The school mums whatsapp...

[peoplearemean]

AIBU to say it drives me potty?

You have -

• the "alright hon" brigade who share any old shit and everything is "amazing babe"
• the "informer" who likes to be able to be the first to break all school news to everyone even though it has been emailed
• the "school can do no wrong brigade" who if anyone questions the logic of anything the school are doing generally pounce and accuse others of being unsupportive
• the "on it all day" who comment on everything
• the "teacher brigade" mum teachers who like to give a school view on everything without actually taking on board what someone has just asked
• the "wind up merchant" who comments just to poke the "alright hon" monotony
• the "what's for lunch" brigade every day at 8.55 am - read the bloody menu!

Please add to the list any characters I have missed.

And yes I have left it before but I was missing too much actual useful info. I would just like it if it could be reduced to actual useful information like school is shut it's snowing! (Somehow it breaks on here before the official website)

Rant over.

Ah, in that case, fair enough.

There’s an anthropology Ph.D in these observations
Love this the "babes" ones usually the same ones who forget everything, forget own clothes day, park on the zig zags because they are always late and turn up to sports day in booty shorts
Love the notion of booty shorts to sports day,niiiice
Can I add the cast of Towie mums,huge sunnies any weather & fake tan

Well, DD has a day and a half left of Y6, and my phone can only do text - so I guess I missed the boat on that one..

hey ho.

I fear our WhatsApp group has elements of this (not too many though - it's mostly useful) but I delegated the task to DH right from the start which works really well - either he calms the nonsense down/it goes over his head and I find out the useful info.

Oh my!!! I find the school gates political enough without having a. Whatsapp group as well!

@BinG0wings123 they will still hunt you down and make you join! (And then take great glee in telling everyone who works all the info they think you don't know - even though you do!)

Just join in on the Dads whatsapp chat, I would much rather sift through the filth for the important bits than be in on the "my child is better than your child" antics.

The dads. There always someone fawning and cooing when a dad does the pick up.like he’s a saint undertaking a huge emotional and physically arduous challenge

Allthewaves - totally. A bit of live and let live wouldn't go amiss. PTA mum may be annoying but she is probably also doing loads of stuff you don't have time to do or can't be arsed, to help your child's school to provide extra activities/resources to the children, including YOUR child. You don't have to like her, but don't need to slag her off either.

PTA mums are not self deprecating and they are the main mixers of gossip/malaise
PTA They aren’t selfless,they’re self interested .read the commonality of pta threads on mn
I’ll not refrain from commenting on PTA as they are risible,and nor are the altruistic givers

Why do parents split unto groups along gender lines? Never understood that

Colombian mum.

Her English is poor, she's real, I've met her, she's earnest and has started to do my head in.

It's not the trails of heart emojis. It's not the kissy ones. It's sometimes the repeated use of "hai" followed by emojis. More than anything it is the requests for clarification where you suspect she is running everything from English via Serbian, Thai and Inuit through Google Translate to Spanish and back again. "Hai, so you mean [something almost incomprehensible but clearly wrong] [random emojis]?

I was patient and tried to help. Now I roll my eyes while feeling mildly guilty.

There are school mums whatsapp groups?

My youngest is 13 and somehow this has passed me by.

I'm in a parents association FB group for DD's boarding school, which is quite handy, but it seems to be dads posting just as often as mums. Which makes sense, what with parents being both genders.

Our pta are actually pretty cool - don't do the martyr routine, don't go heavy on pushing people to join and just have a laugh with it all.

Cool on mn to hate on them though.

Why do parents split unto groups along gender lines? Never understood that

This doesn't happen here. DH is on all the 'mum' groups because I CBA and he does most of the school stuff but he's not the only father on them. Although there are definitely organisers I say hurray for them, someone has got to do it.

Im on 3 school WhatsApp groups

1 for ds15yrs, ds13yrs and dd5yrs. Havent come across any characters that OP suggests.

With sons fast approaching GCSE's everyone is helping each other with exam revision, not to mention lost blazers and various other info that our sons fail to communicate. I've never met the high school mums, I gave my number via email. It has been a lifesaver.

There’s definitely ‘collection organiser’ who is like a rat up a drainpipe the minute there’s a teacher event to organise - end of term card-present/leaving card-present/getting married/having a baby/slipped disc/broken fingernail - we’ve had them all (yawn) don’t get me wrong - I’m always grateful but where on earth does that perpetual enthusiasm and energy come from?!

Never had it with my eldest dc, but do have one for my youngest year group. Some of the info that gets posted is useful..but mostly it’s annoying posts that ping guaranteed every night, querying the whereabouts of lost socks and forgotten dates on one thing or another. Because they can’t be arsed to read the email like the rest of us. And yes, we have the righteous know it alls too... But hey ho...school life’s too short to let it bother us that much

The whats app groups in our school seem to bring out the absolute worst in people. We had normal enough dynamics in ds class for about two years when email was used to communicate some relevant info from the school fundraising committe and the odd request for something - all pretty much within reason.

Since we moved to whats app people went bonkers or more likely the bonkers people feel empowered to share, message, comment like there's no tomorrow. It's an utterly insane and inefficient way of communicating information related to school.

Luckily dd's class is still using email and I have agreed with a few of the sane mums that we will fight tooth and nail should there ever be a suggestion that we should move to whats app in her class.

And just to add the penny’s worth on Dads being included...there is also one on ours. Out of 60 or so.

The Duracell bunny pta mum don’t work,so they have to get goin about something
Getting all aerated and self righteous about collecting and cards
PTA only take collections and card signing at end of school day
I did suggest they give an envelope for collections in to Afterschool, pta declined
I don’t contribute to the group collection and give my own card,as pta make it ridiculously hard

I agree with you, it's off putting. x

You might be forgetting about the lick arse Ex husband who comments in the group and makes out he is the most helpful male in the universe- all the while being a total cock to his ex wife and kids....

Our whatsapp group is a lifesaver for a disorganised person like me. The only reason my kids don't turn up in school uniform on mufti days - or get to go on the school trips because I've actually remembered to return the slip is because of the whatsapp group.

I won't have a bad word said about it!

Never been invited to one, but then I only share my number with very few (friends of DC’s mums)