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To be mad that some woman took her infected child to Tesco covered in fresh chicken pox?

382 replies

sausagerollsontheside · 04/07/2018 14:46

Isn't it contagious like that??
I thought they had to be dried out.
What about people with compromised immune systems or very small babies.
She was with a friend buying sweets, not urgent!! Wtf!!
It is contagious like that isn't it?

OP posts:
Ollivander84 · 05/07/2018 16:15

beauty - there is no reason to take an infectious person out when you could knowingly do that and kill another child

Theluckynumberthree · 05/07/2018 17:26

I had to take my children to Tesco with chicken pox as it was the nearest pharmacy to me to get the gel etc for it. I had no one else to ask! Maybe she had no choice! I’m sure given a choice more people would leave an ill child at home as makes it easier for them!

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 05/07/2018 17:29

Tesco do home delivery, last I heard.

Starlilly88 · 05/07/2018 17:32

My DS was on chemo for years, chicken pox could have killed him. Every time a child came down with it at school, he had to go straight to hospital and have an injection to reduce the risk of catching it. So selfish

BlitheringIdiots · 05/07/2018 17:52

I was on holiday last year with DS then 11 who hadn't had it and a child was in pool and on loungers covered in it. The mother saw me look and shouted she's been stuck in the hotel room for days and he needed to get out. I wasn't best pleased and was on CP watch for three weeks. Thanks funky DS didn't get it and has now been vaccinated

I caught it aged 21 off a child on a plane with it.

People are so selfish

Tjzmummabear · 05/07/2018 17:53

you can be Vaxed and still get chickenpox

Starlighter · 05/07/2018 17:54

YANBU OP, unbelievably selfish and ignorant behaviour. My two had it back to back, we spent almost 3 weeks indoors. It can be done!

BlitheringIdiots · 05/07/2018 17:54

Yes but don't get it as bad. I had it really bad. Came out with it Xmas eve off that bloody child and the selfish parents taking the child on a plane. It's worth the £100 for the vaccination before they are 13 because it's been said that it's almost lifelong immunity before aged 13 if given.

Strongmummy · 05/07/2018 17:59

I can’t be arsed to wade through this , but although I agree with your point OP:

  1. how do you know it was chicken pox?
  2. you’re being a bit hysterical (unless you are immune suppressed and are rightly anxious )
Semster · 05/07/2018 18:08

you can be Vaxed and still get chickenpox

People who get chickenpox after the vaccine tend to get a much much milder version of the disease.

DaisyDreaming · 05/07/2018 18:22

Maybe those who have posted saying they felt it was fine to take their child into public after all even colds can be fatal to all should visit intensive care units where immune suppressed kids and adults end up when they catch it. Actually on the bbc there was a program last year following teenagers with cancer and the boy ended up in IcU so weak because of it, his bone marrow transplant was delayed and they were worried the delay would mean his cancer had time to come back. But yes, buying sweets, enjoying a trip out or being a single parent makes it ok.

My sympathies to the poster who misscarried their baby, how very sad :(

Theluckynumberthree · 05/07/2018 18:24

Unfortunately Tesco don’t deliver certain medical items ...

happybee1 · 05/07/2018 18:25

So my partner who was immunosuppressed got chicken pox and ended up in hospital. It could have finished him off. Sorry pls don’t try to justify this.

Ollivander84 · 05/07/2018 18:29

If Tesco don't deliver then you order into a local chemist, park car outside with child and go in. Or send a neighbour or friend. Or get one to watch the child. Anything apart from take an infectious person into a supermarket where there could be 10,20, 30 people at risk

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 05/07/2018 18:44

Local chemists can be very accommodating as well, even if they don't actually offer a delivery service normally. There are umpteen ways to avoid dragging infectious kids into a crowded supermarket. You've just got to give a shit as a starting point.

RainbowsAndSmiles · 05/07/2018 18:45

I thought when the spots came out he child was no longer infectious.

NO!!! Completely wrong. Highly infectious when the spots are out, you need to wait until they've all crusted over which is usually a week to 10 days.

Bibesia · 05/07/2018 18:51

How do you know it was chicken pox? And how do you know that someone else had a very ill old lady with them? Indeed, what on earth were they doing taking a very ill person to a supermarket?

Bearfrills · 05/07/2018 19:31

according to the NHS website chicken pox is contagious up to 2 days before the spots appear until all of the spots have crusted over so it seems that you have the potential to infect more people once the spots are out, because they are infectious for longer.

Exactly.

Say on a normal day, your child encounters an average of 50 people and is in close enough proximity with those 50 people to infect them.

On Monday and Tuesday, little DC is brewing chickenpox. No spots yet but they're in the contagious period. They've exposed 100 people to it over those two days.

On Wednesday, the spots appear and little DC's parents quarantine him at home until they're all scabbed over. It takes six days.

Yes, 100 people were inadvertently exposed but 300 were deliberately not exposed to it.

It is not difficult to keep your child at home while they are contagious. It may be inconvenient and it can be boring but tough shit, part of parenting is sometimes doing things that are boring or inconvenient.

celticprincess · 05/07/2018 19:53

I kind of agree but it can be tricky. I had to take my daughter out with chicken pox as I had to take other daughter to school. I then had to take her to the chemist to get medicine and cream. Single parent with no one to leave her with.

On the other hand I was annoyed at the park the other week as a mother had her toddler on the swing and my daughter was talking to them and I heard her say ‘yes she’s got chicken pox’. She the went and touched all of the play equipment. She also had a dog with her, not on a lead, and it clearly stayed no dogs allowed in the park. My daughter challenged her about this (she’s a bit rule obsessed) and the woman said ‘the dogs fine, I forgot her lead so she can just wander round, you’re not scared are you?’ I then shouted over that she’s not scared but her younger sister is petrified so we now have to leave.
My eldest caught chicken pox from soft play, or so we think. None of the knee kids in the baby and toddler group we went to had it and we saw a lot of them but we did visit a soft play one day without the other toddlers. No one else we knew had it so this was our only though. Obviously there could have been a child pre spots when it’s most contagious. So that’s the other tricky bit. They don’t get the spots for a few days but are often very very contagious with it and spreading it around without knowledge.

Plimmy · 05/07/2018 19:54

Compulsory vaccination - inc cpx - is long overdue.

Plus legal liability for fools who could but don’t vaccinate their kids and spread disease. Probability of having infected others would do as a test in court.

Some ruinous law suits would get the vacc rates up for good. The feckless and the anti-vaxxers are motivated by selfish freeloading. The risk of being left penniless would get them down the surgery licketyspit.

LittleGift · 05/07/2018 20:00

YANBU. I am frankly astounded at the people on this thread who would knowingly put other people’s lives or pregnancies at risk in this way. You have no idea what damage you could be doing. Emergency trip to chemist maybe but going out because you want to and you don’t care about the consequences for others... I’m speechless.

Irishbookworm · 05/07/2018 20:30

My daughter recently had a rash which looked very like chicken pox, it wasn’t. It was folluculitis. You don’t always know the facts of a situation. And I think 7 says isolated IS hard, I have a husband who works away, if one child was ill I would still have 3 others to take to school etc, and I genuinely have no one else to help out.

celticprincess · 05/07/2018 20:33

Irishbookworm That why I had to take mine. I did keep her away from people at the school when dropping the other off and when we went to the chemist o made sure she didn’t touch anything and kept away from people.

kateandme · 05/07/2018 20:34

could someone answer me.if you have chicken pox and say go into a shop or playground etc.if your in the contagious stage and you touched things in that room/area.would this be enough to pass on the infection if someone else came along and touched the same things.does it carry in this way?

moreginrequired · 05/07/2018 20:36

Oh do get a grip!

She didn’t rub the child on you or anyone else; they’ll be grand. You are more contagious before the spots appear, it’s the vescicle fluid that is contagious when they have spots...

People cannot stay in the house, take time off work for that long readily, And I say that as someone who has been on immunosuppressive drugs for years

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