D-this, D-that, D-the other?

[OnThisHill]

Am I the only one who finds
D-this and D-that really confusing?

There are so, so many Ds that threads (certainly on here) are so hard to follow.
What's wrong with husband, daughter, wife, mother etc etc?

I mean? Sometimes, it's not even a 'dear' someone a person is talking about. It's even got to the point where it's 'D-ex Husband' or 'D-Mother I would not cross the road to spit on'.

So, apart from the 'D' not always (or even usually) being true, it makes threads so very hard to follow.

Or, is it just DM?

Seeing DDog gives me the rage.

This was when your parents would have been kids themselves so who were they trying to be down with?

My mum was a teen in the 70s, she wasn't texting then

"Surely you do not have to agree with everything to be member of the community? That would be very boring - and not much fun either"

No, no-one would support that.

The significance of language in binding communities isn't remotely related to whether posters agree with each other. It is about sharing a sociolect and how that marks membership of a group.

There will of course always be disagreements and outliers. That is common across societies too - just look at the threads which expose the conflict between those who heed the messages to minimise water consumption and those who are individualists sometimes characterised as 'I'm all right Jack' who intend to keep using because they're valid customers. Or before the internet age, to the writings of Lewis Carroll which expose the same point. The language of communities matters. Whether the individual puts value on community is up to them. So perhaps they will never be happy enough in any?

I think the lack of textspeak on MN is one of its great strength.

Those who access the site with assistive technology, those with dyslexia and those for whom English is not a first language find it much, much harder to follow than standard English. The default position of making life easier for those with difficulties is something that I've appreciated for years.

'D' stands for all manner of appropriate adjectives though: dear, dastardly, dire, dreadful, dumpy, drooling, damned, dim-witted....the list goes on.

I was reading a court ruling yesterday, one of the people in the case was referred to as DS and it confused the fuck out of me.

Okaasan as an older person, I found your comment one of the most patronising I've ever read on MN. "I still see older people using one finger to type with" Still. Fucking hell. Dug me a grave someone, my time is done. :(

I was just thinking the other day the abbreviations must be a hangover from the days of trying to save time/effort before predictive text. It actually takes me a lot longer to type the acronyms on my phone as it doesn't guess them. I don't much like them either and often find them confusing. PIL, MIL, FIL, DIL, SIL I would use because I think they're pretty obvious and much quicker to type. Other than that, no.

I especially like the use of D for dear or darling on a thread where it's obvious that the whole family are at daggers drawn.

Then there's DCs. Dear Child, Dear Children - not an s in sight. But using DC for both could be confusing so I see why people write DCs. Jars a bit, though.

dig not dug. Either way, dear god that was insulting on so many levels.

I'm a touch typist on a QWERTY keyboard, but not on a tiny phone screen. Never used it enough to develop any speed with two thumbs or whatever the more accomplished use. My son finds it baffling that I am picking letters out with one finger but so what! Fortunately my predictive text is very good indeed.

Rosamacrose she only said she’d seen it, not that this applies to everyone. My Mum uses one finger to text and I’ve seen it. People of all ages will have some that are more savvy than others. I don’t think this was a slight.

YANBU - it’s very bloody annoying!
And totally hypercritical if you’re post is a complaint or moan about the ‘dear’ person in question.

However I find quite a lot about MN annoying... some of the advice is great but there are a lot of angry/bitter/nasty people on here (I’ve found)

*your

I always thought the coded way of writing was in part to protect you from your posts being deciphered by your kid/DH as the shorthand is more specific to mumsnet and relationship boards, not the internet overall. So if you leave your computer open where you've typed "DH is really winding me up" and he goes sees it he's less likely to know it's about him...

I don't like it but if people prefer to use them it's up to them.

What does TDLR mean? Sorry page 2 I think. Someone thinks it when reading a long thread.

What does TDLR mean?

I think it’s TLDR and is too long didn’t read.

I find it strange too but I've been brainwashed, have found myself referring to my son as DS occasionally

He's only 1 but I must get out of this annoying habit before he thinks his name is actually DS.

rosamacrose sorry it made you feel uncomfortable with your own texting. If that is what works for you then what else matters?

My dad does it and we always joke about it to him. He doesn't take offence.

Well maybe he does, but it takes so long for him to type out his concerns using one finger that he probably gives up.

I don't even see it or think about it any more. And if you read the post it's usually pretty obvious what the 'D' anything is.

It really doesn't matter.

Been scolded for posting in AIBU...

You are clearly exceptionally new to MN if you don't know the reaction you'd get posting this in AIBU

I’ve been using them so long that I no longer think of DS as being “Dear Son”, it’s just another word for son.

I love Ddog. It’s my favourite

Haha

Same as IAmNot aWitch does wih the D

I have seen some posters give us the DSis or DBro , which is good, but usually work out if the DS is Son or Sister by the context of the opening post.
They did used to make me eye roll but I am used to it now

Also have seen husband, son etc in full , and must say nobody leaps on any poster who uses the full words.

I still see older people using one finger to type with

I resemble that remark.