Frustration with 4yo at reception settling in day

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My 4 year old is doing her settling in sessions at school this week, starting reception in September. She goes to the nursery there one day a week, has done since we found out she has a place at the school.

She cries every time I drop her off. She’s always been clingy/shy/lacked confidence, and although she had started to gain confidence over the last year when she started at a dance class, she’s gone right back to where she started - she cries when I drop her there too.

But today has just pushed me over the edge, because all of the children who are starting in Sept were there, a lot of them don’t go to the nursery, and they all looked happy, mine was the only one crying. I find it so upsetting, sitting here crying now because I just want the best for her and want her to have a good life.

I feel like I must have done something wrong for her to be so clingy and stuff.

I’ve got to say - by the time I pick her up she will be laughing and smiling, which should be reassuring but it is just so hard to watch her be upset.

Am I being unreasonable to worry that she isn’t ‘normal’?

So I arranged for DH to take her to dance class this morning - again, she usually cries but then absolutely loves it there. I’d let her take a little ring with her on the basis that she puts it away when the class starts. He said she wouldn’t put it away so he took it off her, so then she started crying, was chasing him trying to cling on and stop him leaving. Now he’s saying he doesn’t want us to send her there any more