The school mums whatsapp...

[peoplearemean]

AIBU to say it drives me potty?

You have -

• the "alright hon" brigade who share any old shit and everything is "amazing babe"
• the "informer" who likes to be able to be the first to break all school news to everyone even though it has been emailed
• the "school can do no wrong brigade" who if anyone questions the logic of anything the school are doing generally pounce and accuse others of being unsupportive
• the "on it all day" who comment on everything
• the "teacher brigade" mum teachers who like to give a school view on everything without actually taking on board what someone has just asked
• the "wind up merchant" who comments just to poke the "alright hon" monotony
• the "what's for lunch" brigade every day at 8.55 am - read the bloody menu!

Please add to the list any characters I have missed.

And yes I have left it before but I was missing too much actual useful info. I would just like it if it could be reduced to actual useful information like school is shut it's snowing! (Somehow it breaks on here before the official website)

Rant over.

Lemonpie - you can mute for a year

Oh yes, already done that but I still have to check it so as not to miss the useful information (if I didn't DS would never get to go to parties - which I would love but not really fair to him). Then I'm back to square one being badgered into paying for random shit like slime. I'm a single parent with no spare money and the constant collections and being put on the spot are really getting to me. Anyone who doesn't pay gets called out.

I wish there were two groups - one for useful information and one for random bollocks.

I also love the ‘informer mum’ without her I’d be completely lost!
We don’t have a WhatsApp group either, only Facebook, but OP did make me giggle as it stereotyped 80% of the people who comment on there daily 😂

Love this thread. It seems to have covered them all. Well, almost. I have another

Holy Mum
We're at a catholic school. I wasn't in the 'in' crowd right from the start because we're not catholic. Holy Mum has a larger than average family (not unusual for practising catholics). One of her sons is in the same class as my youngest. Holy Mum has had numerous kids through the school therefore she.knows.it.all She knows everybody in the school (all the staff / office staff by first names), husband is a governor, she's on the PTA. And also she's the ultimate do-gooder at church - knows everyone, on all the committees, all the kids are altar servers. However, she gossips with her mates at the back of church throughout mass so doesn't appear to take it that seriously.

She's also the one who does all the collections / organises Holy Communion parties / leavers' parties etc because 'nobody else will'.

She seems to take no pleasure in any of it. There's no point trying to engage her in conversation about anything because whatever it is, or whether I'm enthusiastic about something, or slagging something off, she's always been there / done it / bought the t-shirt. All the while she's looking over my shoulder to see if there's anyone more interesting to talk to.

Her kids and DH are absolutely lovely but I can't bear her.

We have a Facebook messenger group so same kind of thing. But only for the youngest DDs class. The oldest DDs class seem to have anti social cliquey parents. The group is helpful for last minute things, been a few parties this last few weeks so a few ‘what time’s the party’ from people who’ve lost invites. It hasn’t got nasty. Collection for end of year gift organised. Lost PE kit alerts that kind of thing too.

Now we have a rainbows what’s app. The leader created it. Very very annoying. One parent posts a message saying little dotty won’t be there so the other 18 parents comment back saying they will or won’t! My phone never stops an hour before rainbows. Was useful when we brought home the wrong hoodie though and then someone else wanted to track down water bottles. They’ve even added consent forms to a document section. Who even knew what’s app had a document section??

Oh another couple:

Straight-talking Mum
The only WhatsApp group I've been in (year 6!) was one created to
co-ordinate orders for the leavers' hoodies. The Mum who organised it had never volunteered for anything before and obviously felt it was about time she did. Poor woman. Phone constantly pinging with dumb-fuck questions from the parents who just hadn't fucking bothered to read the note that was sent out. Some of them really not very bright. Could tell the Mum was getting more and more fed up.

Final message said 'hoodies have arrived. If there are any problem with them, don't come to me as I'm out of here.' And promptly left the group.

Passive aggressive PTA Mum
Signs off everything with this:
#forALLourkids

Fuck - that has really boiled my piss all fucking year.

May already have been mentioned but the Has Anyone Seen A Jumper / Trousers / Sports Kit with Jaydon-Kai / Chlamydia-Mae written in in brigade

And the End Of Year Collection mum

Arum51 laughing at "Shitmum"

I love our ‘informer’ mum we'd all forget loads otherwise.
We have an ‘end of year collection’ Mum too

Isn’t it amazing the new levels of clique the internet has provided?! We’ve moved to a ‘naice’ Village but I’m a complete scutter with paint all over my primarni shorts and get blanked at village Zumba club (I like dance music and dancing) my DCs are in upper school now and thankfully bus in and out and I avoid the underground overground bs

There’s no school mums WhatsApp in our school. Unless I’m just not aware of it!

Ahh... primary school Mums... Thank God those days are over

I think I was seen as 'lazy, disinterested Mum'
No, I don't want to get together with the PTA girls for a Gin party, help sort out the secret santa cupboard, arrange the chocolate fountain & fruit kebabs at the fete, help dig up the infant classe's vegetable patch, go on a girl's cocktail night (variation on Gin party), accompany classes on trip to wildlife sanctuary...Sorry I just don't want to.

In my defence as a full-time teacher myself at the time, I was up to my neck in my own school stuff.
Maybe my DC missed having me around 24/7 but maybe not.

Our's is the most annoying one ever!! not a massive fan of the group chat anyway but I was considering if it was rude to leave the group at 3.30pm tomorrow ha ha

The "have to comment on every message" Mum is by far the most annoying thing ever, these chats drive me nuts ......................

Passive aggressive PTA Mum
Signs off everything with this:
#forALLourkids

The ABSOLUTE worst - all the other types I can take or leave. Not this one though

I used to work as a TA and you could guarantee every inset day we would see Shitmum either walking to school with child in school uniform and carrying the obligatory reading book bag, or walking sheepishly back out of school.

What I don't understand is how did Shitmum get as far as school? How come she didn't notice there were no other kids or parents around? When she got to the school gates how did she not notice there were no cars parked all over the place and there was no noise coming from the playground?

Vanilla "have to comment on every message" Mum is by far the most annoying thing ever

Yup. Mainly because she is also the MLM mum. #goandbeblessedsomewhereelse.

My highlight was world book day when every single mum in the class posted a pic of their child in their costume. Bloody seeing them all in ten mins. Pretty sure I don’t need photos. Don’t care what they are wearing anyway. 20 what’s apps before 815am.

Not a mum so no school mum WA, but we do have one for our sports team.

Well, I say 'one', but largely because of the actions of one member (who is an emoji-obsessed hunner with a laissez-faire approach to spelling and grammar, hereafter known as EOH), it split into factions quite quickly.

There's now one 'official' one, which details important stuff like training, games etc, but EOH even manages to dominate that half the time.

I mute all but the official one, because EOH makes me want to commit murder. Not today, WhatsApp, not today.

We have a Facebook group, it's really good and useful. It's only reception, so I don't think the personalities haven't really come through.

@Studentwife

You also forgot the self gratifying mother...’oh, I did this, that and the fucking other for the school fair etc!!!’ And then the others chirp in ‘oh thank you, you’re so great for doing that, blah blah blah.’
To which the do gooder replies ‘oh it was nothing!’*

Oh absolutely we get that too. One of the most horrible moments on this was when one non PTA mum said "what about if the PTA did X event" to which PTA mum said "you do it on your own if you're that bothered" so other mum did and it raised more than the summer fayre (!)

I don't belong to a WhatsApp group or even Facebook. Old fashioned website for me. I would hate the WhatsApp. Personally I would come off the group.

All sounds ghastly. I'm 'teacher mum' and wouldn't touch a school mums Whatsapp group with a bargepole!

I was 'added' to one without my consent (had given my details for a class list....) drivel all day about what Billy did at the weekend, how Bella had a cold and when the next running group meet was

I left the group, only to find I was randomly added to new ones I silence them and/or leave them. Mostly inhabited by show off type mum's ime, with too much time on their hands....

@Arum51 my sons are grown up now but I called myself bad working mother which is pretty much a shit mum in the non working playground mother's eyes! So glad we didn't have WhatsApp groups, just emails and useless school website updates.

We don't seem to have a variety of characters in ours, it's just handy for when someone has forgotten to write down homework or if there's a school event on or a mix up-the replies are always helpful followed by thumbs up or happy faces or nice words of thanks. Sounds like yours is meant to be more of a personal friendship forming thing-maybe try to see it for that? I wouldn't say leave though, you never know when it might be helpful