To not let DD go on this holiday?

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DD just messaged asking if she can go on holiday with her friends family. I asked how much and she replied £1500 and going in August (as in 3weeks away)!

Who just has access to £1500?

Shouldn't the Mum have discussed it with me before getting DD excited? I've said no now but that's cheeky isn't it?

Have you spoken to them - I would be surprised if this was driven by the parents as Mrs Preston111 says no sane person would add them in. It sounds like a flippant comment made when they asked.

Yes spoke to the Mum today, they had asked DD if she thought I would let her go. She said yes but she would need to know how much! They've then priced it up to discuss with me but DD has got in first and text me! I told her we couldn't really afford it at such short notice and that DD is really upset and disappointed. To be fair, she has apologized but said the excitement got the better off them

Absolutely pissing that starzig thinks everyone has a couple of grand aside for 'bits and Bob's' that isn't even savings. There are literally thousands of people that even when absolutely careful with their money cannot afford to save anything.

For starzig

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I think Starzig was just trying to get a rise out of people. I don’t believe that they don’t know anyone who is hard up or who does not having an emergency fund. I have a well paid job but do not have a pot of money put aside because my outgoings are high and I need my salary for day to day living. And I know I am in a much more fortunate position than many others on lower wages. One of the most ridiculous and insulting things I have read on here in a long time :( Re. the offer, I think they were trying to be nice, but agree it was a bit crazy to expect you to allow her to go in three weeks, or find the money. Maybe save up for a trip to Florida in a year or so and give your daughter that to look forward to instead?

Yes I talked to DD and said a trip to Florida is something I'd like to do with her and she agreed so we're going to go next year. Won't be offering the friend to come though

tactum Your situation is different. there is no right or wrong in the situation, the important thing is, that you are really open and clear, before anything is booked. Obviously the holiday costs would be much higher in your case with your dd's friend, than without, so, before you booked anything you made the offer that if she wanted to come, you would n't mind, but it was only an offer of supervision, not funding. That is 100% reasonable as long as it is clear at the beginning.
As pps have said, if you are putting an extra body in a tent or gite and in the car you are already taking, then the costs wouldn't be so very different.

And is your dd "really upset and disappointed" OP? Is she still in tears about it? Or was she momentarily upset and disappointed?

The parents of your Daughter’s friends are idiots. Don’t sweat it. Of course your Daughter is upset - but she will get over it. I would also have a word with the parents - tell them it’s A) not their place to invite your child on holiday without discussing it privately with you first and B) that £1500 is a lot of money by anyone’s standards and it’s not right to expect that anyone would have access to that money at the drop of a hat.

starzig

£1500 is a totally unattainable sum for me

I don't even have £15 left over after food and bills, can only dream of having £1500 in any account, never mind a "bits and bobs" one that isn't even savings