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AIBU to be horrified to find an ENTIRE FORMED POO in my toddler’s bag?

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Kippenbelladonna · 14/07/2018 15:27

DS is nearly 30 months old and we started potty training 2 weeks ago, which is going really well. He goes to nursery 5 days a week and he has soiled himself a handful of times but not for a week until yesterday. Wet or soiled pants put in nappy sacks and then in his bag as expected. Yesterday he came home with DH and bag stank. Opened it to find his pants had been put in the sack with the entire poo in them. Both DH and I feel standards have slipped in last few months and have spoken to the manager. DS is happy and confident and moving in 6 months to new school nursery so don’t want to be complaining again and understand with H&S etc, staff don’t want to be handling poo but wtf....where is the red line?? What’s the standard for handling this situation in nurseries? What would you do?

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Metoodear · 14/07/2018 15:29
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Nodancingshoes · 14/07/2018 15:30

We certainly would not do this at our setting 😳 the poo would be disposed of and the pants rinsed off before being double wrapped and put in the bag. That is disgusting

Shadowboy · 14/07/2018 15:31

That is pretty grim. They could have turned it out into the toilet.

ILoveDolly · 14/07/2018 15:31

Thats gross I would complain, there's no reason not to at least flush the poo

Claricestarling1 · 14/07/2018 15:32

Agree with PP. That is so disgusting and unhygienic..I wonder how long it was left to sit in the bag??

Nodancingshoes · 14/07/2018 15:33

Saying that, I once threw some pants away as they were so bad I didn't think the parent would want them back but they actually made a proper complaint against me so who knows.... 🤔

InTheLightOfTheMoon · 14/07/2018 15:36

happened with my dd in school. she had an accident and they sent it all home poo included! would have rather they chucked the clothes tbh!

MichonnesBBF · 14/07/2018 15:39

Agree with other posters, this really should not be happening, although I have worked in a private setting before where this exact thing happened, it was a new member of staff fresh out of college embarking on her first paid job. although not a good enough excuse or reason I do think its a mix of inexperience, lack of initiative and unsure it what is acceptable to ask. needless to say the parent complained and the matter was dealt with immediately, with no lasting damage to anyone and a big lesson learned.

IamaBluebird · 14/07/2018 15:41

Off topic but why are lots of people saying 24 or 36 months. Why not 2 or 3.

WheresTheEvidence · 14/07/2018 15:41

In a room of 19 2 year olds where 8 are toilet training and 6 are trained. I do not have the time and/or inclination to wash out pooey pants. Your child will be cleaned up and if possible large lumps flushed but expect it bagged up.

OddBoots · 14/07/2018 15:42

There is no excuse for not flushing what would fall off the pants, I wouldn't expect a nursery to rinse the pants (and unless they had a proper sluice area I would have concerns if they did) but anything loose can go.

Mindchilder · 14/07/2018 15:47

Probably just someone who was busy and distracted. I would just chuck the bag and not stress about it.

Mummyoflittledragon · 14/07/2018 15:47

WheresTheEvidence
That’s the point the lumps weren’t flushed. Disgusting. And a health hazard.

IVEgotthePOWER · 14/07/2018 15:48

It should be tipped out.

Any chance they have a new member of staff? Apprentice maybe?

IVEgotthePOWER · 14/07/2018 15:50

Oh and i too have previously thrown away white undies which the child had had a very loose accident in, for the parent to complain

I think its good if early years practitioners ask parents what they would prefer them do with such pants. When my own dc were toilet training unless it was fairly firm they went in the bin.

I dont think practitioners should have to rinse them out either that is not in the job description.

LostNAlone · 14/07/2018 15:52

Thats crazy.. in our setting wed bag the poop separately and bin in the nappy bin in the 0-2 room and flush it in the 2-4 room (obviously not knowing which of these 2 rooms your child would be in at this stage in his 2yrold life)

Bibesia · 14/07/2018 15:59

What did the manager say when you spoke to him/her?

sickmumma · 14/07/2018 15:59

I work in a nursery, I wouldn't go as far as rinsing the pants, but I would drop anything out into the toilet. Then it would be bagged, unless unsalvageable where I would bin, I have had to do this a couple of times and luckily haven't had a parent complain just apologies for having to deal with it!

Coldhandscoldheart · 14/07/2018 16:01

Our nursery sends everything home. Not tipped out, not rinsed. It’s why I stopped using washable nappies.
They do ask though with pants if you want them kept or binned.

Risksrevealvalues · 14/07/2018 16:02

Why are there so many posts about shit today

jarhead123 · 14/07/2018 16:03

Sorry but 30 months?!

aldaniti · 14/07/2018 16:05

I wish our nursery would chuck the pants away rather than giving them back 😳

PitterPatterOfBigFeet · 14/07/2018 16:06

Bloody hell. AS others have said at least the poo should be flushed and the pants put in a double bag. It must be a common enough occurrence that there should be a standard method of handling poo accidents.

IVEgotthePOWER · 14/07/2018 16:07

aldaniti have you told them that?

mumpatrol · 14/07/2018 16:07

This happened to my head of year SILs DC. She was not happy to say the least she said (apart from how disgusting it is) that it was a massive H&S hazard as the nursery didn't even inform her and her DC could have gone in the bag and gotten to it not to mention in their setting the bags are left by the coat racks in the room which means potentially any child in their care could have wondered up to the backpack and opened it.
Lets just say had stern words and it never happened again.