To be annoyed with husband

[Rosie342]

I feel I am being unreasonable.
My husband went to the pub today to watch the England match, something I told him to do instead of just sitting in with me, his 24 weeks pregnant wife to watch it. He asked a few times if I was ok with it and I pushed him to go, no big deal. He said he'd be home about 6pm having gone out at 12. I never asked him to come home or what time etc.
8pm rolls around and I take the dog out since he's not back, this has hurt my stomache because she pulls and is quite big. I get home and he's at the front door having forgot his keys and informs me he is home at 9pm to change his shoes because he's going down town.
I'm annoyed because;

1. We were supposed to spend the evening together child free before our new addition comes along and I had asked my mother to watch our other child.

1. I've hurt myself walking the dog because he was inconsiderate enough to leave me to do it.
2. He never told me he wanted to go out to town so I've not eaten all flipping day because we were supposed to get a pizza.

And 4. I'm pregnant, alone, in a bit of pain and have only seen him for about 1hr today because he was working all morning. We've not had time alone in months and he's decided that tonight he wants to go out.

Yeah.... mine went out for an hour at 4 🙄

They’re plebs.

This will never happen again for England in our lifetimes.

Let him embrace it!

Let him be.. your hormonal and this really isn’t that big of a deal...

You don’t want to be that controlling “poor me” pregnant woman do you?? Positive thoughts!! X

You have forgotten the real reason!
Its coming HOME YABU

Order dominos and set yourself in for a lovely bath and the bed and remote to yourself! Stick him a duvet on the sofa for when he rolls in later so he doesn’t disturb you

That's why I've not said anything to him. It's just the fact he'd been banging on about having time alone together, I've managed to get someone to watch our other child and he's decided last minute to go out. I'm fine with him going out had he said that to me even just yesterday, it's just because it was literally half an hour ago

I hope these responses are helping you as much as me OP..

I do need to chill out 👌

YANBU he has got a bit drunk (presumably) and acted selfishly. It's not ok to do that even if we win a football game.

I would be annoyed at this.

NT don't be a dick.

OP sorry, but if he's like this now, what do you really think he's going to be like after baby is born?!? Answer: NOT BETTER.

It would really piss me off too! So yanbu

for you op,football or no,you'd planned a night out and he let you down.
Tomorrow YOU have a nice relaxing day,don't lift a finger let him take over the other dc and your dog.
Perhaps you can have another night out in the week?
It's no fun being pregnant in this heat let alone being on your own too.

Youre 24 weeks not 38! This is by no means your last chance to have a child free night. He's gotten swept up in the excitement of England winning. Yes he's been inconsiderate but I would really let it go.

@ErrmWTAF We already have a child. This is the first time he's gone out in months and it is only because of the world cup, no need to start bashing his parenting he's a wonderful father and obviously hasn't left me holding the baby because neither are here.

@NT53NJT pessimistic much? I don't follow football but surely the E flush team can't be that pathetic.

Let him be.. your hormonal and this really isn’t that big of a deal.... Nice

It’s understandable that you feel a bit pissed off Rosie. Sure it’s an exciting day but being left home alone all evening when you were expecting to spend it with your partner is a bit shit.

I’d have a chat with him tomorrow and say that you want him to step up with dog walking and making time for you. There will only be two more matches tops, so I would write those days off and plan something on the other days. You still have quite a few weeks before your new addition so he can make it up to you.

And don’t let anyone dismiss your concerns as being ‘hormonal’. It’s a shitty anti-woman sentiment that implies we are all at the mercy of our biology. We all have hormones -men and women - and of course they influence us, but that doesn’t invalidate how you feel everyday for the entire 9 months you’re pregnant!! You’re allowed to feel let down or disappointed without someone writing it off as pregnancy hormones.

@huha we have another that rarely goes to grandparents house because of their work commitments so yeah it could be one or the last times

@OP YANBU, he's been very selfish. It's not like we have peace has been declared after a long war (that might be an excuse although even then you'd think he'd want to celebrate with you).

Nofilter, etc - are you NOT reading that OP's DP promised to be back by stime?

Having a pizza in the evening doesn't mean you don't eat the rest of the day, especially when pregnant. That's on you.

YANBU to be annoyed, I would be too for a little bit. But then I’d leave it be. Order a nice take away and have a nice relaxing bath x

Think you answered your own thread with this one this is the first time he's gone out in months

And don't not eat all day again especially in this heat and pregnant, that's just daft

@bigchris it's not the fact he's gone out, I'm fine with that. It's just the fact he decided to cancel our plans as small as they are on the day without even telling me until he was already going.

I would have been furious if I were you.. sorry.

@racecardriver well last time we got to a world cup semi final was 1990 and the time before that 1966. It's a bloody long time to be let down by the players of previous years

I am fed up of the World Cup being used as an excuse for people to behave like dicks.