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AIBU?

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hubby says he has seen a ghost five times so far.

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lowresidue · 16/07/2018 22:21

Hubby has taken our dog to a local wood, and lets the dog go for a run.
He goes at different times and different days.
He came home and told me that he has seen the same woman ghost five separate times so far. Tonight with bonnet wearing woman made him jump when she popped up in front of him. When he said 'you made me jump', she smiled nodded and walked away from him.

He was quite serious but I asked why he thought she was a dead/ ghost? He said because she is wearing a long coat and a bonnet type hat.
AIBU to suggest that this woman isn't dead, isn't a ghost and is an odd lady with a strange fashion sense?
He is quite firm she is a ghost, and walks along the path but not on it though the trees.

personally I am glad we are going on holiday soon my hubby really needs it asap.
Then again AIBU?

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SleepingStandingUp · 17/07/2018 09:51

I was going to say wonder why she keeps appearing to your dh but sounds like she's just v active.

I grew up in a haunted house, it feels weird now living in a house woth no extra guests haha

StealthPolarBear · 17/07/2018 09:54

Do people also entertain the idea of fairies and the Loch ness monster?

JaceLancs · 17/07/2018 09:54

I’m not sure what I believe and am normally a sceptic but I have seen things I can’t explain
On one occasion I was not alone - was with my DP of the time and we both saw same thing
It was a summer early evening not at all creepy or poor light etc
No fancy old fashioned clothing
Said person was a rough sleeper type dressed in old scruffy jeans and fleece
My only concern was that he was drunk or violent because of the way he was behaving and I thought he might try and snatch my bag then he disappeared
Could we have had a shared hallucination?

ToeToToe · 17/07/2018 10:11

I love a good woo thread myself. The "THERE ARE NO GHOSTS" brigade are a pain in the bum, because it stops people sharing their spooky stories.

My 'ghost' wasn't dressed in Victorian clothes, it wasn't night time, or in spooky woods - it was broad daylight and I was painting a bedroom. I thought it was my son, and spoke to him. It really, really freaked me out - but I don't deny it could have all been in my mind.

It was truly strange, because I wasn't expecting anything spooky - I literally thought my ds was coming into the room I was painting, and told him to stay out, because of the wet paint. Then ds answered me from downstairs.

Notquiteagandt · 17/07/2018 10:15

I think he needs to start wearing a head cam on dog walks. To either show its just an old woman in a strange outfit. Or to sell photo of a ghost.

Notice how in these days of smart phone cameras etc. No one ever manages to get a clear photo!

Im on the fence with ghosts. Ive seen one but still unsure.

VanillaSugar · 17/07/2018 10:19

Who wears traditional Quaker outfits these days? You've been eating too much porridge, my love.

SeekingClosure · 17/07/2018 10:20

I finally found the werewolf story on that thread, I will copy and paste it here for others:-

Found it. Warning: it's very long (sorry) and very freaky, and if anyone can come up with a rational explanation I'd be extremely grateful because I'm generally a pretty rational non-woo where's-the-evidence person, but I've never been able to explain this and it still makes my heart beat faster and the hair stand up on my arms when I think about it, years later.

I was pet sitting for my friend several years ago. She had moved into a sort of small holding right on the edge of a village in the SW, with a huge garden that backed onto trees. At the time she had a right menagerie - chickens, ducks, a couple of Shetlands, cats and four black retrievers, three fully grown and one a half grown puppy. Originally DH had been going to come with me as a little holiday but the dates she ended up having to go away for work clashed with a couple of his medical appointments so he stayed at home with our dog and I went to petsit alone.

It was about halfway through my stay, a couple of nights to go. Late evening, already dark when I heard a massive commotion from the chicken shed, banging and thumping. I assumed a fox or something had got in so went out to check. As I was halfway across the garden the noise stopped instantly as if it had been shut off; by the time I got to the shed all was calm and the chickens were all settled, mostly asleep. No sign of any intruder or disturbance at all, nothing to explain the noise or any indication that the chickens had made a noise. Bit freaky but I didn't (and still don't) know much about The Way of Chicken so I locked up again and left them to it.

As I went back in the house a small black shape ran past me out of the back door and I realised the puppy must have got out. It streaked across the garden and off towards the woods. Cue much cursing, then calling her name in vain. More cursing when she didn't come back. I grabbed a torch and put one of the other dogs on the lead, partly for protection, partly because I thought the pup was more likely to come back if I had one of her canine companions with me and partly because I didn't fancy my chances of finding my way back to the house on my own even though there were a couple of vague paths that I'd followed when walking the dogs throughout the week.

Off we trudged into the wood along one of these paths, me calling pup's name at intervals and trying not to imagine murderers and rapists behind every tree trunk. We got to a point where it felt like the trees were starting to thin out and I remember thinking that I didn't remember a clearing on this path and we must have gone wrong somewhere when the dog with me slowed right down and started to resist going forward. I tried to jolly her along - while my stomach suddenly dropped like a stone - and she started growling, a really low serious rumbling growl. By this time I was practically shitting myself. I tried shining the torch ahead but the beam just sort of bounced back off the darkness if that makes sense? I got the sense of something - or somethings - moving but just sinuous deeper black shapes against the blackness and always on the periphery of vision. (The hairs on my arms are standing up again just remembering how completely and utterly terrified I was. I have honestly never known a feeling like it.)

At this point the dog sank right down, still growling, hackles up and refused to budge. I muttered something like "Jesus, you have got to be kidding me" and this ugly gurgling inhuman sort of voice hissed, right up close as if someone was right next to me "don't say that name". At the same time there was a horrible snickering sort of laugh. I cant express how utterly petrified I was. I can't remember having any coherent thoughts apart from the word "evil". That's the only clear thing I can remember. Me and the dog were frozen to the spot with pure fear. Then a different voice, really commanding, said "GO. BACK." That sounded more in my head but echoey, where the others had sounded out in the air IYSWIM?

Wherever it came from it did the trick. Me & the dog turned and belted back through the woods. She basically towed me, I just clung onto her lead stumbling to keep up and sobbing with fear. I lost the torch somewhere on that wild run but there was no way I was stopping to find it. How I didn't run blindly into a tree I'll never know, she guided me I guess. I can remember thinking desperately that I mustn't let go of her lead or "they" would get me.

When we got back to the garden she suddenly stopped - I did fall over her this time, onto my hands and knees - turned around and started snarling, proper teeth bared, rabid-looking snarls, back at the trees and the darkness. I thought I heard the snickering again but the blood was pounding in my ears so hard I can't be sure. I scrambled up and ran to the back door and she followed me but backing and snarling all the way as if holding something at bay. Oh, and the chicken shed was banging and thumping again. I got the back door open, me and her belted in, I slammed home every bolt behind us. The other dogs left behind were staring at the door and growling too with their hackles up and when I saw all three of them, puppy included, acting like that I started to cry properly because I honestly thought I was trapped in some horror film nightmare and was going to die. I don't know - I still don't know - what the black shape was that ran past me out of the house and triggered all of this because the puppy was right there in the kitchen.

Anyway I made sure every door and window was locked and bolted, I turned on every light in the house, I wandered round mumbling all sorts of weird half-religious half-spiritual shit to ward off evil spirits. Gradually the dogs settled down and stopped growling, and eventually stopped glancing at the door. Funnily enough I didn't sleep for one second that night and I rang my DH and begged him to come over the last couple of days. I know I didn't dream it because I was covered in scratches from running through the woods and had grazed hands from where I fell over the dog in the garden.

Nothing like that has happened before or since and I hope it never, ever does. It was the single most horrible, terrifying experience of my entire life.

StealthPolarBear · 17/07/2018 10:24

That's brilliant

thricethebrindledcat · 17/07/2018 10:27

A very committed historical re-enacter?

MrsPatmore · 17/07/2018 10:27

In all seriousness, you say he needs a holiday - could this be stress related hallucinations?

HonkyWonkWoman · 17/07/2018 10:30

Off out but saving for later.👋

PanPanPanPing · 17/07/2018 10:34

MrsP, the OP said she'd checked on her local FB group and other people have seen BonnetWoman too, so maybe half of their town are hallucinating? Grin

PanPanPanPing · 17/07/2018 10:39

SeekingClosure, IIRC, that's the Savernake Forest story - although she didn't mention it in that post, I vaguely recall a bit further down the thread she said it was in Savernake.

Gottokondo · 17/07/2018 10:40

Curtainshopping
Most ghost sightings happen when it’s quiet, dark, deserted... no one ever see ghosts at ten o’clock on a Tuesday morning in Tesco.

Not at tesco but I have seen a ghost in broad daylight in my house. It was a normal looking man wearing trousers and a normal buttoned shirt.

But you don't have to believe in ghosts if you don't want to.I just don't understand what you are doing on this thread. We are not suddenly going to believe that ghosts don't exist because you -an internet stranger- tells us that they don't.

53rdWay · 17/07/2018 10:43

Bonnet Woman was actually a weather balloon.

In seriousness: I don’t believe in ghosts as trapped spirits wandering the mortal plane clothes and all. But I have seen things which people would describe as ghosts, which I have no reasonable explanation for. So it does seem a bit daft when people say “well there’s no such things as ghosts therefore nobody’s seen them, case closed” as if it’s a compelling argument to people who’ve seen e.g. mysterious vanishing figures.

SleepingStandingUp · 17/07/2018 10:43

My Dad has seen ghosts in our fully lit house, he definitely doesn't need to be a bit bleary in a dark placr

nowshesaturtle · 17/07/2018 10:46

My elderly next door neighbour (now deceased) had a very sad family history, including a son-in-law with mental health issues. She told me that the son-in-law was very, very unhappy for a long time and had said he would take his own life one day. Eventually he did and my neighbour went to his house. As she was wandering around she said something like 'I hope you are happier now' into the empty air. She says he appeared in front of her,very briefly, smiling.

Actually, after all that had gone before in his life, I really hope that's true.

ShovingLeopard · 17/07/2018 10:50

Not sure why people are repeating the idea that ghosts are always seen in old fashioned dress. This is simply not true. It may be, however, that people are more likely to realise a ghost is a ghost if they are not wearing modern dress.

Severide08 · 17/07/2018 10:51

We live in a old house and it is haunted. My DH has seen the ghost of a little Victorian boy and my dogs have also sensed it .When my dad was dying from cancer I had things happen in his home that I could not explain including things falling on the floor with no one near them at the time and twice I heard a woman's voice in the night. I think there is somethings we just can't explain away .

dustarr73 · 17/07/2018 10:51

I dont understand why the non believers come on these threads

coolncalm · 17/07/2018 10:52

I love that no nonsense way sceptics have when they say "ghosts don't exist". Oh ok.

tillytillytilly2018 · 17/07/2018 10:55

@Haworthia funny you say that because there’s been a ghost sighting near my work of a young lad wearing an 80s tracksuit. He was apparently murdered by a gang and his ghost has been seen running and hiding around some old buildings.

headinhands · 17/07/2018 10:56

A bonnet you say? So probably Victorian era. Like 99% of other ghost sightings. What was so special about Victorian's that they're all seemingly stuck for eternity to float about in woods/graveyards and old buildings? Why don't we see cavemen ghosts or people in flares from the 70's. My guess is that there's something in our psyche due to the the whole paranormal obsession starting in the Victorian era?

It's similar to ufo sightings. If you look at the artistic representations of the UFO's people saw in the 60's they look very much in keeping with the styles of the 60's! And similarly ufos people see today look like modern ufos. Bizarre isn't it.

BlameItOnTheNeon · 17/07/2018 10:56

SeekingClosure yes, PP is right, that's the Savernake forest one, still gives me shudders reading it.

We have a smallholding on the edge of a huge (I've hiked one of the trails for six hours and not reached the other side) forest in the middle of nowhere. The vast majority of the time it feels safe and welcoming and fills me with joy, I love forests. On a few rare times, even walking into the edge feels repellent and wrong, like a magnet pushing me away.

PerfectlySymmetricalButtocks · 17/07/2018 11:00

Most pagans believe in fairies Stealth.