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To feel sickened that this man is being referred to in this way (WARNING UPSETTING CONTENT)

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bigoldscaredycat · 18/07/2018 06:21

This man raped a three month old baby boy to the point where the baby needed corrective surgery.

He is now in a women’s prison in Canada where he has beaten up a female inmate.

THIS is where self ID leads. Men like this being incarcerated with women and their crimes being counted as female.

torontosun.com/news/national/feds-deny-paying-for-convicted-pedophiles-implants

www.newwestrecord.ca/dangerous-offender-in-b-c-loses-appeal-for-day-or-full-parole-1.23279132

Go on, Mumsnet, delete me for deliberately misgendering a male baby rapist.

THIS.IS.A.MAN.

Perhaps this story will illustrate why feminists are so up in arms about self ID.

I would love to see even the staunchest anti-women transactivist tell me that this person is a woman and that they belong in a women’s prison.

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Walkingdeadfangirl · 18/07/2018 15:46

Popchyk, you right my maths is bad, the crime was 19 years ago. and yes was then called Adam, not sure why that matters.

She has a PENIS, so technically she's still a man
No Confused she has fully transitioned and now has a vagina.

Popchyk · 18/07/2018 15:47

"Popchyk, you right my maths is bad, the crime was 19 years ago. and yes was then called Adam, not sure why that matters".

Because those are the facts, Walkingdead.

Facts matter.

LunaTrap · 18/07/2018 15:48

It might matter to the victim who needed corrective surgery due to injuries caused by his rapist's penis that the man who raped him be referred to correctly, walkingdead.

LunaTrap · 18/07/2018 15:52

One of Martin Ponting's victims spoke out about how traumatic it was for people to now be calling the man who raped her a woman, and allowing him to move to a women's prison. This stuff matters.

nauticant · 18/07/2018 15:52

There have been many good points raised on this thread but one that really caught my eye was asking whether the victim of rape, that caused him great trauma, would have the right to identify his rapist as being a man. (Even though that would go against the concept of "deadnaming" and is the worst thing in the world.)

bigoldscaredycat · 18/07/2018 15:52

Can people just STOP referring to this man as SHE. Just stop. It is offensive and upsetting.

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Walkingdeadfangirl · 18/07/2018 15:54

Popchyk, yes your right the facts are important. Likewise this thread seems to be saying that a man had just raped a baby then self identified to get into a woman's prison, which does not seem to be the case.

LunaTrap, I am not defending what this person has done, she should most definitely be in prison. And I think the Canadian prison service is best placed to decide which prison that is.

maxthemartian · 18/07/2018 15:54

He doesn't have a vagina. He has a surgically created hole.

LunaTrap · 18/07/2018 15:55

Not SHE. It is offensive nonsense. Just stop it.

Noqont · 18/07/2018 15:55

No confused she has fully transitioned and now has a NEOvagina.

Corrected that for you. As men don't have vaginas. A neo vagina is not the same. Obviously.

Handsoffmysweets · 18/07/2018 15:58

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Popchyk · 18/07/2018 16:00

Walkingdead, given that the Canadian authorities were not able to keep female inmates safe from this person (and the violence was given as a reason for denying parole), I struggle to have the same confidence in prison authorities that you do.

Loopylou6 · 18/07/2018 16:10

Wtaf? I cannot believe what I'm reading.
This MALE beast raped a child with HIS PENIS how can anyone call
HIM female?
HE committed HIS crime as A MALE so HE should also killed punished as a MALE.

KittyKlaws · 18/07/2018 16:11

Yes - thank you Kittyklaws. The idea that my views would align with 13% of Tory voters has surprised me.

Well that could be your take-away or you could see that the trans ideology isn't winning over as many people as you think. I suspect this isn't because of trans individuals (who are after all just people for good or bad) but because of an aggressively pursued agenda which silences debate or opposition. This kind of overwhelming ideology which demands people change their beliefs to accommodate them isn't going to be popular particularly when you have stories like these and this person being sold as a woman after some very male, horrifying violence.

Again, I don't think this person is representative of all trans people but I do think it highlights problems in the recording of crime stats and merging of prison populations (which should be segregated by biology imo) and people seeing these issues are not 'transphobic' they are anticipating problems which will require thought before changes are made to the law.

In this case I personally reject that this person is a woman.

TheGoldenWolfFleece · 18/07/2018 16:18

God reading what else he has done makes me feel sick. He killed a 3 year old, raped a tiny defenceless baby, attacked a female inmate, sexually abused others in his family, threatened to kill a female prison guard and plenty of other reports of deviant behaviour.

Anyone who calls this monster she/her. You need help.

OrchidInTheSun · 18/07/2018 16:25

"Likewise this thread seems to be saying that a man had just raped a baby then self identified to get into a woman's prison, which does not seem to be the case. "

No one is saying that. They are saying that it is utterly repellent that a man who raped a baby is now calling himself a woman and is incarcerated with women because he has had surgery paid for by the state.

BeyondRadicalisationPortal · 18/07/2018 16:36

If it was 19 years ago, that baby could be reading this thread. And ending people calling their rapist 'she'. The thought of them seeing this pandering makes me feel rather ill.

Wonder what mn policy is on that, given they usually delete offensive posts about victims of crime who may read mn...?

Storminamug · 18/07/2018 16:36

This person no longer has a penis so cannot rape anyone in the female prison. Yes they could be violent towards other prisoners but so could other female prisoners. Should prisoners be segregated by size and strength too? This is not the same as someone self identifying as male (but not transitioned) being in a female safe place. This is someone who has undergone a sex change being placed in a prison which relates to their physical gender with other criminals.

BeyondRadicalisationPortal · 18/07/2018 16:36

*reading people, not ending

BeyondRadicalisationPortal · 18/07/2018 16:37

I already said waaaaay upthread, I am quite sure there is research that shows castrated sex offenders are no less likely to reoffend, they just do it without their dick.

womanformallyknownaswoman · 18/07/2018 16:38

It's amazing how some will attempt to rationalise this guy's heinous sex offending and put it down to a troubled life - that's what he wants you to believe because the truth is much harder to bear - that he is beyond hope and is a danger to women and children and needs to isolated for the remainder of his life.

He has demonstrated time and time again he is not to be trusted and cannot be allowed to be out in public. He should be with other male sex offenders who will be more of a match for him.

Hangingaroundtheportal · 18/07/2018 16:45

“Well anatomically she is female”

This statement is factually incorrect and quite offensive actually.

'Female' is not 'man who has had his todger cut off'.

Hangingaroundtheportal · 18/07/2018 16:47

To walkingdead and others, why is it so important that you keep referring to this monster as ‘she’? Honestly, why do you care? Do you feel the need to be seen as ‘right on’ and liberal? Do you think someone’s going to give you a paper hat and a medal for being so fantastically progressive?

Yes I would like to know this too. Why do you think it's so important what pronouns are used.

Anyone falling over themselves to use 'she' to describe a man who has raped a baby with his penis needs to take a look at themselves.

Amalfimamma · 18/07/2018 16:50

Some facts people seem to be missing.

He raped a 3 month old baby not.

he has been caught prostituting herself to fellow cons in the male prison

He married a male inmate before transing and divorced a year later when husband was released.

Been caught using drugs

threatening to kill a female guard.

has been found with a knife and another male inmate stabbed them.

Desousa also admitted to having killed a three-year-old child at age 11, although he was never criminally charged.

A 2010 hearing heard that Desousa felt they had done nothing wrong.

From the info I can gather they had surgery in April 2018

Keep on defending a male rapist.

Amalfimamma · 18/07/2018 16:52

He raped a month old baby boy

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