... to ask what age did you prefer having a cup of tea to having sex?

[Blueskywhy]

There are so many posts on the boards relating to couples where one of the partners is no longer interested in having sex.

I’m in my 40s, and it still something hugely important for me.

What age did you lose interest in having sex?

In 20’s?
In 30’s?
In 40’s?
In 50’s?
In 60’s?
Never?

Genuinely curious...as it’s not happened to me (am post menopause)

47

Lucky you! It can help at any age depending on how long you've been with a man.

I'm nearly forty and my partner and I are very active

23. Then we split up and I started having better sex.

16

By about age 19.

Mid twenties

Do you mean sometimes preferring a cup of tea or always preferring a cup of tea.
Im still interested in sex, possibly less so than 10 years ago , but still have regular sex. Right now im definitely more interested in my coffee

Probably about 33, but we'd been TTC for 9 years and had failed IVF attempts by then. Sex became a means to an end and it's hard to get back the fun we used to have.

Honestly it's mostly because I just don't feel sexy and womanly anymore. I blame the failure of my insides for it and know I should try harder because when I make an effort I really enjoy it.

42 and still prefer sex....long may it last!
Having said that there were spells when I was younger but that was more to do with not being happy in my relationship. Most of my 40 plus friends are still gagging for sex....as long as it's good!

It entirely depends on with whom

I'm 48 and probably for the past 5 years Im not that bothered about sex. DH and do still have an active sex life,( once or twice a week) and I do orgasm regularly but I just never feel horny.
I'm totally dried up, no juices flowing any more at all. It's a pity, I miss it.

28

38 but I think it’s more to do with bring a lard arse and first trimester. Hoping the second trimester returns my libido.

I'm 44 and been single over 8 years.

I can't tell you the last time I had sex. Not sure I can remember what it is.

I'd better have another cup of tea. Least I can still have that pleasure.

Bowtie, that’s interesting to hear your friends comments.

Branleuse, I meant the general overall loss of interest in having sex...I know it’s not a black and white thing. I agree with you on coffee in the mornings :)

Oh god... I hope never! Is this a thing? ☹️

I lost interest in my mid twenties till I separated from xH and realised he was the problem . Have a great sex life again now.

Depends on many things. Time of day (I can manage tea at 6am but would rarely be in the mood), where you are (I think the office staff might be embarrassed and I just don’t see the Cathedral cafe being keen on any alternative to tea), what you are doing (it’s not always possible to find a decent cup of Assam on an isolated moonlit beach).

Is this not something people prefer to keep between themselves and their spouse?

Well, I didn't start drinking tea until my mid-twenties so, um, in my mid-twenties?

Just had first baby and can't imagine ever finding time for sex again

Is this not something people prefer to keep between themselves and their spouse?

Yes, and presumably that's why the OP asked on an anonymous online forum, rather than doing an official survey in the pub or the offive.

I’ve always had a very low sex drive except during my period and ovulation. I’d be happy with twice a month. The rest of the time bring on the tea.

About 30 although I've never had a high sex drive. Then when I lost our twins I'd have been happy never to have done it again but I wanted another baby. Since dd2 I have had zero interest between dcs, chronic pain and stress but occasionally make the effort for dh.

I drink tea every morning I'm not at work and I have never lost interest in sex. Regrettably, sex (and the opposite sex), has never been interested in me. I'm 47, BTW.