AIBU to be horrified to find an ENTIRE FORMED POO in my toddler’s bag?

[Kippenbelladonna]

DS is nearly 30 months old and we started potty training 2 weeks ago, which is going really well. He goes to nursery 5 days a week and he has soiled himself a handful of times but not for a week until yesterday. Wet or soiled pants put in nappy sacks and then in his bag as expected. Yesterday he came home with DH and bag stank. Opened it to find his pants had been put in the sack with the entire poo in them. Both DH and I feel standards have slipped in last few months and have spoken to the manager. DS is happy and confident and moving in 6 months to new school nursery so don’t want to be complaining again and understand with H&S etc, staff don’t want to be handling poo but wtf....where is the red line?? What’s the standard for handling this situation in nurseries? What would you do?

I used to hate being given pants back that DS had pooped in. Just wanted them to throw them away - I wasn't going to wash them because would be stained after that long sorry. But apparently I had to have them back......

Throwing pants away just because they have poo on them is incredibly wasteful - ok it’s not exactly pleasant dealing with them but it all washes out.

Our nursery sometimes did this OP, when I questioned why they weren’t rinsed I was told they weren’t allowed to for H&S reasons

I told the nursery that in these instances just to throw them away, and had plenty of spares. Cheap pants! And it only happened 2 or three times!

When I worked in a nursery we had a manager who showed us how to use the loo as sluice so shake any loose poo into toilet, hold pants where most of the water will flow, then flush, which will rinse a bit more of the poo away. Lost count of the number of accidentally flushed pants.

I'd mention it for sure but hopefully it's just a one off. Seriously grim, if it happened again I'd be extremely cross.

I’m horrified that so many people would throw away pants just because they got a bit of shit (or even a lot of shit!) on them. It’s so wasteful

My son was quite likely to poop himself at nursery. They used to turn out the poo, put the dirty clothes in a bag and staple a printed note to it with tick boxes to let you know what type of horror to expect (wet or soiled from playing or toilet accident). The children often got muddy or otherwise dirty and you regularly had dirty clothes sent home. Poo washes out like everything and I'd have been annoyed if the pants got binned.

30 months? Wtf

30 months old? Do you mean 2.5 years old?

We aren't allowed to wash soiled pants, we have nowhere to do it except the sink where we and the children wash our hands - not hygienic. We throw pants away if we know the parent wants us to or if its a really sloppy poo thats a mess, if we throw pants we obviously replace them from our stock so no cost is incurred to the parent. Pants get bagged to go home and marked soiled if they are washable.
I really think it must have been a mistake, trying to do too many jobs at once.

Describing age in months is far more accurate than in years (eg. 2, 3) for children under 4. There are many big differences between a child who has just turned 2 and one who will be 3 next week. It's a twelve month period of huge developmental milestones.

Mt DCs' pediatrician always used months to indicate age when the DCs were under 4.

I can't imagine what sort of nursery would not have a big utility sink for rinsing poop or vomit - I would think it a serious oversight if any facility didn't have one.

I'm guessing the zombie poo has found its resting place by now

When my DD started in prep she still had the odd accident. Usually only wee's but one day she did a poop, the teacher who helped her get changed chucked the whole lot in the bin, she rang me to check that I was ok with that, TBH I was just happy I didn't have to clean up the poopy undies and what not haha.

Putting the whole lot in your bag is just plain gross, I would probably not complain but definitely mention it, it may have been a junior staff member who didn't think it through.

He doesn’t sound ready, that many accidents in only 2 weeks? If you wait until over 36 months they don’t shit themselves. (I did months for you, most people aren’t quite so odd)

He’ll be getting on for 39 months by now.