Would a mild-mannered trans woman who behaves as stereotypically female as you can get, be more of a woman than this individual?
No. Nobody who is born male can ever become a woman, and vice versa. Taking hormones and having surgery change how a person looks but the chromosomes stay the same.
The transactivists have scored a spectacular own goal with me. I didn't know much about this issue at all until I started reading some threads about it on here. The more I thought about it the more I began to realise that my previous attitude made no sense at all. I had assumed it was an issue that was closely connected to gay rights. I now see it isn't. The more I read, the more I think about this, the more I conclude that the T doesn't belong with the LGB.
I can't get over the fact that we all know nobody can literally change sex. (Well, strictly, those of us who have looked into this know that - some people with minimal scientific knowledge seem to assume people can change sex, which is one of the problems.) I can't think of a single other characteristic where people would accept it without question if somebody just said they had it, when they clearly didn't.
'I identify as black' said by a white person.
'I identify as disabled' said by a person who is in excellent general health.
'I identify as a child' said by a 60yo.
'I identify as fat' said by someone with anorexia.
'I identify as Napoleon' said by a person with schizophrenia.
'I identify as someone who can fly' said by someone high on drugs.
Every single one of those people would be challenged and as necessary given psychiatric treatment to help them come to terms with reality.
And yet ....
'I identify as a female and because I am sexually attracted to women that makes me a lesbian' said by a biological male. This one we are all expected to accept without question. Why?