To be annoyed with husband

[Rosie342]

I feel I am being unreasonable.
My husband went to the pub today to watch the England match, something I told him to do instead of just sitting in with me, his 24 weeks pregnant wife to watch it. He asked a few times if I was ok with it and I pushed him to go, no big deal. He said he'd be home about 6pm having gone out at 12. I never asked him to come home or what time etc.
8pm rolls around and I take the dog out since he's not back, this has hurt my stomache because she pulls and is quite big. I get home and he's at the front door having forgot his keys and informs me he is home at 9pm to change his shoes because he's going down town.
I'm annoyed because;

1. We were supposed to spend the evening together child free before our new addition comes along and I had asked my mother to watch our other child.

1. I've hurt myself walking the dog because he was inconsiderate enough to leave me to do it.
2. He never told me he wanted to go out to town so I've not eaten all flipping day because we were supposed to get a pizza.

And 4. I'm pregnant, alone, in a bit of pain and have only seen him for about 1hr today because he was working all morning. We've not had time alone in months and he's decided that tonight he wants to go out.

I would be angry too OP but I'm also 32 weeks pregnant so maybe I'm slightly biased. If he doesn't do it regularly maybe let him off this time? You can choose your own pizza toppings if that's any consolation!

@NT53NJT how long is life expectancy where you live

I'm thinking I'll just let it go, he never really does this without telling me a day or two in advance. Like I've said I don't care if he goes out, that's fine. I'm just annoyed he's cancelled on me kind of and with such little notice.

First things first - have you ordered your pizza yet?!

It's annoying but like you say it's a one off. They've probably all decided they want to stay out to watch the next match as it's all quite exciting now and he's been carried along in a wave of excitement by his mates.
In 2 days time I think you'll have forgotten all about it seeing as he doesn't have form for this kind of thing.

Can you go out with him?

@AnnabelC I'm pregnant and have a very big bump, rh- blood group so a bump to me or a push and I fall in an overly packed pub full of excited and drunk fans can be quite bad. If I wasn't pregnant I would be out in my English shirt, downing pints like any bloke 🤣

I'd be fuming if m6 do cancelled a rare date night with babysitter sorted at short notice, to go out with mates which he could probably do any time

myrelationship erm No!?! OP clearly states she thinks she’s being unreasonable already. Sounds like they have a good relationship. Partnership is a lifetime job, what’s the point of sweating the small stuff... it’s the World Cup, and YES hormones play a part because when pregnant you are unable to go out and party yourself so can feel a bit bitter and jealous and take it out on the other person which isn’t right either. A good/happy relationship is about give and take and being flexible...

Might aswell let him have fun now as that sleep deprivation is in the post!

Not m6 do, my dh!

Awwwww. Sorry to hear that. Big hug. X

I can understand you being pissed off, but I can also see your DH point of view if he’s got caught up in the atmosphere of the day. If it’s only an occasional occurrence then I’d would be inclined to let it go.

@rosie is definitely be making the most of pointing out that he owes you some fun here though! Chalk it up hehe

@Nofilter I'm not bothered he's gone out to drink and party just annoyed he's cancelled on me last minute on a rare child free night to do so without any notice. Don't drag hormones into this, that's not the issue and you sound quite misogynistic by claiming it is.

Good advice 🙂

Yeah it's a bit annoying but definitely understandable and forgivable. He has obviously got swept up in the moment and by the sounds of it, he is a great dad and hubby. And let's face it, the chances of the nation being this excited about England in the World Cup again is slight, so let him crack on with his night, you order your pizza, sit with your feet up, lovely film or bath or however you relax, and savour the night before your beautiful baby arrives.

@rosie I was trying to be lighthearted with you as you sounded like you already felt that you didn’t want to turn this into a negative thing...

You don’t sound fun at all.. maybe don’t ask people for opinions on a public forum about your private life if you don’t like people’s opinions? Hmmm

@Nofilter If you meant it in a light hearted manner fair play, but it's hard to show that through typing on a computer/phone. Otherwise things like that just sound patronising

Op - I agree, nothing to do with hormones, it's horrible to be cancelled with little thought given to it (plus you feeling rotten after walking the dog etc).

It's not a LTB situation obviously, but I think you need to have a conversation with him tomorrow about how inconsiderate he's been today and how you need him to be a bit more thoughtful in future.

I’d be pissed off too. I’d say if he wants you guys to spend some time together it’s his job to organise plans for your dc, you’ve done that and been stood up without even a text message.

Rosie very true xx

@Nofilter don't make silly comments about people's feelings being nothing but hormones. That in itself turns it negative there was no need for it

Mentioning hormones is mysogynistic??

Of course it’s not! 😂 like it or not, a vast majority of women get slightly irrational once a month. When pregnant it’s worse.

I’m pregnant and I can hand on heart say that hormones are playing a massive part in how I am reacting to stuff. Not wanting anyone to mention it doesn’t mean it’s not a thing.

Why have you not had alone time in months moths if he hasn’t gone out for months??

And why didn’t you eat?? Ffs.

I think, cut him some slack.