AIBU to be horrified to find an ENTIRE FORMED POO in my toddler’s bag?

[Kippenbelladonna]

DS is nearly 30 months old and we started potty training 2 weeks ago, which is going really well. He goes to nursery 5 days a week and he has soiled himself a handful of times but not for a week until yesterday. Wet or soiled pants put in nappy sacks and then in his bag as expected. Yesterday he came home with DH and bag stank. Opened it to find his pants had been put in the sack with the entire poo in them. Both DH and I feel standards have slipped in last few months and have spoken to the manager. DS is happy and confident and moving in 6 months to new school nursery so don’t want to be complaining again and understand with H&S etc, staff don’t want to be handling poo but wtf....where is the red line?? What’s the standard for handling this situation in nurseries? What would you do?

I've never had this happen, across 2 DC and, hmmmm, 6 different under 5 childcare setups.

That is absolutely disgusting and I would be having strong words about how appalling that is. They clearly have a staff member with no training dealing with your DC in that instance - what else do they not know?

You've got 6 months left, it's hard to move, but it's hard to have confidence in their staff training.

I'd consider making a report to the authority inspecting them too re staff training.

I think its more a common sense issue tbh

Nope we’d always tip anything “tippable” into the loo and then double / triple bag the pants separately. Then bag up any other clothes as well.

30 months??? Why not just say 2 and a half?

Vile! I would be complaining without hesitation.

Some places have a policy to do this. Maybe just tell them to throw the pants away next time if possible.

I don't think people who can't or won't flush a shit rather than send it home should be looking after toddlers, let alone being paid to do so.

I agree pen how stupid or lazy do you have to be not to realise you don’t send the whole lot home. Equally aghast at parents complaining about really bad pants not coming home!

If you can afford ££ for daily nursery you can afford to lose the odd pair of pants.

I have no idea how old your child is.

30 months 😂😂😂

I refuse to believe someone doesn’t have the time to flush a solid poo down the loo out of a pair of undies.

If my CM sent a whole shit home, in a bag she knows my child likes to open to get her stuff, I would remove my child. It's unhygienic, contemptuous, grim.

Yeah, that's grim! DD has had a couple of accidents at nursery and the offending poo has been removed and sometimes pants have been rinsed too.

So he isn't toilet trained. Put him back in nappies FFS.

My dog walker doesn't bring my dogs poos home in a bag for me to dispose of - toddler poo in a bag GROSS - should've been flushed down the toilet - glad I had a nanny

I myself am 408 months old and I have never put a poo in my bag, even when I was 30 months.

Is it possible that the practitioner meant to put the whole lot in the bin and put it in the bag by accident?
In my setting we flush solid lumps, salvageable pants get sent home unrinsed and marked soiled unless parent has given permission to bin them (parents complain about us beginning pants) unsalvagable pants get chucked in the nappy bin.

That’s disgusting. I would expect them to at least threw out the pants if they didn’t want to deal with it and told me so. I don’t mind about that. I would not accept a poo in the bag.

I myself am 408 months old and I have never put a poo in my bag, even when I was 30 month

This made he laugh hadtousethecalculatorforthatone

Kursk "I have no idea how old your child is."

How on earth can you have no idea how old the OP's child is? Don't you understand the word 'months' or is it '30' that's got you baffled?

Is it possible that the practitioner meant to put the whole lot in the bin and put it in the bag by accident?

This could have happened. A colleague of mine once bagged a reusable nappy in one bag, wipes in the other. She binned the nappy and put the wipes in the bag. The parent was LIVID and insisted the nappy was fished out of the main nappy bin ....

Yuck! No that would never happen at our nursery, it would be shaken into the loo and double bagged. We had a conversation with the keyworker in which she told us to buy a pack of primark knickers as anything bad just gets binned 👍

"30 months" sorry but YABU to say this.
Counting in months makes sense when they are babies, as a 6mo is really different from a 3mo or 9mo... at 2y 1/2 you realize you now have a toddler, not a baby anymore? He is the same as a 27mo or a 33mo......

Horrified? Calm down. It isn’t the end of the world.