Mil and weaning

[Wadewilson]

Dc is 3m old now. I'm intending to wait until 6m, amd do a mix of finger foods and spoon feeding, mainly using foods we eat anyway (minus added salt etc).
I'm not against using packaged foods when out of the house, but aiming to not really use them at home.

Mil has started constantly saying how dc is almost ready for food, and only a couple of weeks to wait. I always say "no, a few months yet" but she consistently ignores me and says to dc "yes food for you soon".
She also keeps going on about how dc's first food should be rusks, biscuits and baby rice despite me saying I want dc to eat what we eat (eg carrots, sweet potato, cucumber, apples etc).

Aibu to be annoyed at her constantly ignoring my plans for my child?
It's also making me wonder if I cam trust her to look after dc or if she would give them food before I'm ready to wean.

She already does things I've said I'd rather she didn't when she is with dc, but they aren't massive issues so other than repeating myself when she does them I've not made a big deal out of them.
(Only things like using wet wipes and no cream when changing dc's nappies, even though I've said that ends up making their bum red and I'd prefer her to use cotton and put cream on)

guidelines are best practice and should be adhered to unless there is a very good reason not to.

Not really. The consequences of not following guidelines vary wildly. Guidelines are for no screentime until 2 years old. An 18 month old watching 10 mins of the Night Garden on one occasion - though against the guidelines - isn't going to have any consequences.

Feeding before 6 months isn't going to have many consequences, either. You need to be able to read the research and assess how important a guideline is/what the consequences are of not following it. You don't need to just blindly follow all guidelines, some of them are of very little import. Others (like good SIDS sleeping practices) are of more import.

Op isn't asking for more opinions about when to wean her child. She's asking whether she's unreasonable to ignore her MIL which she absolutely is not!!

Stick to your guns, OP wait till 6months.
I'm in my 50's too, oldest was eating mush at 4 months, next one waited till 6 months as did my youngest. It was so much easier and they did better at 6 months than my oldest did at 4 months.

I'm not trying to convince OP to wean earlier. I'm saying that it doesn't matter, and will have zero effect on her child. So it's just about a power play. How about letting it go, it couldn't matter less.

I would frankly turn around and say to her, "They didn't have car seats or seat belts for many years. Would you suggest I drive 60 mph down the highway with no seat belt?" Yes, THEIR kids may have been fine, but many kids WEREN'T fine. That's why we have new guidelines.