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Original poster

To think this is totally out of order...

300 replies

chattybee · 02/07/2018 22:24

DD1 is in year 9. Going into year 10.

Thursday her History teacher took up a meter stick and smashed it on the table into tiny pieces in rage as he yelled at the whole class for someone not shutting the door.

The teacher has hallucinations and anger issues and has taught at the school since September.

DD1 came home in tears as she was terrified since he was telling that the tigers were coming to get them!

AIBU to bring this up in school? DD1 and her entire class were so scared.

OP posts:
FrillySpidersWillies · 03/07/2018 00:12

Op just speak to the school. Raise your concerns then do whatever you think is right

EmergencyBanana · 03/07/2018 00:12

Am I not allowed to be concerned that there was literally a 40ish year old man shouting at a bunch of 13 and 14 year olds "The tigers are out" over and over whilst smashing a meter stick on a table..?

You don't know that's what happened, because you weren't there.
Retold tales gather more momentum and detail as they roll.
When I was young, my older brother had a breakdown while two neighbours were in our house. Without going into too much detail, life was becoming unbearable for him. Mother carted him straight off to the GP.
By the time the story got to the top of our street, he'd threatened to shoot himself with a gun. A GUN!! By the time it'd filtered through several other neighbours, he'd had the gun wrestled from his hands.
I kid you not. There wasn't so much as a water pistol in the fucking house! And these were adults, not kids. Be careful what you believe unless you saw it with your own eyes.

Original poster
chattybee · 03/07/2018 00:13

I guess, However I trust DD1 and the rest of her class as they practically all said the same.

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MarthaArthur · 03/07/2018 00:13

In a small area like this things spread very quickly. Not much "gossip" happens any more.

Ops whole thread is about gossip but she doesnt understand what gossip means.

MissionItsPossible · 03/07/2018 00:13

I’m a bit confused... has he been signed off for 5 days by the school or he voluntarily took it off?

RedBallpointPens · 03/07/2018 00:14

chattybee, I don't think "they" do automatically know better tbh. But if they've never given you reason to distrust them before I'd go with it. Use it as a learning opportunity to show your DD how people can have mental health problems and get on with life as normal. Treat it as you would a physical illness.

MarthaArthur · 03/07/2018 00:14

Practically all said the same? So they didnt actually have identical stories? Which makes sense as you already said your daughter missed a huge chunk of info out. This story is hairy.

Cutyourshakehole · 03/07/2018 00:14

Mission , you would have to check the board

ilovesooty · 03/07/2018 00:16

I can't get my head round the cover board being on public view.

Or the OP knowing when this teacher is scheduled to return.

FrillySpidersWillies · 03/07/2018 00:16

Ok why have you not contacted the school? Incident occurred on Thursday - your daughter was traumatised you said? It’s now Tuesday tomorrow surely as you’re very worried you would’ve contacted the school?

Original poster
chattybee · 03/07/2018 00:16

The main idea was all said the same. One student even said that the bloody teacher tried to smash a window. That was one student of the entire class. The rest all said pretty much the same.

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Cutyourshakehole · 03/07/2018 00:17

And no other teacher heard to intervene while he “rampaged” and bashed a metre stick hard and tried to smash a window and shouted about animals on the loose?

RedBallpointPens · 03/07/2018 00:18

To be fair, no two people will have exactly the same recollection of the same event as we are all human so see thing from our perspective. That doesn't mean anyone was lying. It does sound like an incredibly difficult situation for the children, even if there was done exaggeration.

MarthaArthur · 03/07/2018 00:19

Again pretty much the same is not the same as identical accounts. When things happen at work me and my coworkers always have identical accounts especially when talking to the police. So your dd misses out a whole chunk of information and another child lied completely about the event? Which part of this strikes you as a true story?

FrillySpidersWillies · 03/07/2018 00:19

Do you be in reception looking at the cover board?

Staff get emailed every morning with the cover list and it is never stated on my schools what the absence is for. I can’t even discuss my own brothers absence to another staff member due to confidentiality.

FrillySpidersWillies · 03/07/2018 00:21

OP are you a TA?

EmergencyBanana · 03/07/2018 00:21

I can't get my head round the cover board being on public view

It's the photograph for me. At age 14, or as an adult - if I'd been traumatised and terrified as claimed I'd be out of the door and making tracks pretty sharpish. Not calming down a bit for long enough to find my phone and take a snap, then get all traumatised again when I got home.

LankinMcElf · 03/07/2018 00:23

If this is really true then someone needs to bite the bullet and get this poor bloke seen to. He’s obviously not well. Please don’t sit back gossiping about his inappropriate behaviour waiting for someone else to talk to the HT.
you shouldn’t be talking to MN, talk to the school

RedBallpointPens · 03/07/2018 00:23

chattybee, in all seriousness contact the school and tell the truth. Your DD was stressed by the situation and you want their reassurance they are keeping an eye on it. Don't go in to details of what has been reported, they will know the full extent. Don't be dramatic and they won't think you are unreasonable. You are concerned because your DD faced an unusual situation and you need to know she will have support in future.

Ginormoustrawberry · 03/07/2018 00:28

Can anyone help? I was lookin* for mumsnet but seem to have stumbled upon an alternative universe 🤷🏽‍♀️

Cutyourshakehole · 03/07/2018 00:47

@Ginormousstrawberry did you enter via the storage cupboard?

Nodnol · 03/07/2018 00:59

That poor man.

Not only is his personal information apparently a free for all because of the “cover board”, but staff members also spreading malicious “facts”.

I hope the Daily Fail doesn’t run this thread for his sake.

CrustyCob · 03/07/2018 01:21

Perhaps the school is near the Safari Park?
In which case saying "the tigers are out" would be a perfectly rational comment.Wink

liverbird10 · 03/07/2018 01:37

What a lot of rot!

EnthusiasmWellAndTrulyCurbed · 03/07/2018 01:43

It's the photograph for me. At age 14, or as an adult - if I'd been traumatised and terrified as claimed I'd be out of the door and making tracks pretty sharpish. Not calming down a bit for long enough to find my phone and take a snap, then get all traumatised again when I got home

Yep. And I'm sure she's posted it all over her social media.

God, I loathe this kind of gossiping.