New to this thread, mumsnet but not the debate. Hello. Anyway wading in... to me there seem to be very different elements to trans rights. I have a couple of close mates whose children are trans. One child is 18, the other is ten. There have been huge challenges for those children in terms of their mental health, particularly the 18 year old and being able to self-identify as male has brought about improved mental health and well-being for them both.
So that is on a personal level and on this level, I have no issue with trans rights. Let people dress and be who and whatever they like.
Yet it is on this macro-political level where I find myself echoing the concerns of many posters on this thread. I think the rush to self-identification in all walks of life has been done too quickly, out of historic guilt for how slowly we as a society moved to improve and create equal gay rights, culminating in equal marriage in 2013.
That journey took too long but did manage to create, over time, an environment in which gay people have been accepted, enabled and empowered to be fully who they are in all aspects of life.
The movement for trans self-identification wasn't I think even on the table ten years ago. Yes of course there were people seeking to change their gender on their birth certificate but the move for prisoners in particular to be given the right to self-identify as female was not, I think in vogue.
I think in the area of safeguarding of vulnerable people, there has to be a bias towards those vulnerable people rather than towards the individual. As someone elsewhere said, we don't see trans men clamouring to be allowed into male prisons. I can't see my friends fighting for their children to be sent to a male prison if they merited such punishment for some unspecified crime either.
What is also disturbing is how quickly this debate is shut down. That womens' concerns are immediately labelled as TERF if it doesn't particularly resonate with someone else's opinion. We are all, to some extent, on a journey with this, working out how to make this work for everyone. If we are all going to make our society better and fairer for all, then we have to hear the concerns people have. Refusing to engage with someone's fears isn't going to change their minds or win them over. It is merely going to confirm their prejudices.