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To think its totally fine to do this in your own garden?

136 replies

InTheLightOfTheMoon · 30/06/2018 19:21

Would you have a problem with a neighbour sunbathing topless or in a thong bikini in their garden?

OP posts:
HidingFromDD · 30/06/2018 20:06

I discovered my ndn did this when I was opening my window. But, it's a dormer bungalow and you actually need to be leaning out if the window when you see. Can't remember why I was actually leaning out of the window but it's not something that happens often! I couldn't care less tbh

Pebblespony · 30/06/2018 20:12

Nah, wouldn't bother me. I've seen boobs (I have some) and I don't see the big deal.

Ilovemypantry · 30/06/2018 20:14

No big deal...unless you’re in the front garden 😱

sockunicorn · 30/06/2018 20:19

i wouldnt care. if they were running round screaming and shouting and encouraging everyone to look i would think they were attention seeking but just laying quietly sunbathing/chatting i wouldnt bat an eyelid.

caithuait · 30/06/2018 20:20

I think it's a bit much in a terraced garden tbh.

Vitalogy · 30/06/2018 20:20

I wouldn't have a problem with it. Although, we used to live next door to a bloke that used to walk around totally starkers in his garden. The fences were only about three feet high though, in a row of terrace house, overlooked by another row of terrace house. Must have been around 30 house overlooking his garden.

Luckily we were moving for other reason. but he came around one day to ask if we minded Confused I said "we're moving mate"

So that was yuk.

Birdsgottafly · 30/06/2018 20:28

Personally I'd use the nipple covers that you can buy. It's the thought of an underage lad, or pensioner man wanking off while they watched me, would put me off.

I always made up my white bits with false tan. You can buy bikini's that you still tan under, so I don't see the need tbh.

yikesanotherbooboo · 30/06/2018 20:29

I think it's ok in a terrace house situation with a back garden. I'm not sure really what the problem might be.

happypoobum · 30/06/2018 20:31

I wouldn't be remotely interested.

OnlyaMan · 30/06/2018 20:33

"The fences are 6ft but could neighbours could probably see if looking out the windows."
I think this says it all. In the current hot weather...……..why not? Who really cares?

Oysterbabe · 30/06/2018 20:34

Personally I'd use the nipple covers that you can buy.

You mean these? I guess that might jazz things up a bit.

To think its totally fine to do this in your own garden?
littlemissdynamite · 30/06/2018 20:34

@birdsgottafly

I always made up my white bits with false tan. You can buy bikini's that you still tan under, so I don't see the need tbh.

Agree ... there is no need to go topless at all. You're not going to show off your tanned tits are you!? What is the point? It's just exhibitionism.

The women who do this are the same women who scream like banshees when they're shagging. They need everyone to know they're having sex, and what an 'amazing' time they're having. 🙄

Callaird · 30/06/2018 20:38

We have a retractable washing line, goes diagonally across the garden to hang laundry, horizontal across the garden, closer to the house but hides me from the neighbours - whilst sunbathing or playing in the pool with B4!

NoNotheresnolyrics · 30/06/2018 20:39

No, it wouldn’t bother me if they were completely naked, who cares it’s thier garden and thier body.

DesignStatement · 30/06/2018 20:44

Seems pretty exhibitionist to me, but if you feel you have the right to bare your bits I guess others might feel they have the right to look and stare, or even photograph the scenery. Bit risky.

LIZS · 30/06/2018 20:47

If she is worried by being seen she probably shouldn't be doing it.

NotARegularPenguin · 30/06/2018 20:54

I sunbathe topless in my garden but only in the part where I can’t be seen from anyone’s windows......well if my neighbour stood on his bathroom windowsill (frosted glass) and opened the tiny top bit and tried to stick his head out he could but I figure that’s unlikely that he’d do that. 8ft High walls all round.

Island35 · 30/06/2018 21:08

If my neighbour did and was on a trampoline or lighting a BBQ I'd be a bit nervous but otherwise I'd say go for it. Neighbours looking out of windows? That's their choice if your friend is happy enough to be topless in her own garden Smile

TerfsUp · 30/06/2018 21:08

Would you have a problem with a neighbour sunbathing topless or in a thong bikini in their garden?

Are you complaining because it's difficult to get a good view, OP?

BrexitWife · 30/06/2018 21:08

It’s your garden. It’s not as if you were topless in a bikini ting in the front garden or the street.
Neighbours have no reason to come and investigate what you are doing in your own garden, if you are sunbathing etc...

SaltyPeanut · 30/06/2018 21:14

There's nothing wrong with it but I still wouldn't do it. To many cameras about these days. It's not just pervs taking other people's photos without permission either. It's shocking how many "normal" (if there is such a thing) people think it's desirable and permissable to take awkward pictures of strangers and slap them up all over the internet.

Roussette · 30/06/2018 21:17

Hmmm dynamite, we were in a similar terraced house, all identical, he must'v.e gone into the loft and stood on something. I mouthed fuck off and gave him a V sign Grin It was as private as could be. If he's going to be such a pervy git, he can get lost. It's no different to going topless on a beach and it's my garden, as I say 90% private.

SaltyPeanut · 30/06/2018 21:18

Sorry, forgot to add, a photo of my near nude body wouldn't just break the internet, it would tear a hole in the space time continuum and I'd be personally responsible for the death of all life in the universe.

Gooseygoosey12345 · 30/06/2018 21:32

No I wouldn't. My neighbour can do what they want in their own garden, their neighbours shouldn't be so nosey!

Thymelord · 30/06/2018 21:58

I can't imagine a mother doing this

Is that for real? No, you can't possibly be serious 😂