To think my dh is pathetic about a doctor

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So I am currently 28 weeks pregnant and having problems with my heart- palpatations etc. Yesterday I saw a doctor who did an ecg and I have to go back on Monday for another one and a heart echo with a cardiologist. My dh was helping me take the stickers off last night from under my breast and asked me if I had to take my bra off, and if it was a man or a woman. I told him it wasn't under wired so I left it on just undone and they just had to go slightly underneath to put the stickers on, and that it was a female midwife who undone/done up my bra but a male doctor who did the ecg. He suddenly got grumpy and said that was disrespectful and I should have asked for a female to do it, and that I need to ask for a female cardiologist on Monday I told him I just needed to see any doctor that was available and he's being pathetic, and he said I wouldn't like it if he had a female doctor look at his penis?? Apparently he's not BU as women are most likely to have affairs with doctors!
Aibu to think he is acting like a totally pathetic child over me getting medical help over an important issue that could potentially affect our unborn baby??

What a twat.

Seriously weird!

I think you need a doctor. A qualified one. The content of the doctors pants isn’t relevant and he needs to get a grip. Is he controlling in other ways?

That's really worrying behaviour - not just that he's an idiot but that he thinks that he has a right to dictate what you do. It sounds like he sees you as his property - yuck.

That is some seriously fucked up thinking. He thinks he owns your body.

He’s an idiot. Doctors have seen most things. I’ve a male gynaecologist who I see on a yearly basis for an ongoing issue, I don’t think dh has ever made a negative comment.

Erm he’s an idiot.

If they were looking after my DH well, I wouldn’t care if they were a tri-sexual blue alien!

How is he going to cope if you have a male obstetrician - for my birth the male consultant did all my stitches inclduing some internal ones

He is being an idiot

What is his religious background OP? Does he believe that men and women should not have physical contact outside of their husbands/wives?

It really is worrying behaviour and I'd be very firm and clear in my response to this. As you say, you needed to see a Dr - the fact he has jumped to 'women have affairs with doctors' is very extreme and downright disrespectful to both you and the Dr.

Would he have thought it reasonable if the doctor had refused to do your ECG because you were a woman and his wife wouldn't like it? Thought not. He is being unreasonable!

Is this type of Neanderthal way of thinking common within your husband's culture/family, or is he this cuntish all on his own without years of brainwashing as an excuse? I know one thing, I wouldn't stand for it.

What a complete arse.... (please show him this thread...)

Yes of course all male doctors and gay female doctors get their kicks putting on sticky pads slightly under womens' breasts .... He needs to give his head a wobble...

Does he also object to male gynaecologists and obstetricians.... You may have some when you give birth...

Your heart is far more important than his ridiculous sensitivity about this

How disappointing that there are still men who think like this. And that you have to deal with it while you are pregnant.

Not good op.

If he’s like this about an ECG what’s he going to be like during the birth? You may get a male midwife and there could be male doctors involved in assessing you which will involve looking and feeling how far you are dilated etc.

Is he usually like that? You’d expect his overriding concern to be that there’s nothing seriously wrong with you. How did you respond?

Unless he's doing the ECG with his penis ( maybe a new technique this sage old nurse hasn't heard of) I'm pretty sure that your DH is over reacting hugely.

Is he going to grump if your lo is delivered by a male doctor as he's near your vagina?

I had a cadiogram... I was naked from waist up... I had a male Greek doctor haly lying on top of me (to get the scan thing in place)... 2 male nurses were putting all the pads on under and over my boobs...

Theu couldn't control their sexual desire... That's no then... Theu were much more interested whether I'd inherited a serious potentially fatal heart condition...

He is being an arse.

I've seen plenty of male doctors (and female) when I was pregnant and also for other issues. It is a total non-issue. There are also many male gynaecologists and obstetricians. I'm sure there are many female urologists too, who deal with male patients. Again, a non-issue.

Tell him to stop being such a baby.

It's ridiculous that he'd want you to risk not getting the appropriate medical care because of the doctor's sex.

He needs to get over himself and he does not dictate to you who you feel should touch your body.

DH and I have been entirely grateful for the male obstetricians and midwives (and female too) who got a lot more involved with parts of my body than sticking stickers on for my ecg. Without them me and all my children wouldn't be here and that is what matters, not male pride.

Ask him if he’d like to join us in the 21st century. Doctors are professionals and have seen all sorts of bodies. It’s important that you are comfortable with the doctor, not that he is! You might remind him exactly who is having tests and why.

Seriously what is he going to be like if you have male health care professionals looking after you in labour/birth. I had a few problems during labour and I can't even tell you the amount of male doctors that had a look up there and my DP didn't bag an eyelid. He did have to look away when the doctor was checking if I had internal tears in my back end after stitching up my episiotomy but I don't blame him for that . Seriously though OP you should address this issue now as the last thing you need during labour is to be stressed and him acting like an arsehole.

There were A LOT of men present during my c-sections and i was naked from the waistdown - some of those men will have saved the life of me and my babies. Doctors are doctors are doctors and while i know some people do have legitimate reasons for people to request same-sex medical staff it sounds like your partner thinks you are about to jump on any man that sees your boob which is incredibly disrespectful.

he said I wouldn't like it if he had a female doctor look at his penis??

How ridiculous. How does he think doctors, or indeed any of us, make it through each day without being overwhelmed by lust? OP, I hope his idiocy isn’t making this stressful time worse.

What an absolute arse. Tell him to get his priorities right. Does he really think you are going to have an affair with a doctor when you are sick with worry about your heeart problem AND pregnant. Give me your address so I can personally come over and drop a brick on his head from a great height - ff's