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Bloody loud kids in the communal pool all day, everyday.

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DavidBowiesNumber1 · 18/07/2018 14:53

We've recently moved into a new house on a small development - 20 houses, at present only 10 sold, of those 10 only 5 of us are permanent residents.
Not in the UK.
Up until about 3 weeks ago everything was peaceful, harmonious, pretty idyllic. Then the "holiday homers" arrived.
Now, out of the 5 nonresident households, 3 have lots of children ranging in ages of about 1 to 13 years old. Approx' 9 children between them but every day there are friends arriving to spend the day (and sometime night) at the pool.
Now I'm all for kids enjoying themselves and its lovely to see them doing something other than sitting indoors in front of a tv/tablet/phone/games console but AIBU in thinking that the parents (who are rarely at the pool) should A) be keeping an eye on them and B) be telling them to hush down a bit?
All we can hear from morning 'til night (up to 12.15am this morning) is the children shouting, screaming, jumping in the pool etc.
It's incredibly hot here (40c+ in the day, never dips below 32c at night) so all doors and windows are open therefore the noise carries everywhere.
If we want to use the pool we have to dodge bombing children/passing li-los/random balls and floats along with said 'DC'.
We would just like to enjoy our downtime and relax. Is that too much to ask?

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LoveInTokyo · 24/07/2018 23:39

Well my attention span is sufficient to cope with reading, reviewing and drafting loooooooong contracts, but not your posts. So basically, it’s not me, it’s you.

You’re boring as fuck and still just as wrong as you were 24,568 posts ago.

mathanxiety · 25/07/2018 06:39

You seem to find a lot of reading material boring.

What a pity to go through life so bored by the thoughts of others.

LakieLady · 25/07/2018 07:31

I hate the screeching too. I live opposite a primary school and at break, lunchtimes and home time all I can hear is that high pitched screeching noise. I know young kids can get excitable and loud, and general noise I can deal with, but it's that screeching I can't stand.

We've just got back from a few days away and last night there were children screeching till 10.00 pm. It was too hot to close the windows and we couldn't hear the bloody tv for the racket they made.

I can understand why people move to those ghastly retirement villages, tbh.

Blagora · 25/07/2018 07:36

It's perfectly possible to teach children good manners in the pool. It's dangerous to dive in willy nilly without checking if anyone is underneath you. My ds learnt that as soon as he learnt to swim aged 4

LakieLady · 25/07/2018 08:53

Here the adult who is perfectly capable of seeing what is going on all around

Spare a thought for the myopic among us who can only see a blur without our glasses on but still enjoy swimming. I bet there are more of us than you realise.

I can't see well enough to tell, from the pool and with water in my eyes, whether a child running along the poolside is going to dive or jump in.

LoveInTokyo · 25/07/2018 09:20

What a pity to go through life so bored by the thoughts of others.

Not all others. Specifically yours.

woodhill · 25/07/2018 09:32

Yes that's me, short sighted but will wear contacts in pool hence not wishing to be splashed in the face.

Last part of holiday there was an adult only pool as well. It was great

Madamfrog · 25/07/2018 11:28

You can get swimming goggles to the same prescription as your specs, please don't wear contact lenses in a swimming pool, though the chances of damaging your eyes are low it is really nasty if it happens and not worth the risk.

Itchytights · 25/07/2018 12:02

Oh that’s bullshit.
I would hate that as other people’s children and a distinct lack of parenting drives me fucking insane.

YANBU

Itchytights · 25/07/2018 12:06

Oh math

Thank fuck the majority of the population don’t have your views.

We would all be fucked.

Shock
mathanxiety · 25/07/2018 23:11

May I infer you are not too bored to read my views, Itchy?

If you've read my posts then maybe it really is just LoveinTokyo who has the problem.

Blagora
It's perfectly possible to teach children good manners in the pool. It's dangerous to dive in willy nilly without checking if anyone is underneath you. My ds learnt that as soon as he learnt to swim aged 4
Indeed it is, and the fact that most people do not come away from a pool with the imprints of small feet on their backs should tell us that most children have either been told not to try it, or have figured it out for themselves.

Yet we still see people getting uptight about children around pools, who fully believe that parents these days have stopped trying to exert any control over their offspring, annoyed to the point where they seethe about children's behaviour while they are in the water, observe a woman on the pool deck so closely that they can identify the make of her phone instead of getting on with swimming, and also fume about the fact that the children are using a pool in a hotel mainly used by business travelers.

Also people who think shrieking is outrageous.

People see what they want to see and hear what they want to hear. If being negative about children and anxious about rules is part of your culture then you will find fault everywhere. Normal fun will become evidence of the imminent end of civilisation as we know it

I second the advice to get prescription goggles and to use them instead of contacts, Woodhill*. Wearing your contacts in a pool (or while swimming anywhere else, or in hot tubs, or even showers) can result in infections, and worst case scenario, a corneal ulcer.

DavidBowiesNumber1 · 26/07/2018 06:36

Math has it dawned on you yet that no one, aside from an early GF, has agreed with you?

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mathanxiety · 26/07/2018 06:47

Of course I have noticed that. I take it that you conclude I must be wrong.

However, you are the person who bought a residence in a complex in some hot country outside of Britain that features a pool, and you are dismayed that your non-British neighbours don't behave as British people do, so I am inclined to think that your opinions are a little absurd.

IllHaveALargeGlassOfRed · 26/07/2018 06:52

Re screeching children. Ive recently spent 4 weeks at home (off sick) over the hottest part of the year and couldn't wait to get back to work! Why are children so fucking loud? Laughing and yelling isn't so bad - it's that high pitched shriek they put on. And whining. Oh my god.

Anyway. Rant over. I'm back at work where I don't need to see or hear kids. Grin

LoveInTokyo · 26/07/2018 07:03

It's got nothing to do with Britishness, since British children are equally capable of being little shits if their parents like math can't be arsed to teach them now to behave.

DavidBowiesNumber1 · 26/07/2018 07:03

I take it that you conclude I must be wrong It's just that I'd have thought you may have given up banging on with your loooong posts by now, seeing as nobody else agrees with any of your points.

I am inclined to think that your opinions are a little absurd And I'm inclined to think that your opinion means absolutely fuck all to me.

HTH.

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mathanxiety · 29/07/2018 07:43

It's really absurd to post on AIBU and then get all hot and bothered when someone disagrees with you. It's especially silly to take issue with what you call 'loooong' posts. This isn't Twitter. Similarly, it's silly to move away form Britain and expect people to behave as if they were British, and living in Britain. People do things differently elsewhere.

The fact that children are making noise in a swimming pool doesn't make them 'shits', LoveinTokyo. It makes them normal. What is not normal is the idea that children should be seen and not heard.
news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/talking_point/981385.stm
I've worked for the past 3 summers with kids in the USA and I can't help but notice how much more loving and tolerant adults are towards kids over there. Coming back to Britain sometimes makes me feel sorry for the kids of this country. Kids here aren't encouraged to show emotions, express themselves and are often quite subdued and withdrawn compared to their American counterparts.
Fraser Boyd, Scotland, UK

An interesting comment you most likely won't agree with.

Worth noting that English children came 14th out of 15 countries in a survey of children's levels of happiness a few years ago.

IllHaveALargeGlassOfRed · 29/07/2018 07:49

That link is 18 years old math. Things have changed since then. A lot.

mathanxiety · 29/07/2018 07:53

Not on this thread they haven't.

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