... to ask what age did you prefer having a cup of tea to having sex?

[Blueskywhy]

There are so many posts on the boards relating to couples where one of the partners is no longer interested in having sex.

I’m in my 40s, and it still something hugely important for me.

What age did you lose interest in having sex?

In 20’s?
In 30’s?
In 40’s?
In 50’s?
In 60’s?
Never?

Genuinely curious...as it’s not happened to me (am post menopause)

We are 65 & 57 and we definitely prefer sex to tea.

Although in this heat and with an empty house we are considering wine instead

NEVER. Tea is vile.

bellmyring does your DH now know you don't come during all this sex?

It's very odd how many people say they can't be arsed anymore with sex by 40-45ish, and are happy without it. And some women claim since they hit menopause they have zero sex drive.

Yet some people claim to be going at it like bunnies at 57 and 60.

WTF is THAT about?!

Tea is tea.
Sex is sex.

Each have their place.

I am 56 . OH and Iove our sex life.

He treats me like a goddess and I am happy to behave like one.....

I think it depends I would have said early thirties when I was married but it was actually just the marriage although I really couldn't see it

It was actually rather awful because I felt like I'd happily never have sex again (frankly it's amazing ds2 was conceived because I was far more tea orientated by then) and I felt like there was something wrong with me

When my marriage broke down again it wasn't in my radar but with DP all of a sudden it has become front and centre and afternoon delights and all sorts became of interest to me

Like anyone we go through stages but I think it depends on your relationship and what's happening for you

It's about everyone being different, Lavender, not that hard to understand, is it?

Lavender - we don't all come with the same instruction manual!

Tea is dead to me, black coffee is life and I drink gallons of the stuff, but I'd always pick a darn good seeing to by husband over it if given the choice.

I am late 30s...

It's just a bit odd that's all. How so many people over 55 claim to be rampant bunnies, when many people can't be arsed with sex at around 45.

LavendarGreen

Menopause maybe?

I am a 56 year old.

Always enjoyed sex. As has OH. Admit to "slowing down" on the straight fuck scenario- OH too.
But that has opened lots of fun doors, exploration, different focus, long term trust has broken barriers.

Sex is better than ever.

Freedom, trust, confidence, empty house, menopause ended, sex is better than ever with so few interruptions and inhibitions after 30+ years of being compromised by work, kids, tiredness.

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I don't think it's always an age thing.

I spent most of my 20s in a crap relationship were I did definitely prefer a cup of tea over sex. Oddly my libido returned almost instantly within a week of becoming single.

I'm now mid 30s and would pick sex first over a cuppa, I'm older, currently pregnant, more tired, less confident in my body, but I have a marvellous partner who I rather enjoy having sex with.

Can't believe I wasted so much of my 20s!

Asexual so it's always been tea for me.

Recently started seeing someone

Lots of sex and very good sex

But I don’t feel as sexy as I did in 20/30’s and that made sex more enjoyable but still having a good time just it’s not quite as passionate

But I do love tea

So depends on what time of day first thing on morning tea every time

Haven't had sex for 18 months. They say that women lose interest in sex but I find it's that men lose interest in me. Have given up finding somebody.

@Butterymuffin, yes DH knows I’ve never had an orgasm, with him, with anyone else, or alone. Why do you ask?

It’s not something I discussed in real life with anyone except DH.

I want it every day, twice a day! Unfortunately I don’t see my boyfriend often enough. I definitely agree that it depends on the partner. With my ex and babies father I didn’t care less and we didn’t have sex for months, possibly why he cheated on me! But this one, I just can’t get enough. I’m 27 and been with my current partner a year. He’s just as keen!

It's not just an age thing.

I thought I had a really low sex drive from my mid twenties.

However, I've since realised it's the relationship I am in. Soon to be not in that's the problem and that depending on with who, I think I would choose sex over tea.

Late 20s probably around 28

When I was in the hideous phase where the children didn't sleep at all I would have preferred a cup of tea.

At all other times - nope, I like sex.