sex section did i? No no i didnt!

I was commenting on why shouldnt men use the site or any site in general.

You want feminst views theres a feninist board. Tjis doesnt stop you using the rest of the site no one thinks ots weird you use the rest of the site. So you thinking that men cant use the rest of the site is weird

AlessandroVasectomi · 24/07/2018 11:42

I find the female point of view instructive and enlightening. I’ve been a lurker and sometime poster for about 5 years and it has helped me to better understand and accept my wife’s viewpoint. In some instances women really are from Venus whilst men are from Mars but what I’ve learnt from reading Mumsnet has helped me to bring the two planets closer.

Thedutchwife · 24/07/2018 11:46

shatner you don’t have to explain though do you. You choose too.

BiteyShark · 24/07/2018 11:54

I do wonder what would happen to this site if all us non-mums left. After all they get a lot of traffic from us which mean they get paid for advertising etc. So be grateful that we are here because there are a bloody lot of us.

User183737 · 24/07/2018 15:44

Well weird is as weird does. Fair enough dont mind being called weird.
Shame women cant discuss sex without the male audience though. Doubt wonen would sit around commenting on a mans one. But you didnt disagree with that so fair play

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 27/07/2018 12:35

User183737 - I agree that it's very patronising and irritating when male posters feel the need to comment on some topics that they obviously will never understand or need to, but isn't it a good thing if some men want to read and learn more about the female side of things?

The majority of non-solo sexual acts do involve a man and a woman, so is it a bad thing if one participant has a greater understanding of the feelings, emotions, wishes, concerns of the other? Should we have a thread titled 'Why doesn't my DH care about learning what gets me off in bed' closely followed by another thread asking how dare pervy men read threads about female orgasms? [man=perv, naturally, unless it's your male loved one, of course]. Yes, there will be some pervs seeking their jollies, but they'll find a way regardless of what normal, sensible, reasonable people do or don't discuss on a public international forum.

Men clearly have no input in discussions about their own experiences with periods, but do we want to go back to the old days when they would blush and run away at the mere mention of it and it defacto became seen as an embarrassing secret that women must never mention. Now we have TV adverts, news articles and even a politician unabashedly mentioning her own menstruation in Parliament and then going on to raise the issue of period poverty.

Is it better if men think that, when the baby needs feeding, their DW just whips them out, gets it done in five minutes with no difficulty, pain, leakage, supply issues, latching problems, refusal, potential BF-shaming scenarios etc - no real difference from them just going and whipping out their chap when they need a wee - or is it a good thing if a BFing mum's DH actually understands the realities of it for her (and for the baby)?

Do a search on MN for discussions about ED, vasectomies, premature ejaculation, prostate issues etc. and you'll find loads. Should women be banned from talking about these issues that will never directly affect them, but which can and do cause very real concerns for them both as a couple - whether with practical implications for their joint 'relations' or just because people tend to, you know, care about their DP?

And as for the TTC board, surely everybody knows that, when a couple has trouble conceiving, it's never EVER down to any kind of 'fault' on the male's side....

LakieLady · 27/07/2018 12:47

Penis beaker!

A friend sent me a link to the penis beaker thread, and I discovered some others as well that had me roaring with laughter. I lurked for years though, before I actually joined.

I'm mainly here for the lolz, and I love a CF thread, especially if it involves parking.

LeighaJ · 27/07/2018 13:03

I joined a few Mum forums after finding out I was pregnant and was quite surprised at the number of people who don't have kids, aren't pregnant, or TTC that use MN.

It just never would have occurred to me to join a parenting website when not a parent.

I'm guessing many ended up here when googling for answers they found on MN.

DontCallMeCharlotte · 27/07/2018 13:14

Because a friend of mine kept linking to amusing AIBU threads on Facebook which I would read and, after resisting for years, I eventually succumbed and registered. I usually flit between AIBU/30 Days/S&B and Chat. I also suffered a bereavement recently and, whilst I didn't post about it, I found a lot of helpful posts on that thread.

I also used to be on a very similar women's site years and years ago until it got taken over by "Femail" and it turned into the hideous bitchfest that it is now.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 27/07/2018 13:32

@ShatnersWig - I don't blame you for being a bit irritable about this question - I am a mum, and even so, my first thought on seeing this thread title was "Ohh for fuck's sake, not again!!"

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