To be irritated by this childcare comment?

[QueenofmyPrinces]

I have a friend who reduced her hours at work and became part of some mainly online Weight Loss company. She now works for them and earns money by selling their products and by recruiting new woman to do the same role she does. All her work is done via FB and emails and she puts many photos on her FB page of the products she sells, the meals she cooks and ‘before and after’ photos of women who have found success through her diet powders and pills. She also puts up lots of inspirational quotes to try and paint a picture of how people’s lives could be if they joined her team.

Anyway - on to my point.

Numerous times a week she will list on her FB Page all the reasons why working from home and from her phone (as in FB and emails) is the way to go and she will make comments about how she gets to “be there” for her son when it really matters, (in relation to him being 18 months old) and how he gets to have his mummy around all the time like he should have. It always has an undertone of if mother is at home with her child it must mean she cares more for her child than a mother who goes out to work.

Today she has posted another list of why women should follow her footsteps and she has written “No packing my son off to a childminder” and it’s really pissed me off.

Maybe I’m being too sensitive because I do use a childminder but the term “packing him off” implies it’s something bad for the child and mothers are bad for doing it.

It really riled me up and I can’t help but think using statements like that is just going to piss other working women off too as opposed to luring them in and increasing her recruitment numbers which in turn leads to a pay rise.

When I read it it simply made me think that I wouldn’t want to work for such a judgemental company or woman.

Maybe she doesn’t realise how her statement could be interpreted but it’s just really annoyed me.

[3stonedown]

I would loved to have known how she explained that away....

I would have been:

"Hey hun, OMG It's so bloody annoying some people have been going round stealing our images and saying it's theirs. SO out of order they are just jealous of my business. I'm getting a solicitor involved babes. Anyway, did you want to try my products. They are so good hunni"

[QueenofmyPrinces]

She did actually post one before/after photo where a woman appeared to go from a size 18 to a size 6 in a month and a person commented and said, “I’ve just seen this image on someone else’s FB Page and they said she lost the weight in 3 months, not a month like you’re claiming?”

My friend replied with “I’ll message you Hun.”

I would loved to have known how she explained that away....

[Sleepyandtired21]

A lot of pictures companies use as before/afters are stolen. I saw someone using a well known fitness blogger’s pictures and claiming it was using the programme - 1. The weight was lost over a year not two weeks like stated 2. The blogger in question also had a serious eating disorder. When I challenged the hun she had no idea. I used to sell Avon but I was shit at it, at least that’s fairly cheap and harmless!

[QueenofmyPrinces]

That sounds familiar actually, she probably has said that at some point.

The impression I get is that she had to reduce her hours at work because of childcare costs and so now she’s now trying to ‘top up’ her wage by working for this company.

[IrianOfW]

Ooh wait for the 'I didn't have children just to leave them with a stranger' line. That's always nice and reassuring

[QueenofmyPrinces]

By the way - some of these suggestions about what comments I should leave on her FB Page are hilarious!!!!

I did leave a sarcastic comment on one of her statuses the other day though and it felt good

[QueenofmyPrinces]

On her days in her real job her son is looked after by her family.

She and her DH and son have recently come back from a holiday and she’s told everyone (via her FB) that it’s her business that has paid for it and without having her business there so much she wouldn’t be able to do. Followed by inspirational quotes about how she wants to be the best mum to her son that she can be and give him opportunities she couldn’t otherwise afford.

[Candelabra75]

As others have said, it's just what these online companies tell you to say - they want to recruit more mums so they try and make out that it's an amazing job for women who get to "have it all". Isn't it obvious that mums are a pretty vulnerable group of workers, trying to find that elusive job that doesn't leave you skint and exhausted - and they are basically being exploited by these companies. If the job was so bloody fantastic, there'd be unemployed graduates queuing up to get in on the action. I've yet to meet a successful person in one of these businesses who hasn't alienated friends and acquaintances. They are the women people hide from and avoid. It might help if you see your friend as a victim in this whole situation rather than the aggressor.
As a mum and a childminder I have to tell you that the quality of your relationship with your child has absolutely nothing to do with how much time you spend with them, but whether you're available when you're actually with them. The child that is truly deprived is the child whose mum is never really there for them, because she's obsessed with posting inane shit on Facebook and checking her phone a thousand times a day. At the childminder (hopefully!) your child gets to be loved and listened to, stimulated and to share experiences with other children. Children don't need their mum 24/7 - their lives are enriched by sharing and learning with other children and adults in a safe environment.

[Tanith]

You’d think they’d vary the script by now!

“Eeeeek!”
“My phone’s on fire!”
“My inbox is overflowing!”
“I’m so excited by this latest product!” (that invariably makes her look 10 years older with 2 black eyes).
“Haters gonna hate!”
“Hun”
“Fake it till you make it!”

What they are actually doing is ripping off their friends and family to make a couple of charlatans in the US obscenely rich.

[Slartybartfast]

agree working from home with children must be a nightmare.

[Storm4star]

Once you read the blog OP, everything will become clear! I only read it a few days ago when someone else posted a link, and it talks about everything you describe. Even the thing of calling everyone "hun". It was really interesting.

[SharpLily]

Post a link to Elle Beau's blog on every one of her 'business' posts. I have lost any respect I had for anyone sucked into this bs.

[DarkDarkNight]

I don’t think she’s having a dig at you necessarily, just desperately trying to recruit people to her MLM.

Block or delete her, I can’t bear these constant bombardments from ‘friends’ it’s taking advantage, she should have a separate business page.

[gottastopeatingchocolate]

You say she has reduced her hours at work to do the MLM "business" - does she use a childminder while at her regular job??

Next time she posts that her phone is on fire, I'd be tempted to respond "Yeah - cheap chargers can do that!"

[sweettutu]

I WFH one day a week.... and on that day my nanny still comes! You can't "work" and do childcare. They are utterly mutually incompatible. This woman is a bellend. Pity her and her shitty mlm.

[aperolspritzplease]

She's been brainwashed. Just ignore her, they're all following a script.

[sprinklesandsauce]

As numerous people have said, it's because of the MLM. They are brainwashed to post this stuff so that you read it and immediately sign up so you too can have this wonderful life that they have. I had one who messaged me after I posted about saving for a holiday. Funnily enough her business only lasted a few months.... (FL).

Don't take it to heart, just hide her posts and thank your lucky stars that you have a decent job and are not gullible enough to be sucked into a MLM like your friend.

[Boulty]

We all have different opinions of childcare. Most of us work and dependent on the standard of childcare and the hours said child is in someone else's care makes a huge difference. Some children do 'appear' to be packed off to childcare... eg dropped off in pj's barely awake at 6 am and picked up 6 pm 5 days a week. Others flex time if they can or shift work or work around partners to cover time with their children and also use childcare. Each to their own and she is entitled to her opinions.

That said she is promoting working from home and the more parents she recruits to join her way of working the more she earns - so she is hardly going to promote 'going out to work' and leaving children with minders etc..

[slovenlys]

Post something like this on her wall, along with a caption

'Careful hun. It's so easy to spend too much time on that overflowing inbox'

[mindutopia]

Honestly, I can’t imagine a worse situation for a child than being at home with little interaction with other children and a mum glued to her phone all day!

I largely work from home (though none of this MLM bs, I have a PhD and a real job) and mine have always gone to nursery on my work days. I don’t want them to grow up learning it’s fine to ignore someone for a screen, but if I need to work, I need to use my computer and while I do, they can go have fun somewhere else with someone who can devote their full time and attention to them.

The MLM thing is all just posturing and smoke and mirrors. I don’t have a single friend who does it who has time for family and isn’t just slaving away working another full time job on top and miserable, despite all the crap on social media.

[LOliver123]

She is probably never of her phone and probably spends very little quality time with her child. I work from home , but I put my child in childcare as I would be neglecting him whilst trying to work at the same time!

[BadgersBum]

I would bet a gold coin against a pinch of shit that she will be very quick to 'pack her child off' as soon as those free childcare hours kick in! I have a few friends on FB selling make up, apparently selling it and applying it in front of an audience every day could change my life.

[glintandglide]

"Girl, you can't "pack of your child" because you can't afford to. Just Saying"


Wahhhh brilliant

[Jebbs]

Agree with all the other ladies suggesting the Elle Beau blog. Came across it a while ago and can't recomment enough.

[hibeat]

"Girl, you can't "pack of your child" because you can't afford to. Just Saying"
I would "Next" the girl like a certain real housewife. She is rude. Is she selling anything ? Like actually ?