I got married three weeks ago and my firstborn time but his second marriage. After a crazy few years where’s ex wife caused problems we found common ground and conduct a working blended family relationship. I grew up in a blended family and hated the arguing and nasty comments and feeling like sides had to be taken.
Sometimes I’ve found it hard as I felt her needs over power things but have just found out she is taking their son, my stepson to a different country for the summer holidays to see family. He has always wanted to go but husband is adamant she won’t take him and has told the son he will only stay in that one place.
I’ve now been informed by stepson and his ex-wife that my honeymoon for two weeks will include his ex-wife for first half as she couldn’t fly alone and husband says she isn’t taking son alone! Then second half the stepson is coming without us then going back to ex’s family to collect ex and all flying home together.
Husband can’t understsnd why I’m not happy and saying I’m ungrsteful. But any time my own children go to their family he can’t wait to bookalone holidays or frequently asks me to send them so we can go away. But his son comes everywhere and I feel resentful that ex had a lavish wedding and party and honeymoon alone, New Home whereas I’ve moved into theirs which but I was ok with as we will move when a bigger deposit in a year but feel this is too much.
He won’t not take son as he states he will spoil him as much as he wants and always wanted to go to this place. But son only says he wants to go places after hearing MeV say them. The second half of trip is a once in a lifetime place and two days after I mentioned it and he suggested it for honeymoon in May son states it’s place he has always wanted to go and I knew my honey moon would include his child even husband honeymoon didn’t include son who was born before there marriage.
Aaaargh