D-this, D-that, D-the other?

[OnThisHill]

Am I the only one who finds
D-this and D-that really confusing?

There are so, so many Ds that threads (certainly on here) are so hard to follow.
What's wrong with husband, daughter, wife, mother etc etc?

I mean? Sometimes, it's not even a 'dear' someone a person is talking about. It's even got to the point where it's 'D-ex Husband' or 'D-Mother I would not cross the road to spit on'.

So, apart from the 'D' not always (or even usually) being true, it makes threads so very hard to follow.

Or, is it just DM?

I agree but I've been brainwashed to use the acronyms now. The only one I really do like is CF. I say CF in real life all the time now too.

I think the abbreviations are hard for younger people who join to use comfortably as we always consider it the way our parents spoke in text messages when "trying to be down with the kids". We have always typed full words due to the ease and convience of predictive text and qwerty keyboards.

It feels like reverting back to 2002.

You are not being unreasonable.

We should all just type the full words.

Let us encourage literacy. It is only a few seconds after all.

You’re not unreasonable about the ‘D-wife, husband, sister’ nonsense. When it then becomes ‘Ddog/cat/bob down the road’, it’s even more ridiculous. It’s nothing but twee ‘mummy talk’, on par with the ‘hunning’ from the other place.

Yeah "D" anything makes me feel a little vomitous.
Typos, particularly in the opening post, and the phrase "love the bones" also irritate me.

Slightly off topic but there are other terms I’m not fond of.

Hubby
Hubster
Furbaby
Holibobs

YANBU

Too Long, Don’t Read @Sinking

I find all this 'D' stuff so IRRITATING!! LI keep a PP said, no one says it in real life. It's completely unnecessary

*like a PP

DrLucyMaxwell

Well that one is just ridiculous! If someone can’t just type “too long, don’t read” then I’m guessing anything will be too exhausting for them to cope with!

That one is going to have me chuckling all day like the CF that I am, 😉

The MN acronyms are important linguistically. A shared language binds a community.

If this is not a community with which you feel comfortable, then perhaps better to continue to try new ones until you find onewhere you feel happy to fit in.

Especially given your second post which shows that your dislike of the site runs rather more strongly.

(Threads complaining about acronyms, plus 'you're all bitches' threads turn up about every week, which is why responses might be jaded. It's just not on to come in as a newbie to a community of hundreds of thousands and tell them all that they're doing it wrong. Better to just accept that you feel no fellow feeling to this community)

"a PP said, no one says it in real life. It's completely unnecessary"

That it is not said in RL is the whole point as it is a marker of MN as a community, and MN is online. Shared language/slang is an extremely strong way of binding a community.

I hate it and have been here for 11 years. I am increasingly just writing daughter, son etc.

I've been here years and the D nonsense is still ridiculous.

And no, it isn't "all over the internet." Most people manage to type out taxing words like 'son' and 'dad'.

(Threads complaining about acronyms, plus 'you're all bitches' threads turn up about every week, which is why responses might be jaded. It's just not on to come in as a newbie to a community of hundreds of thousands and tell them all that they're doing it wrong. Better to just accept that you feel no fellow feeling to this community)

It is not just here though it has been in many forums too. I hate it but will admit I have been sucked into the madness too.
Not proud! Though I do love an emoji

I’m not a newbie!

My husband read a thread once then asked me if DH stood for dickhead

Okaassan
I think the abbreviations are hard for younger people who join to use comfortably as we always consider it the way our parents spoke in text messages when "trying to be down with the kids

Ha ha. Down with the kids? What kids?
Poeple used abbreviated text because when text messaging was first in use every character was charged for. This was when your parents would have been kids themselves so who were they trying to be down with?
Your allowance would sometimes include free texts if you kept to an allotted, very few, number of characters.
Hence the shortening of full words.
People could text for free if they kept the count down.

No it isn't all over the internet.

I don't use It, I type the full name with no D in front but I've always had to follow my own rules in some little way.

I am not a newbie either Love the emojis though, especially these

Surely you do not have to agree with everything to be member of the community? That would be very boring - and not much fun either.

I think you missed ‘tinkly little laugh’ off your 2nd post....do we have a full house yet on MN bingo?

Ah the old Teal Deer, remember that animation that did the rounds for a while?

I do actually THINK TLDR in my head when a post is too long/bad spelling/grammar etc. I just don't have that kind of attention span, but I don't say anything.

melonscoffer you don't need to justify why it was done.

I still remember using my pocket money to top up my phone and getting a card from the newsagent to do so.

Our parents would continue to use abbreviations when unlimited text packages meant there was no need to cram as much into one text.

It was as if they had finally got their head around all the abbreviations and didn't want to stop whilst the rest of us where getting to grips with qwerty and predictive text.

I still see older people using one finger to type with.

Text speak abbreviations makes younger people cringe.

There is a fabulous Dave Gorman sketch on the matter that explains it very well.