DP went mad at me for getting the days wrong.

[BillieTee]

We had something planned for tomorrow. I got the dates mixed up. Turns out it was today. It was a free event and there's a very similar (if not better) one on tomorrow. I told him I was really sorry and that it was a completely innocent mistake. I expected him to be annoyed but not to completely blow up at me.

He called me an idiot, told me his DC was looking forward to it, told me I need to be more organised and get my shit together. I'm 22 weeks pregnant and have a lot on my mind and got this one thing wrong. AIBU to feel hurt by his reaction? Or do I really need to get my shit together? I'm usually the organised one, I just made a mistake and he for some reason went nuts.

Why on earth are you going on about normally being organised etc here... It sounds as if you are making excuses for him. And yes he stayed out without contacting you on purpose, to make you worry and just be grateful he's back. This isn't healthy and will only get worse I'm afraid.

Lots of red flags in your post. He’s showing you his true colours. The wing mirror incident was a time when he let his guard down in front of you.

It sounds like everything is your job and now you aren’t being your usual efficient self due to pregnancy he is not happy. Don’t let him make you think this is your fault. Sorry but he won’t change.

He left his pregnant partner at home looking after his kid and didn’t tell you where he’d gone or when he’d be back. Just leave. It’s unacceptable on any level. You’d be better off on your own.

@LagunaBubbles

And yes he stayed out without contacting you on purpose, to make you worry and just be grateful he's back.

...or because he was trying to figure out a way to get out for the night, and finally found an excuse to have a fight and flounce. That's the explanation I'd be plumping for. He had somewhere to go, he didn't sit in his car until the small hours.

My first thought when I read this was what did he have planned for tomorrow (today) that he can't do now.

Then I read about the storm out and late return.

I'm not a suspicious type but who was we worried he was letting down today and dashed off to see/make up to???

My shit is never together, it's a constipated rabbit dropping affair. After I had a hysterectomy, it's like I'm living in a fog. I constantly need him to find the word I'm looking for in a sentence, asking him to text dates and text them again.

Yanbu, these things happen, it's called life. If my DH can be patient with me, you mixing up one date, would be chicken feed for him and he never gets pissed off.

It’s definitely all a bit weird. Most people who had left their child somewhere and realised at some point they didn’t have their phone would panic and go back ASAP. It wouldn’t take long for him to realise he didn’t have his phone. This just doesn’t add up to me.
So is he still asleep and you are looking after his dc?? Aren’t you meant to be doing today what you thought was yesterday, how will he do this with a hangover?? I don’t understand how he’s in bed and you are the pregnant one getting up and looking after his child. Wake him up and tell him you are going out, tell him he can take his dc to the event.

I hope he's apologetic today for how he overreacted. If not, you have a, really big problem on your hands.

BillieTee are you OK?

A massive over reaction on his part.

Hope he’s very embarrassed and apologetic today. If not (as others have said) you have serious problems in your relationship.