To be annoyed with husband

[Rosie342]

I feel I am being unreasonable.
My husband went to the pub today to watch the England match, something I told him to do instead of just sitting in with me, his 24 weeks pregnant wife to watch it. He asked a few times if I was ok with it and I pushed him to go, no big deal. He said he'd be home about 6pm having gone out at 12. I never asked him to come home or what time etc.
8pm rolls around and I take the dog out since he's not back, this has hurt my stomache because she pulls and is quite big. I get home and he's at the front door having forgot his keys and informs me he is home at 9pm to change his shoes because he's going down town.
I'm annoyed because;

1. We were supposed to spend the evening together child free before our new addition comes along and I had asked my mother to watch our other child.

1. I've hurt myself walking the dog because he was inconsiderate enough to leave me to do it.
2. He never told me he wanted to go out to town so I've not eaten all flipping day because we were supposed to get a pizza.

And 4. I'm pregnant, alone, in a bit of pain and have only seen him for about 1hr today because he was working all morning. We've not had time alone in months and he's decided that tonight he wants to go out.

It's a bit selfish but he's been swept up in it all. I'm pregnant too and was designated driver yesterday, shopping in town to get MILs birthday present (very hot) then drive for an hour picked up a couple of friends went to the pub for football 2-6 then dropped friends off and went to another friend's BBQ DH had a good drink both at the pub and BBQ and fell asleep on the hour drive home. I was the only one not drinking all day and the pub had no aircon and was sweltering, but you know what I had a great day. It was loads of fun.

Just make sure he makes up for it today and takes you somewhere nice for lunch and you get the pick of TV/film tonight.

Nobody asked you to walk the dog. I imagine the dog probably asked to be walked, as it didn’t want to shit in the house

Since a lot of people seems to think that their partners completely changing plans last second without any notice is fine I feel very sorry for you. Yes I was/am annoyed he changed plans last second. I did not tell him what time to come home because it was HIS IDEA TO COME HOME AT 6PM SO WE COULD HAVE TIME TOGETHER NOT MINE! I have not nagged at him and not once did I say I had so stop the assumptions. If this was not the world cup I'm sure opinions would be different, just because another person put a ball in a net does not mean that partners can completely disregard their spouses. Like I've said I arranged the child care because of what he said, NOT ME.

Also no, no one asked me to walk the dog but like a PP has said she didn't want to shit all over the house and if I hadn't of walked her she wouldn't have been walked. It's common sense and no she will not go in the garden/yard to do her business because there is no grass

OP isn't being hormonal! That was a shitty thing for him to do! I hate being let down, such a disappointment. I'd have a word with him about how you thought he'd be home to spend some time together as that's what you'd discussed and that you felt very disappointed that you'd waited in for him and you could have made other plans. It was really inconsiderate and the fact that it's the World Cup isn't an excuse for not at least letting you know he changed his plans!!

YANBU op but really what was the point of posting the question on here? You clearly don't think you were being either, given your big shouty capital letters at other posters who have suggested that perhaps as a one off under the circumstances yesterday (football glory) it's not such a crime your husband has committed.
Honestly I get the need to have a rant - but asking on AIBU is really just asking for a difference of opinion. If it upsets you when people disagree with you then don't ask!

rh- blood group so a bump to me or a push and I fall in an overly packed pub full of excited and drunk fans can be quite bad.

Why is that? I have rh- blood, and I was never told that a bump or fall would be worse for me than for someone who was rh+. I had to have that RhoGAM shot, but other than that, I was never told there was a difference.

@steff13 I didn't mean it could be worse it's just me being overly cautious for it I suppose because I hate injections and each bump could mean a new injection

OP my DH forgot our 18th wedding anniversary today. His mum reminded him last night and he went to supermarket & got me a card, some flowers, small box of chocolates and some fizzy wine. Only thing is the card said birthday and not anniversary. I was furious and have sulked all day. Have decided to forgive him as he is generally a good husband and father. He is now making steak and peppercorn sauce (from scratch) with all the trimmings for tea and has even offered to iron DC’s school clothes. So I have decided to forgive him for the sake of ruining our otherwise good marriage.

I would be upset he cancelled our child free night if it doesn't happen at all really. He could easily go out while you babysit.

I notice the OP didn't answer why she was so irresponsible for not eating all day.

@Eliza9917 by eating all day I meant a substantial meal. I had snacked but had I eaten all day I would not have been able to eat later as we had planned. I am a small person, with a small appetite and only eat when hungry, generally if I eat after 12pm anything bigger than an apple I'm not hungry till about 8pm.

It's not as though I starved myself, I made a conscious effort to be able to eat at the time we had planned. Unfortunately I unlike others am unable to just eat for the sake of eating

I think any person that goes out to watch the football to not expect them back for hours, they get caught up with everything especially if England win!

I would have upset too OP, but if he doesn’t have form for this, I’d probably cut him some slack since it is such a huge thing that England won (and I hate football, but even I understand this was a pretty big deal). I think he probably just got carried away in the moment and hopefully he will apologise (and you are in your rights to ask for an apology as he was inconsiderate - he could have text much earlier to say would you mind if he carried on the celebrations for example)

He apologised after i told him I thought he was inconsiderate. We have left it at that and he's promised to just let me know beforehand in the future if plans change.

he's behaved badly. just cos we won a fucking football game doesn't excuse twerpy behaviour. at this rate i really hope we don't win the next game...