Photo of nude baby

[Sailinghappy]

Genuinely interested to see if I'm being unreasonable here... what do you think?

So today my husband was playing with our baby daughter in the paddling pool having the loveliest time. She just splashes around in there nude in this heat and loves it! He took a funny photo of her playing with her duckie in the water and shared it on our family whatsapp group - with both aunties and uncles. I do think the photo is cute and I'm glad they had a lovely time playing but I'm fuming because my baby is nude in this photo and she has her legs wide open!! He way she's sitting isn't very dignified and I don't want everyone having photos of that!!!

Husband thinks it's just a funny photo shared with family - AIBU??

Thanks for confirming what we suspected.
That you KNOW it's wrong to share pics like this.

I just wrote that I DID share pics of me (or others did)taken when I was a baby,
What's wrong with sharing photos with your own family? Giving details of the actual photo to a perv on the internet on the other hand....

It's your other creepy and disturbed post that I have reported by the way, not that one.

I think it would be inappropriate on this particular thread.

That’s quite the one-eighty.
You aren’t called Theresa by chance, are you?

Yanbu at all. Yes she's a baby but she won't always be and I wouldn't like to think all my family had photos of me with my legs open. I don't take pictures of my baby without her nappy on but that's not to say I wouldn't, I just wouldn't show them to everyone and not with her keg she open. You're her mum and it's your instinct to protect her, nothing wrong with that.

Well said tilly!

Also, get your terminology right. I would be very very alarmed if anyone had taken a pic of a baby girl's vagina FGS. Think you mean her vulva. Words matter.

This.

A photo that happens to show her vulva is completely different to a photo of her vagina! If it was actually a photo of her vagina then YWBU not to call the police as that’s seriously disturbing and a completely different thing to a photo where her vulva is visible

Aw bless you ikeepaforkinmypurse. Mnhq allow reasoned debate. I don’t think any of my posts will be deleted, but you are of course very welcome to report anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Which post of mine is creepy and disturbing @ikeepaforkinmypurse

Do enlighten me.

*not with her legs open

Celebelly do you honestly have baby pics in an album display your vulva?
I have seen many many naked baby photos and can honestly say I've never seen one.

It's me who has posted outrageous and disgusting posts apparently @nottakenusername

Would love to know which ones, as I have said nothing bad or wrong.

@ikeepaforkinmypurse won't say which posts of mine are awful and disturbing though as they don't exist.

I don't see how that contradicts anything I've said? But why let facts get in the way of good old Mumsnet hysteria.

If you don't want naked pics of your baby shared, that's fine, your choice. But don't label it pornography or people paedophiles or try to sexualise it. It just says a lot more about you than anything else and it's frankly pretty sinister.

If you are worried someone in your family might be a paedophile then sharing photos is the least of your worries.

If a photo showing nakedness is auto automatically considered porn. Then the medical photographer who took photos of me at the hospital. Has a whole load of porn.

Crazy to even think nakedness = pornography.

Id file this instinct in the bad taste photos. Alongside people who post photos of their children when they are poorly. Give the child some dignity & privicy. But its hardly crime of the century. Just a momentary lapse of "not thinking anything of it"

Yea share the pic shit bag, it's not like there's 's no difference between sharing a baby pic between close family on a private WhatsApp group and posting it deliberately on a public website.

On the other hand, I just feel as her mummy I want to protect her from being shown these images by her uncle as a laugh on her 18th (or some such scenario) which she may find mortifying at that age.

Your instincts are correct imho. My dad recently threatened to enlarge photos of me naked in the bath as a baby and show them on a projector screen at a party we were having, specially to embarrass me in front of my friends. I was 46 at the time.

I have already said @celebelly that I won't cry 'child porn' at all.

But no WAY would I share pics of my daughter or son with their genitals on full view. Not ever no way. As has been said. no-one knows people 100% really, and you never know where they might end up.

I honestly wouldn't care. I was a baby. It bears no resemblance to how I look now and it's not sexualised in the slightest.

Vs

I think it would be inappropriate on this particular thread.

Contradiction.

FWIW it would be totally inappropriate on any Mumsnet thread. HTH.

Yep, just checked my watch. Thought it was about that time the Vulva police showed up.

A photo that happens to show her vulva is completely different to a photo of her vagina!

Eh? The vulva includes the external opening of the vagina

I’d file this instance in the bad taste photos. Alongside people who post photos of their children when they are poorly. Give the child some dignity & privacy.

I can definitely agree with that!

PuddlesOfBud

Did you really use the insult 'shit bag' @ADastardlyThing ?

That has made my day.

I think they were being sarcastic Celebelly, but it was beautiful moment!

Having or distributing images of a child’s vagina is not OK. I truly do not understand why a parent would ever feel the need to take, let alone share, images of the genitalia of their child. I was not suggesting for a single second that the dad had any bad intentions.

However, and what people fail to realise, is that many of the images shared by paedophiles on dark web software are images just like this. Taken innocently by loving parents.

Suppose

1. A relative the image is shared with is a paedophile and shares the image on dark web.
2. A relative innocently posts it to their facebook and a paedophile sees and shares it.
3. The phone is stolen or sold and ends up in the hands of a paedophile who sees and shares it.
4. The phone breaks and the guy in the shop fixing it is a paedophile who sees and shares it.

Or the guy in the shop sees it and reports you:
www.newshub.co.nz/home/world/2018/01/us-couple-s-kids-taken-away-after-innocent-bath-photos-reported.html

My DF works for social services and has drilled it into me not to take this kind of picture. Once a photo exists, we can’t be certain that we can control what happens with it. Best to just not take the image. How would you feel if it ended up on one of these websites? If you had, however inadvertently, put your child in that position?

It cracked me up My mission for next week is to unironically call someone a shit bag

Yep, just checked my watch. Thought it was about that time the Vulva police showed up.

I love the vulva police. They are dead right.

But then I have massing scales in my bathroom and, when people claim they own weighing scales, I ask what they weigh in Newtons. I may not be the best judge.

Passing pics from the 70's and 80's around (hard copy ones) of you as a baby in the buff is one thing.

But actually sending pics of babies in the buff WITH THEIR BITS PROPERLY SHOWING, via the internet/what's app (where everyone has access to them, and can save and copy them) is something else. No. Just no.