To think it's weird to let someone else change your baby?

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No, not PFB! FWIW, other two dcs went to nursery and but 3rd DC very clingy and I just can't imagine sending them to nursery and letting a stranger change them, or them being comfortable with that...

Guess I'll have to wait until they are potty trained. I don't know why, but I just feel very uneasy with letting a stranger change them... AIBU? Probably... but it doesn't feel like it!?

I think you know YABU because millions of people do this. I suppose in some ways I’d think it’s a bit weird for a ‘stranger’ to do it but it isn’t a stranger, is it? At nursery it will be a nursery worker who will quickly know the child. Or family might do it, who would likewise not be strangers.

YABU ... and odd!

sweet fucking jesus. Yes YABU. very. get a grip

Yabu.

Why is it ok for your first and second children, but not your third? 🤔

Yabu. Really really unreasonable. How do you think parents work?

Also don't understand how you can be fine with two dc but not with the third...

I would never turn down an offer for someone to change my baby!

Yes you're being weird as fuck. Is the third one a different sex to the other 2?

yes how weird for a trained professional to change your child when you pay them to do so as it is part of their job role 🤨🤨

Could you have posted natal depression.
It seems pretty strange that you were relaxed with your first and second yet paranoid when it comes to your third.
Some parents do not have a choice.
Also what would you rather nurseries do leave a baby in its own shit all day.

But, it is weird. Inherently. Also, so many horror stories about nursery staff lately...

A nursery worker isn’t a stranger, they are a fully vetted professional that knows your child. And that was ok for your DC1 and DC2 so yes you’re being very odd.

Is it possible you're suffering from anxiety? You've been happy to send DC1 and 2 to nursery and felt comfortable with them being changed, but not DC3.

I had a very clingy needy child who was changed at nursery and at his nanna's, I even reckon an uncle and/or aunt may have changed him from time to time too , He was changed also at school as he has special needs and development delays that meant he was in nappies for a fair chunk of primary school too. So despite being very clingy and all about mummy, I did let other people change him..

Not unreasonable, just strange.

Erm. Yes. Odd.
Friends and family have changed my DCs, not to mention nursery workers. And I have changed numerous babies. It takes a village and I'm glad I'm part of one.

Also, I didn't have a choice in nursery workers changing them. Not if we wanted luxuries like a home and food so I would have just had to suck it up anyway.

YABVU and you must be aware that any working parents with dc younger than 2 would have to have somebody changing their child.

Better than them not changing your child and leaving them sat in their own poo all day isn't it?

Reported

Reported? Why?

Why report?

No it’s not inherently weird. In most societies and for most of history many of the tribe would be looking after each ofhers’ babies, not just each mother looking after her own. What about all the babies of women who died in childbirth all the time?

Nursery workers are DBS checked. There are not that many horror stories. You so sound very unreasonably anxious.

Very strange attitude to have

Also, so many horror stories about nursery staff lately...

No there isn’t.

I’ll literally do anything to get out of changing my DCs shitty nappies. Doesn’t bother me who does if it means I get out of it.

for you.

Reported, I assume, because what you're saying is so far beyond the reasoning of any, well, reasonable person - so completely fruitcake loopy - that inevitably some people are going to think you're trolling.

I really hope you are.