... to ask what age did you prefer having a cup of tea to having sex?

[Blueskywhy]

There are so many posts on the boards relating to couples where one of the partners is no longer interested in having sex.

I’m in my 40s, and it still something hugely important for me.

What age did you lose interest in having sex?

In 20’s?
In 30’s?
In 40’s?
In 50’s?
In 60’s?
Never?

Genuinely curious...as it’s not happened to me (am post menopause)

I am 48, have got far more adventurous recently (with DH of many years) and need sex every few days or I get cranky. Dread the day I 'go off sex'. I think it's vital for health actually.

But I also do love a cup of tea... :)

46 and not yet. I struggle to believe it is a thing tbh!

I do get that some people aren't bothered either way ever really from when they reach sexual maturity or are even asexual & that's obviously fine if that's their thing, but I don't get that you can have been bothered and now aren't - surely that is more to do with who you are having sex with (i.e if you don't fancy them anymore)?

Don't like tea either so that probably helps ;)

32. 36 now and still feel this way, think we dtd about 4/5 times a year now - but tea, 4/5 times a night 😁

Both mid 50s here.

We both still enjoy a fairly active sex life. I don’t see things changing much in the near future.

It definitely gets better and a lot more fun once the children have left home, no worries about interruptions from anyone, or adult children hearing.

Late 20s. Relieved to find I'm not alone!

Early 30's. You can keep your tea though, not a fan. These days I can't believe that sex used to be something I enjoyed and wanted, the whole idea seems bizarre now

I would like to be different, we tried Relate briefly but the therapist was very antagonistic and we couldn't afford to keep going. It's sad but I don't know how to change it after so long. We don't talk about it anymore.

well I'm 48 and I'm experiencing some premenopausal surge' of erm lustfulness so not yet!

I'm late 20s. I still very much enjoy sex, but hormonal contraception has pretty much quashed any desires or sexual thoughts.
I don't like tea, but I'd probably choose a cream cake over sex most days. Or a gateaux. Or lemon drizzle.

Replace tea with coffee, about 30.

Honestly? I have never really been fussed. I am 37. I have always just done it out of a sense of duty to my partners. Although of course I would never tell them that and always act as though I am enjoying it.

It's not their fault - I have lots of secret hangups but I do sometimes wish it wasn't like this.

I think it’s normal to have times in your life - regardless of age- when you just completely go off sex. I think the media want everyone to think sex is the be all and end all but it really isn’t!

For me it's children, not age.

Had one child - she was very full on. It got easier, my life felt less busy, my interest in sex went up.

Had second child (as a result of the sex 😁), the cycle started again. She's two now so I'm hoping that my libido may make more of an appearance in the near future.

Right now, I'd rather be left the fuck alone to enjoy my book and coffee.

Thanks for the very interesting comments. I can relate to a good number of them personally.

The perference seems to be

1. Tea is the clear winner
2. Coffee in distant second place
3. Followed closely in third by sex

On a more serious note, I better understand why there are so many posts on the forums about mismatched sexual desires on the forums. It must be so difficult in such a situation.

On a personal note it’s not all sunshine and roses in that departement for me. Have been with DH 20 years and I know what he likes, frequency, etc. And I try make an effort. I hope he does the same!

Well, I'm 50 and would still be interested in sex with the right person. I left Ex last year, and most definitely would prefer tea ahead of sex with him.

So for me, it depends on the person. I'm nearly at the end of the menopause, so I don't know how that might affect things in future.

Think I need to start dating........

I'm 37 and I enjoy sex now more than ever, it keeps getting better (with the same DH).

I'm 47 and think about sex lots, have sex with DP as much as possible which is most days sometimes more than once. I hope it continues

59 ! had to happen sometime , but now I would rather have that cup of tea!

I’m 40 with a 7mth old baby and would still happily have sex every day!

But if the right person came along I could be tempted !

I hate tea haha so the answer would be 16!

Am 47 and still really enjoy sex with DH at least 4 times a week. On holiday we'll still have sex at least once a day. I've always found DH very physically attractive and it really boosts my ego to know he feels the same about me.

I couldn't be with a man who I didn't fancy.

NC for this ... so I can tell my truth (a few people in RL know me).

I lost interest in my 30s. When I was young I did enjoy sex, being close to partner (but never had an orgasm, with partner or alone...one of that very unfortunate and sad 10 %?)

Married now to great DH, who is still very much into sex, it’s important for him. As a result, I “pretend” to be interested, have sex 2 or 3 times a week, sometimes take the initiative, the occasional BJ, etc ... so still very active. I do enjoy the closeness and know it’s part of our relationship.

I'm 64 and would love to still have a decent sex life if DH was in any fit state. Sadly he isn't at the moment due to health issues. He's 71 and we did have a very active sex life until recently. I do love a nice cuppa though ....

I don’t really like tea either ... but have never faked an interest in it :)

I'm late forties, single for 2 years, no sex since. I'm not really fussed. Busy single mum so haven't been on a date or anything - I can't see me even getting the opportunity so mentally I've just switched off. I would like to think i will have sex at some point in the future though. Do like a nice cup of tea