To be irritated by this childcare comment?

[QueenofmyPrinces]

I have a friend who reduced her hours at work and became part of some mainly online Weight Loss company. She now works for them and earns money by selling their products and by recruiting new woman to do the same role she does. All her work is done via FB and emails and she puts many photos on her FB page of the products she sells, the meals she cooks and ‘before and after’ photos of women who have found success through her diet powders and pills. She also puts up lots of inspirational quotes to try and paint a picture of how people’s lives could be if they joined her team.

Anyway - on to my point.

Numerous times a week she will list on her FB Page all the reasons why working from home and from her phone (as in FB and emails) is the way to go and she will make comments about how she gets to “be there” for her son when it really matters, (in relation to him being 18 months old) and how he gets to have his mummy around all the time like he should have. It always has an undertone of if mother is at home with her child it must mean she cares more for her child than a mother who goes out to work.

Today she has posted another list of why women should follow her footsteps and she has written “No packing my son off to a childminder” and it’s really pissed me off.

Maybe I’m being too sensitive because I do use a childminder but the term “packing him off” implies it’s something bad for the child and mothers are bad for doing it.

It really riled me up and I can’t help but think using statements like that is just going to piss other working women off too as opposed to luring them in and increasing her recruitment numbers which in turn leads to a pay rise.

When I read it it simply made me think that I wouldn’t want to work for such a judgemental company or woman.

Maybe she doesn’t realise how her statement could be interpreted but it’s just really annoyed me.

[RestingBitchFaced]

I would have to say something. In person though not on the Facebook page

[YouAndYourPussyCatEyes]

Your friend is fine and has been replaced with an MLM bot! They are basically told what to say in their posts as a way of boosting sales. I'd block her, it will only get worse

[YouAndYourPussyCatEyes]

Gone not fine! Stupid phone!

[NewYearNewMe18]

MLM etc becomes like a religious fervour - unfollow her - life will be so much more simple and stress free if you aren't looking at memes all day!

[AnneLovesGilbert]

She’s an MLMbot. Ignore her. She’s a delusional numpty.

[PrincessPear]

Sounds annoying, but she’s entitled to feel she’s doing the best for her son. No need to be rude about it though.

[Soubriquet]

Yep. Classic MLM bot there

Yes she doesn't send her child to a childminder anymore but she will be working 24/7 to make pennies and it actually spending the time playing with her son.


Trust me, I would rather send to a childminder, work a few hours a day and enjoy my free time, instead of trying to scrimp a wage from working all hours

[FluttershysCutieMarkTheHerald]

Don't take it personally OP it's the classic MLM sell to convince friends they are missing out. She's trying to get others to want to sell the products because that's the only way she can make enough money to justify the job.

[MalloryLaurel]

They are told to write this on social media. It's part of their sales pitch to get other suckers to join their mlm scheme, because that's how they make their money, not through their own sales as the profit margin is so low.

[PositiveVibez]

She has to post shit like that as she is now an MLM bot. It is her job first and foremost to recruit other mugs into the marketing scam.

Guilt tripping is rule 101 for an MLM bot. Ignore as she is not as successful as she is portraying. You need to pity her rather than be mad at her.

[blackbirdbluebottle]

I would say something. I hate smug mum shaming mums, why can't they all just support each other instead of shaming each other

[greendale17]

I would say something to her definitely.

[glintandglide]

To be honest she sounds really dim and I’m sure most people reading it think the same.

In reality though I would be SO tempted to reply “just packing my son off to childminder! Oh dear. Mind you, at least I have a proper job 😉”

[RailReplacementBusService]

Yes it is very annoying. But the reason she is doing it is because the main money in MLMs is from hiring others to work under them.

[Efferlunt]

They are told to make posts think this to suck other people into the scam. It’s not the product she’s selling it’s the ‘lifestyle’

[Strumpetpumpet]

YANBU and I’ve heard this from friends who work from home. The truth is, if you’re working you can’t look after a baby/toddler at the same time, whether you’re at home or not. If she’s working, she isn’t giving her child her time and attention, whereas a childminder would be.

[mintyneb]

But she's hardly 'there' for her DC anyway if she is constantly posting on social media? Can't be much interaction going on

[glintandglide]

blackbirdbluebottle is right, maybe something that appeals to her decent side like

“I’ve noticed you keep posting about how awful childcare is. I’ve supported you through your new venture and it would be nice if you could do the same by remembering some of us chose to use childcare and an established job rather than work from home selling slimming aids. As you know being a mother isn’t easy and we should all try and support each other”

Voila!!

[QueenofmyPrinces]

What’s an MLM bot?

Normally I’m not one for causing ripples but I really do want to say something to her because I find it really offensive.

She does make out she’s earning good money though and posting photos of other womem who work for the company who have bought flash cars and holidays with the money the job has provided.

I will admit I do often wonder how much quality time she spends with her son as she’s always posting to say her inboxes are buzzing and that her phone is on fire. She gives the impression that the majority of her day is actually spent focused on being on her phone and sorting out sales.

I don’t know what to make of it really.

She really is a lovely woman, probably one of the nicest people I know, but her comment has really rubbed me up the wrong way.

[FrancesHaHa]

This seems to be really common with people doing MLM. Seems basically a way to justify why they are essentially part of a pyramid scheme. It's a sales pitch as they're trying to get other women recruited.

[ZenNudist]

Unfollow and tell her why

[glintandglide]

Sorting out sales of diet drink? What do they cost like £5 each? Hardly wolf of Wall Street is she? Bless I feel a bit sorry for people like this. So uncomfortable in their own skin. I remember being like this but was a lot younger and not achieving so much in my career

[QueenofmyPrinces]

Some of the ‘before and after’ shots she posts are horrifying as the after shots show the woman looking dangerously thin (in my opinion anyway).

I’m not sure I believe 75% of the photos anyway because I just can’t believe the women are losing weight at the speed she is reporting they are. But if the photos are correct then it worries me how dangerous these products must be (for want of a better word).

[Tatiebee]

In reality I bet she has none t when she wishes she was going out to work and "packing her son off to a childminder", it's just she only posts the positives to try and persuade other gullible fools to join her MLM and she can make money off them. I've unfriended so many people posting similar stuff, I suggest you do the same.

[QueenofmyPrinces]

I’m off to try and find an example of the photos she posts....