To think it's weird to let someone else change your baby?

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No, not PFB! FWIW, other two dcs went to nursery and but 3rd DC very clingy and I just can't imagine sending them to nursery and letting a stranger change them, or them being comfortable with that...

Guess I'll have to wait until they are potty trained. I don't know why, but I just feel very uneasy with letting a stranger change them... AIBU? Probably... but it doesn't feel like it!?

Yabu and it comes across as judgey of people who put their child into paid care. As in (and v much taking it personally) if you let other people look after your child = bad\uncaring parenting.

Yes it’s weird to let a stranger change tour baby.

A professional who’s trained, qualified and built a relationship and bond with them? No, not a little bit.

What horror stories have there been lately?

No, I'm calling bullshit on other people's attitudes. Once your child is out of nappies it's inappropriate for strangers... but, not when they are in nappies?

It is weird and, i'd say, confusing for an aware child.

I'm almost With the woman who said you should ask kids before change their nappies...

When I was younger, with small children of my own, I worked in a nursery and changed thousands. After a while, when I would see DH naked my first impulse would be to slap a diaper/nappy on it. When you are changing dozens a day, it's quick and unmemorable. Babies and toddlers are all about the same, nothing anyone is talking about or comparing and in a nursery, nobody lingers over the chore, as there is so much more work to be done. You are being very, very strangely unreasonable.

I’ve changed each and every one of my nephews and nieces on too many occasions to mention - their parents were glad of the help! They’ve also all (except for 2) gone to nursery whilst still in nappies and been changed there. At least two of said nephews were all about mummy, but to be honest, if they needed changing they needed changing - it took less than 2 minutes and it was fine.

In the gentlest was, it sounds like you have a lot of anxiety around this - are you planning more children, or is this your last? As someone said, is DC3 a different sex to your other children?

Also, even with potty trained children, you know they have accidents and need help to change - even at school sometimes (with two members of staff if they need physical help). Being out of nappies is no guarantee they will never need ‘to be changed’ again.

What is with posters sexualizing infants and children on here lately??

OP.

Yes, it would definitely be inappropriate for a stranger to change my child’s nappies once they’re out of nappies

How many strangers are likely to ever be in the position to change your child’s nappy?!

Nursery workers are not strangers - they build a relationship with the children in their care.

Yes, if it was a random person in the park changing a baby they’d just met - peculiar. But that - to me - is only truly a stranger situation.

And children aren’t ‘aware’. If they are then that’s a huge problem

They're strangers when kids start nursery?!

I'm actually not anxious at all.

Op you have problems. Im reporting you. Its vvv strange talking about your third can just about get someone with pfb but by the third...

Why am I being reported for having an option! WTAF?

WTF. Get a grip. I think you've got a screw loose somewhere

Because it’s very much a bit wrong OP

Ok, so why was it fine for your first 2 children and not your third?

But, it is weird. Inherently

No, it isn’t. And you can ‘call bullshit’ all you want, that doesn’t make you right. Whoever is caring for them should change them. Unless you think no child should be cared for by anyone other than their mother and father for the first 2 years of their life?

*opinion

Grr, autocorrect!

Eh? But they do still wipe my DS's bum now he's out of nappies.

A complete stranger operated on my son's heart at 3 months old... WIBU??

(Or three years, or however long it takes to potty train that particular child)

I think you have trust issues

It’s not just having an opinion, is it OP? You are implying something about both parents who need to use care to go to work and nursery workers.

And interestingly, most people aren’t hung up on this because they don’t sexualise children. I do wonder about the thought process of people who are actively worrying about this type of thing.

What could possibly be inappropriate or weird about taking care of the basic needs of a baby? What about old incontinent people in a care home? What about when you give birth and you have people poking about in your fanny? Sometimes caring for someone and meeting their needs involves intimate care. There is nothing odd or inappropriate about this.

You still haven't answered.
What are working parents supposed to do.
What are nursery staff supposed to do when a child shits leave them to stew in it all day.
I'm promise Its not my intention to be a confrontational bitch. . I'm genuinely curious for the solution.

In fact, I think squeamishness about this is in itself inappropriate, as it implies some kind of sexual element where there is none.

It would be weird for a random stranger yes but not a paid and trained professional. They dont just let anyone with no qualifications or checks done work there. It's no weirder than nurses doing smear tests or health care professionals wiping an old person, it's their job. And it wouldn't be odd or confusing for the child either because they aren't 'precious' about that area, they don't feel embarrassed or self conscious about that part of them because they aren't old enough to. To them it will be no different to having so.eone put their shoes on for them.