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AIBU - World Cup final and 6yo Birthday party

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Viktorella · 10/07/2018 10:23

A boy in DD1's class is having a whole class party this Sunday (3pm-5pm)

Given that there's now some chance of England making it to the final, I assumed that the parents would be factoring that in to their planning at this stage (I know I would be if it was my daughter's party)...maybe moving the time of the party or having a big screen to show football at party.

I casually asked the boy's mum about it yesterday and it clearly hadn't entered her mind. She huffily responded "Well I can hardly cancel the party!"

AIBU to think that, if she doesn't consider it, she might end up with a lot of kids not attending? I wouldn't want my daughter to go (although would probably still take her out of guilt) and I'm far from being a football fan!

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HellenaHandbasket · 11/07/2018 18:06

I do love that everyone planning a party should have known it was the World Cup final and planned accordingly, but none of those who accepted invites are expected to know and plan accordingly.

This. With bells on.

Hangingaroundtheportal · 11/07/2018 18:25

I do love that everyone planning a party should have known it was the World Cup final and planned accordingly, but none of those who accepted invites are expected to know and plan accordingly.

Like others have said, it's not bad planning on the part of the parents, it's bad luck. No one, the kids or friends parents would have foreseen it happening.

But people who are saying 'oh its just a football match' are either being ignorant or disingenuous. It's a once in a generation event.

Anyway, we will know in a couple of hours. Smile

HellenaHandbasket · 11/07/2018 18:31

Only if you care though. A once in a generation football match means nothing to me.

StarCutterCookie · 11/07/2018 18:34

Do you want a medal or something?...

user1483875094 · 11/07/2018 18:34

What football match? Am I missing something?

HellenaHandbasket · 11/07/2018 18:36

What for?

Hangingaroundtheportal · 11/07/2018 18:40

A once in a generation football match means nothing to me

OK that's fine. But surely you understand that a once in a lifetime football match does mean a lot to a significant proportion of the population, even those who aren't normally that into football?!

Dietcokeobsession · 11/07/2018 18:42

It's my DD's party on sunday too and we'll be screening the match

FairyDairyLand · 11/07/2018 18:47

My son is also invited to a party. I accepted weeks ago, but did msg last night and say IF the unthinkable happens and England are in the final, he wouldn't be going. He won't remember a kids party when he is 30, but he will remember a world cup final. For me, it's important for our family to watch it together.

HellenaHandbasket · 11/07/2018 18:48

Of course I can appreciate that, but surely you can appreciate that it means nothing to a lot of people as well? Hmm

purplebunny2012 · 11/07/2018 19:04

It's the wedding day thread all over again.

Virgo28 · 11/07/2018 19:05

Personally if I had accepted an invitation for my child to go then they would go. I am a massive football fan but I would not stitch up a 6 year old kid even for a world up final.

KERALA1 · 11/07/2018 19:15

It's irrelevant that football doesn't interest some middle aged women like it or not it's a massive event and a smart host will accommodate it. My 6 year old nephew is obsessed so fair bet lots of the young attendees will be keen to watch too

DiabolicalMess · 11/07/2018 19:17

Ds has also been invited to a party starting at 6.30pm Sunday night. He wants to go, and me and dh are EnvyEnvy but we'll take him grudgingly.

MilkTrayLimeBarrel · 11/07/2018 19:19

I HATE football.

Pumpkinbell · 11/07/2018 19:34

The party will have been planned ages ago you cant plan for if buts and maybe’s. especially where england and sport are concerned. Poor girl (party girl) and poor daughter (yours) just take her . YABU

ItsNiceItsDifferentItsUnusual · 11/07/2018 19:41

@FairyDairyLand has the other parent responded, out of interest? I wouldn't be thrilled to receive that message, to be fair.

FairyDairyLand · 11/07/2018 19:48

@ItsNiceItsDifferentItsUnusual Yes, and she said its fine.. That they'd have the football on if I wanted to watch it there.. But as I said, I want my family together for it. I do see it as a once in a generation thing.

summerstorm · 11/07/2018 20:16

Why can’t football fans record the match. It will no doubt be played over and over again there will be so many discussions and post-mortems about every aspect of the game. Very very rude to expect parents to change the time of their child’s party to accommodate this. Selfish selfish people even thinking they should

DiscoDown · 11/07/2018 20:19

My DS has a party booked for Sunday too - next weekend no one would have come because of school breaking up and Holidays, and the week before it would have been miles away from his birthday. It didn't occur to me about the final because I don't follow football, it just wasn't on my radar. I can't change it because it's at a venue, I've paid for all the attendees now so can't cancel. I wasn't worried about people not coming but I am now, poor DS. Sad

NapQueen · 11/07/2018 20:22

Google a nearby pub.

celticprincess · 11/07/2018 20:26

If it was my child’s party I would have given the football amy thought to be honest. Especially if booked weeks in advance.

I have changed a party last minute though. My daughter had her party booked a few month in advance for the day of her birthday. Invited were all ready to go out at school and the day before we were due to take them in, another child gave out invites for the same date and time - her daughter’s birthday was actually a week later but they were going to be away. In the end I made some calls and managed to get the venue to change the day and the entertainment also had a slot available the following day. So the invites went out. I did mention to the other mum for future reference in case their birthdays actually were on the same day but this was when she said it was a week later. This wasn’t all very last minute though. Daughter’s birthday is end of August so we we were sending invites out the last week of term. We actually had a few weeks ahead to reorganise but it had to be done asap so we could get invites out before the summer.

Poloshot · 11/07/2018 20:31

Like it or not if we get to the final the attendance will be minimal

LondonJax · 11/07/2018 20:38

I would rather move the party than have a bloody TV on in the middle of it! And for football FFS. I can understand people wanting to stay home to watch it but asking if there's going to be a TV on with it on is taking the piss - if you want the TV you pay for it - parties cost enough money...

If you want to watch the match stay at home but with a 3pm - 5pm time slot you'd miss the first half and it's the second half that counts.

But if I were the mum I'd move the party to if she wouldn't lose money on it. Better that than her DS's so called friends finding it more important to watch a game.

Merryhobnobs · 11/07/2018 20:40

Andy Murray in Wimbledon representing Scotland and Britain.

English team playing in football cup are the only British team left in competition. They are not representing all of Britain they are the England team. Same with rugby. Other sports may have British teams or individuals but the England team are English players playing for England.

We can wish them well from other parts of the UK but it is rude to interchange Britain and England... I am Scottish not English and my nation is not England.