D-this, D-that, D-the other?

[OnThisHill]

Am I the only one who finds
D-this and D-that really confusing?

There are so, so many Ds that threads (certainly on here) are so hard to follow.
What's wrong with husband, daughter, wife, mother etc etc?

I mean? Sometimes, it's not even a 'dear' someone a person is talking about. It's even got to the point where it's 'D-ex Husband' or 'D-Mother I would not cross the road to spit on'.

So, apart from the 'D' not always (or even usually) being true, it makes threads so very hard to follow.

Or, is it just DM?

Its how it is. You're entitled to not like it but it isn't going to change.

I thought it stood for 'darling'.You learn something new everyday.

There have been circumstances for me where Ddog was the only thing actually dear to me 😀

I thought for a long time it was STupid Bastard Ex Husband. Generally fits.

I like DCat and DDog because they'r sort of cuddly. Wouldn't think much to DSpider, DSnake, DRat.
As an aside, when you do class surveys on pets, there is always someone with a spider or a snake. Fact.

YABU

ODFOD

I agree with you @OnThisHill! I joined thinking it was a good place to chat and for advice but have found its crawling with passive aggressive keyboard warriors! Although to be fair there are some lovely posters on here.

I just find the whole thing hilarious.

I think that STBXH is fair enough-but the others easy enough to type imo.

Especially when "DH" is being posted about as anything but!

Shouldn't it be STBEH?

Just a thought but how do you get an emoji, italics or bold onto a post. I know it will be obvious but I'm buggered if I can work it out (smiley face)

Scroll down past this Add your message here part.

Whole list of emojis and how to do them

[Smile]

Smile was a fail I note.

Morning all

Thanks, lots of interesting replies and of all different views (as you would expect on a site of hundreds of thousands).

In no way did I insult anyone, (bitches? no) and I do find it awful that some of you seem to be either faux offended or just plain rude to what you call 'a new poster', effectively telling me to jog on. Happy to ignore those though, none of you own this site, nor the internet. And yes, I know what ODFOD means, I'm that down with you kids!

I remember the days when you could only use so many characters in a post too and so many texts in a bundle.

Anyway, I do find the D this etc quite derailing. In some cases it does make the posts really hard to follow, mostly I soldier on though! FWIW (!) I do find MN mostly fun and really informative, but definitely a place to lurk where newbies are often just totally ignored or worse. That wasn't the point of my post though and apologies if anyone truly felt offended.

Thanks all, have a good day everyone!

{smile} nope

Leesa65 , I just don't get it and I am not a stupid woman although some may beg to differ

I like STBXH because if you just wrote husband, technically true, you'd confuse people as to why your husband had a girlfriend. For example. It normally conveys the poster is in the horrible, recently-split phase.

I don't think DS should be used for anything other than son though. I start to read a thread about DS never visiting the OP's parents and then finally twig it's the sister. Same with DF - should be dad, not friend.

It only confuses me when OPs use them wrong. When someone used DF as friend or DS as sister and I read the thread like... why is your dad bitching about you and your son stealing your clothes??

People use DSis for sister, though with the caps/lower case change in the middle I think sister is easier to type.

You are not being unreasonable.

People just love to be part of a clique and this is a great example of that."Look at us all talking in our own language, we're so quirky."

It's very immature.

I doubt that's the issue. People bring internet forum speak with them from other fora they have posted on and it gets established. 'D' this and that is on several fora. TL;DR is a new addition to MN from goodness knows where. It seems to have settled in.

People text using recognised abbreviations too - some people all the time, annoyingly, but not everyone all the time. In a hurry I personally will abbreviate you to 'u' if texting my youngest DD. 'Please' turns into 'pls'. I draw a line at that though. I don't do it to be down with the youf, or to appear fun or cool - I wouldn't have any hope of swinging that past DD - but just to save time. Some conversations, for instance on lost keys or furballs discovered on the couch when DD returns from school and I am at work, need to be accomplished fast.

You really don't need to explain or justify. Efficiency should always be embraced.

The point was that the abbreviations used on mumsnet, for whatever reason that may be, are hard for some dare I say it younger people to connect with as amongst our peers it is frowned upon and was made redundant with the introduction of qwerty and predictive text.

It feels dated.

Even though I know what STBXH means I always think of it as 'Stupid Bastard Ex'

I pretty much agree with you, OP.

I really only use DD and DH and it took me a couple of years to start using those. I still don't always.

Ddog, Dcat, Dhamster, Dfish etc. do irk me and look ridiculous. I have two dogs, and until recently used to have a cat. I only write about them as dog(s) or cat.

I never abbreviate!

Better than all the hubby, bubs, could of, writing a huge post without paragraphs and punctuation, I guess.

What's this 'introduction of qwerty'?