Baby not sleeping husband stropping

[confusedmummy90]

So it's gone 9 my little boy co sleeps and still boobs to sleep every night still won't self settle no matter what I have tried he's 10months DH has had a complete hissy fit as he's still awake and says he wants adult time and that he's almost a year this is ridiculous 🙄I can see what he's saying but I just think my ds won't be like this for ever Aibu to just tell him to get a grip

The time western culture suggests baby’s should be ‘sleeping through the night’ is very different to the biological norm.

Many parents have to sleep train if they are working full time etc. It’s a cultural practice which reflects modern life not what babies and children actually need or are programmed to do.

A lot of night waking is a natural safety mechanism. Adults don’t ‘sleep through’ either. We wake up and get ourselves back to sleep (some more successfully than others).

You baby sounds totally normal OP.

Treehouseroses, what is your source about the biological norm?

Right. Because it's so nice to you to not only not have an evening and have to respond to the needs of a baby (which is what he is at 10mo), but it's also YOUR duty to respond to the needs of this manchild.

I'd suggest sending DH back to his mummy.

The Man has been patient for 10 months. We are not talking about a newborn. First 6 months yes but after that baby needs a proper routine. He is right it's been nearly a year and some men would feel rightfully neglected.

The Man has been patient for 10 months. We are not talking about a newborn. First 6 months yes but after that baby needs a proper routine. He is right it's been nearly a year and some men would feel rightfully neglected

Aw diddums did I miss the input he's had to get this child into a routine? What is he doing other than whining?

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I agree with your dh tbh.
At 9 months old, I would have them asleep in their cots by 7pm to enjoy some grown up time with dh.
That's important too."

Agree with that. Also wanted to add that I'm sadly not surprised by many of the responses that are so negative about a husband wanting alone time with his wife, like that's the most unreasonable thing ever.

And people wonder why the divorce rate is so high.

Yes, perish the thought that a woman is not available for sex whenever her husband wants it.

Fuck me, she's not sodding off down the local nightclub every evening leaving her dh sat there twiddling his thumbs, she's upstairs caring for his baby! Ahhhh yes you say put the baby to bed at 7 then enjoy alone time with dh... and what if the baby doesn't want to sleep, or keeps waking up, they don't all sleep through by default you know, and those of you that had good sleepers were lucky and the rest of you are remembering through rose tinted specs.

My dc3 was a non sleeping boob fiend. He self weaned at 1year old but has only just started reliably sleeping in his own bed at night in the last few months.

He’s six years old (nearly seven).

I wouldn’t change a thing. Out of all my three he’s the most confident, most secure, happiest one.

See I bf all my kids and the youngest twins until 18 months.

But no way were they awake past 7/7.30 at this age. We needed adult time. They were in cots and self soothing after sleep training.

however each to their own