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Wedding day....England are playing?????

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arghhhhhhh · 04/07/2018 15:11

Just been on fb and someone I know (though not well and I am nit invited to the wedding!) is getting married on Saturday. Obviously England are playing.

She has it a status on saying she has had multiple requests from guests wanting to know if the football will be shown.

Her status basically says she's angry at the messages she's had and under no circumstances will the football be shown. It's her wedding and the day is about that and that only. She's asked that no one checks their phones during the match and is even going to have a sign made for when people enter the venue as a reminder it's a football free zone.

Now she's had a fair few comments - a couple even say they wouldn't attend if they were invited due to her attitude.

What's everyone's opinions?

Me personally, I'd show it! I love football though, I've followed the World Cup through out and I'd be gutted if I couldn't watch it! I'd be making arrangements with the venue to make sure it's on.

The atmosphere would be amazing. I'd be jumping around with everyone else in my dress.....

Also a great way to break up the day. The day goes so fast for the bride and groom but the day guests....it can be such a long and tiring day. What a great way to break up the day!

Also, we are doing well, we haven't been in this situation where we may actually have a good chance of WINNING!!!! for years and probably never will again. The whole country is routing for them. Even people who don't like football are into it. I just don't think it's fair to expect people not to watch it, or not even check their phones!

Saying that....I do understand this lady's frustrations. She's been planning this wedding for over a year. I got married quite recently and know the stress etc of planning....but yeah, wouldn't make any difference to me. I'd be so excited for it to be shown!

Opinions? Is she being unreasonable? It's her and her partners day at the end of it.....I'd be worried my guests wouldn't show up though....

OP posts:
SandyFagina · 05/07/2018 14:38

Newsflash to bridezillas - most of your guests do not actually want to come to your wedding.

My heart sinks when a wedding invitation arrives as they are the most boring events known to man.

JacquesHammer · 05/07/2018 14:38

Because at least the worst of the tedious wall-to-wall coverage will be over

Says the poster who has spent a good proportion of the last 48 hours posting just how tedious it is Grin

I must be old fashioned, when I find something dull I don’t give it headspace

Rachelweasel · 05/07/2018 14:40

Primal, I didn't say they should stop caring. You can care about both but if you've said you're going to the wedding, you should go. I don't understand how family being more important than a football game is a bizarre concept to some people. Maybe I'm just lucky with my family!

MargaretCavendish · 05/07/2018 14:41

Newsflash to bridezillas - most of your guests do not actually want to come to your wedding.

My heart sinks when a wedding invitation arrives as they are the most boring events known to man.

Then don't go - because newsflash to you, most people don't care whether or not you're there.

fieryginger · 05/07/2018 14:41

Imagine how pissed your guests would be, like drunk pissed? Kick off is at 3:00. It'd be a horrible experience for a bride, to be fair.

user1466690252 · 05/07/2018 14:48

We had a major sporting event on in our wedding. we timed it that the speeches/food would be over for the kickoff and in that weird bit before the night starts. The atmosphere was fantastic and one of my best memories of the day was stood watching all our friends and family mingle together and mix drinking ans watching the sport (or moaning about the sport) either way it created a bond and atmosphere. If I was her I would absolutely show it. People are going to want to see it, she needs to embrace that and work it in her favour, rather than have people leave or watch on their phones

ReanimatedSGB · 05/07/2018 14:50

Again, if you hate weddings, why don't you just refuse to go?

PrimalLass · 05/07/2018 14:51

You can care about both but if you've said you're going to the wedding, you should go.

They want to go. And watch the football there.

Or at least not be told they can't check the score.

I've never wanted a big formal wedding at all, so that's probably why I just don't get it. I'd rather have a large screen in a garden, watch the football and have a BBQ. Big dress and formalities, which really do end up exactly the same as everyone else's wedding, are not what I would choose.

Yes they chose to go. But now there is something distracting in the background. The bride and groom can either fight it and taint things or go with it and taint things. They can't win either way really.

MyKingdomForACaramel · 05/07/2018 14:59

The football isn’t until evening so I’d definitely arrange to show it - I’ve been to a christening before where an FA cup final was shown (local team that a lot of people attending supported) and it was actually really lovely

MyKingdomForACaramel · 05/07/2018 15:01

Actually thinking about it - depending where her wedding is - if she refuses to show it at all, she stands a good chance if guest sloping off elsewhere to watch it

Lweji · 05/07/2018 15:05

Just out of curiosity:
At least half the people in the country either don't care or actively dislike men's football.

where did you get those figures from?

heatwave2018 · 05/07/2018 15:06

Isn't the football at 3pm?

MyKingdomForACaramel · 05/07/2018 15:08

@heatwave yes - sorry I’m an idiot was thinking it was an evening kick off some crazy reason.

CheekyCapsicum · 05/07/2018 15:17

My heart sinks when a wedding invitation arrives as they are the most boring events known to man

Then don't go. Save them wasting money.

Rachelweasel · 05/07/2018 15:18

Primal, I know but guests can't be annoyed if they don't want the football on a big screen at their wedding. If they don't have any interest in it, it's not fair on their day. I would personally not be bothered about phones, you can't take their phones away from them surely? I just wouldn't want a big screen showing it. At least if they can check their phones, they can see the score, check highlights and then everyone is satisfied.

Verbena37 · 05/07/2018 15:26

I’d be fuming. It’s the lady’s wedding day!!
Football is football and no, OP not ‘even everyone not into football is getting into it’. I’m certanily not and couldn’t care if England we win or lose.

How rude of people either not to go after the couple will have paid all of that money, or to expect to watch it on a tv screen!
Obviously she can’t demand that people don’t have a sneak peak at their phone but whoever does that at an important moment and in view of the wedding party is really selfish and intent on upsetting the couple.

MargaretCavendish · 05/07/2018 15:27

I've never wanted a big formal wedding at all, so that's probably why I just don't get it. I'd rather have a large screen in a garden, watch the football and have a BBQ. Big dress and formalities, which really do end up exactly the same as everyone else's wedding, are not what I would choose.

Well, good for you - I didn't have a big formal wedding either - but maybe not everyone is exactly like you?

heatwave2018 · 05/07/2018 15:34

This will probably end up on daily mail. You knew what you were getting into booking your wedding around the World Cup, you will get people cancelling if you are uptight and won't let people watch it. Wedding days drag (unless you are drunk then it goes quick) so let your guests enjoy themselves! Everyone will shut up very quick about it if we lose!

GameOfMinges · 05/07/2018 15:39

Oh it's deffo getting picked up, I called it pages ago!

heatwave2018 · 05/07/2018 15:50

Same here!

heatwave2018 · 05/07/2018 15:51

Dear Daily Mail so called Journalist... report real news rather than picking up on attention seeking mumsnet posts!

Ifailed · 05/07/2018 15:58

I’d be fuming. It’s the lady’s wedding day!!

It's also the groom's, but like most wedding threads on here they appear to be an accessory to the Most Important Day In the life of the bride.

catlover99 · 05/07/2018 16:13

YankeeZulu
I went to a wedding when England were playing Germany in a World Cup qualifier. Neither the Bride or Groom were English but they still set up a tv to show the game in an outside courtyard. England won 5-1. There was a great atmosphere and all the men who were going to slope off to the pub to watch stayed at the wedding. I’d show it if I were the bride...

I think you must have been a guest at our wedding, this was exactly our situation! I am not at all interested in football, but loads of our guests were, and it did not spoil the day at all.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 05/07/2018 16:20

England played Germany on my wedding day. Most of the men (including DH and my dad) and a lot of the women went into another room to watch the match, then came back in afterwards cheering because we had won. It was good fun and I might tease DH about it from time to time, but I married a football fan and it was his day as much as mine. If I were doing it again I would have arranged for a telly in the room we were in though so everyone could watch it and not feel they had to stay at the party to be polite.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 05/07/2018 16:20

catlover we got married on the same day as you!

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