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To think its totally fine to do this in your own garden?

136 replies

InTheLightOfTheMoon · 30/06/2018 19:21

Would you have a problem with a neighbour sunbathing topless or in a thong bikini in their garden?

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BlueJava · 30/06/2018 22:01

No it wouldn't worry me at all.

CanaBanana · 30/06/2018 22:07

Cana would you call the police on someone topless or in a thong bikini on the beach though
On a beach I can take my children away. I can't take them away from their own bedroom window though. And maybe I would report it on a beach too. Public nudity is illegal and for good reason.

FrangipaniBlue · 30/06/2018 22:08

I do it, but only laying on my front.

If I want to lie on my back I pull my lounger into the only corner of my garden where my neighbours can't see.

It's not particularly that I care if they see, I don't give two gigs either way, it's 100% that as other posters have said, they could take photos or video and you don't know where that could end up!!

Ohyesiam · 30/06/2018 22:22

Tell your friend to get a tan through swimsuit.

Wellthisunexpected · 30/06/2018 22:23

Wouldn't bother me, but I can only see in to my neighbours garden by peering out of a bedroom window. If I could see it easily from sitting in my own garden I still wouldn't mind though.

Roussette · 30/06/2018 22:53

Cana really? There were lots of beautiful girls in thong bikinis and/or topless where I've just been but no police arresting them! There is nothing grubby, rude or wrong with it. Luckily my adult kids feel the same. They don't have hang ups

NotARegularPenguin · 30/06/2018 23:16

Public nudity isn’t actually illegal.

A spokesman for Avon and Somerset Police said the law was clear on being naked in public.

The spokesman said: "Under the Sexual Offences Act 2003, it is not an offence for a person to appear naked in public but it becomes an offence if it can be proved that the person stripped off with the intention to cause distress, alarm or outrage."

So I really can’t imagine the police being interested about people being topless in their own garden.

halcyondays · 30/06/2018 23:20

I have never understood the point of going topless like this, if it's hot enough to want to, it's just more of you to get sunburnt. It's a bit strange if your garden is overlooked, fine if it's completely private.

vampirethriller · 30/06/2018 23:26

Wouldn't bother me.

Spanglyprincess1 · 30/06/2018 23:27

Honestly who cares? Everyone has the same bits. My mates always naked at home as a lifestyle chocie and does naked beaches. Not my bag but props to them if they want to.
I wouldn't bat an eyelid. Its hardly sexualised behaviour and nudity is perfectly normal.

TheQueef · 30/06/2018 23:32

I have to endure Derek the neighbourhood gossip with his man belly out every time the sun threatens so no, no problem in the garden topless.

PitterPatterOfBigFeet · 30/06/2018 23:32

I really couldn't give a toss. I'd probably not want to look out of the window but rarely stand at my bedroom window gawping out anyway.

notangelinajolie · 30/06/2018 23:47

Only if no one can see. Otherwise it would be totally inappropriate and mega attention seeking. And tbh honest who wants to see someone elses saggy boobs and wobbly bits. Eww.

theunsure · 01/07/2018 00:00

I have done it, doesn’t bother me! It’s not often warm enough, but on the rare occasions I properly sunbathe I don’t want lines.

Our garden is fully fenced so nothing can be seen from the ground floor or outside. Immediate neighbours can see part of the garden from upstairs windows, but so what. I happily sunbathe topless on holiday so my own garden is hardly different.

I’m not dure my tits are worrhy of providing wank fodder but if someone wants to get off on it then I won’t know, so how can it hurt me? I’d be more flattered than anything. Even if it went viral online I’m not sure I’d care “woman has tits” is hardly newsworthy.
When did the UK get so bloody uptight and worried about what other peopke think?!

Mistressiggi · 01/07/2018 00:01
Envy (Vomit, not envy)
MidniteScribbler · 01/07/2018 00:08

If people can see into your yard, it's not private.

I do skinny dip in my pool, but only at night, and my yard is completely private with no one able to see into it.

PussGirl · 01/07/2018 00:24

I sunbathe topless in my garden. After work every night last week Smile

My NDN could see me if he happened to look out of his upstairs back windows, but he keeps the curtains closed because it's south-facing & the rooms get too hot.

I sit in a recliner chair & don't wander around my boobs are not exactly noticeable from a distance

I always have a top ready to put on if I hear someone coming through the side gate.

PickAChew · 01/07/2018 00:35

Yes because one boundary is 3' high and the other is 25% fresh air. Never mind what can be seen from upstairs.

quizqueen · 01/07/2018 01:04

I've sunbathed topless in my own garden and on a public beach. I can't see anything wrong especially if there's a 6ft fence in between gardens. I expect all those complaining on here will say it's fine for a woman to get her boobs out to feed her baby in public and, yes, I've done that too.

1forAll74 · 01/07/2018 01:06

I live in a very old terrace house,the type that you have to walk past everyones back door to get to your own, and its not very private garden wise. But it would not bother me at all if any neighbour was lying sunbathing half naked in their patch. My immediate neighbours,who are mid fifty in age,do like the sun,but I just hope they don't do a full strip off.as their bodies should not been seen naked, as I would not be able to stop laughing if I saw them..

I personally hate sunbathing,,under a shady tree with a book and tea or wine is more for me.

Coughy · 01/07/2018 02:58

I expect all those complaining on here will say it's fine for a woman to get her boobs out to feed her baby in public and, yes, I've done that too.
Quizqueen if you had actually breastfed i doubt youd say get her boobs out in public because you actually show very little when you breastfeed. Its in no way the same. Hmm

Kursk · 01/07/2018 03:10

It’s their property, they can do whatever they want

PostcodeJack · 01/07/2018 03:19

I have a low fence. Neighbours regularly sunbathe in pants. Don't think they'd give a shit if I got my tits out

ladybird69 · 01/07/2018 03:29

Hi NRFT but I have nothing against sunbathing topless/naked in back garden when not overlooked (I have done ) My house is on the market now with a totally secluded back garden if anyone is interested?!!!!!! 😁

LampHat · 01/07/2018 03:35

MN is a weird place sometimes.