for thinking my 80 odd year old Grandmother should be able to.......

[Gingermonkey]

.....go into hospital and not come home with MRSA?????
Apparently she has it in her nose which is much better than in an open wound but I'm still seething (and am now worried I'll get it, the kids will get it and we'll all end up in hospital or worse). What is it with our NHS FFS??????

Haven't read the thread but she is very likely to have had it before she went in.

Read it now and sorry your gran is poorly

Gingermonkey, you may already have MRSA, it may not be causing you any problems with your eczema. There is a product called Gloves in a Bottle, I think it's available from Gifts for the Girls (mail order). It is really good in creating a barrier and moisturising your skin.

Most hospitals no longer bother to test their staff for MRSA as a huge chunk of ther staff would be carriers. About 10 years ago we were regulary tested, and signed off sick until we were clear. But the NHS would come to a complete sandstill if that was the case now.

Hope your Gran improves, I'm also a long way from my family and it's rotten when you can't get to them when they need you most.

Oh gingermonkey I do feel for your mum. I shared a bedroom with my nan when I was very little as my mum had to care for her.

I started getting headaches & the doctor said it wasn't healthy us sharing a room so mum put her in a home & lived with imense guilt.

She has sworn all her life that when the time comes she will put herself in a home if necessary as she doesn't want to be a burden to me.

It's a difficult situation but does your gran know how hard it is for your mum. Or can she get home help? It so hard trying to do the best for everyone - what we women put ourselves through!!!

Sorry didn't mean that so to sound so hard on your gran - she is obviously feeling scared & alone as well as poorly. I was just thinking about all of you at this time.

Gingermonkey I can't give any advice about MRSA, but I just wanted to wish you and your your grandmother all the best. To be bereaved after 63 years together, to be ill and old and bewildered and in hospital - if she were my grandmother I would be wishing for a swift and peaceful end to it all too. My very best wishes to you, and her. GS xx

thank you Greensleeves and JSM. My Gran is unbelievably selfish at times and my mum far too soft. She knows how hard it is on my mum but expects her to help and thinks she should give up work to be there for her, but doesn't expect the same from my auntie (mum's sis) and I don't know why that is - she justs says that my auntie is busy (my mum is too, but you wouldn't know as she drops everything to look after my gran!). My auntie even takes money from my gran for petrol after she visits...but I'm getting into a whole new AIBU thread there!!! I'm going to try and speak to her on Friday when I go down and visit her, but last time I tried she got all stroppy with me and told me I was being morbid. I know she must be feeling so much pain after losing my Grandad but she thinks the pain is just hers. Even her GP told her that my mum hasn't had a chance to grieve yet because she's been too busy with her, but she just said 'what about me'. After having MS since her 20s and being on the brink of death so many times she is remarkable at how her mind over matter has kept her going for so long, but I just wish she'd give up and go peacefully. That sounds so heartless and really it isn't, I love her in unbelievable amounts but she is turning my mum against her and instead of enjoying their last time together my mum dreads the phone ringing in case she has fallen or has hurt herself or worse or if she is just making demands for my mum to go round - because she can't open the milk or wants something out of the cupboard.