To be annoyed by child grabbing my baby

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I am a first time mum and have a 3 month old daughter . She was sitting on my lap in the doctors surgery when a young girl about 2, approached her then skipped away. She then came back and grabbed my daughter's arm and leg.

I froze. The girl then skipped away. Her mother was watching and didnt say or do anything. I got up and moved to the other side of the waiting room.

My daughter was completely fine but I was worried as my daughter is so young and this other child was in the surgery that germs/infection risk. My DH thinks as our daughter is only 13 weeks I should have batted the child's hands away and as a result I am questioning myself. I thought had I done this I could be accused of assaulting the child.

Is this really minor and I am being an overzealous first time mum?
I am also thinking what if the girl had actually hit my baby and what would or should I have done?? What have other m&s done?

*Dp, not do.

YANBU It used to give me the rage when other parents just sat back and let thier kids paw at my newborns like they were puppies (I did have postnatal MH issues though so no idea if that's normal!) I always stop mine from touching babies.
Your DH is being U to think batting the child' hand away is an acceptable way of dealing with this, it's not the child's fault at all and when yours is that age they will still seem tiny to you, even though two year olds may look huge to you now.

Did the other child catch the lergy from your baby

You're stressing over a toddler?

Why do kids like babies so much? A friend came round with her 6mo old, carrying her into our house in the car seat. Our DD9 just “helped herself” to the baby from the car seat and wandered off to play with her! Didn’t even say hello to my friend! We were highly amused at the swift, brazen baby snatch, then did follow to supervise.

If you have another then your daughter will be the annoying 2 year old, babies survive being bothered by siblings every day I'm sure your baby will be fine!

I'd be far more worried about the damage that your dp's attitude could cause her than a curious toddler tbh...

2 year ids are also babies, admittedly much bigger than yours but still babies. Your partners response as out of line, ignorant and pathetic. Your baby was not hurt by this sweet curious baby who did absolutely nothing wrong. Get a grip, your baby will be 2 before you know it and you will realise just how ridiculous you sound.

Another vote for get a grip.

If you have another baby in 2 years, would you not let your 2 year old touch them at all? This level of germ phobia is ridiculous.

Are you going to give away your first when you have your second lest she touch the baby?

Don't go to any playgroups, they're minefields of germs and prodding.

You are both being ridiculous. In a few months when your baby is mobile, puts everything in their mouth and has no sense of danger, come back and laugh at your post.

I'm the nicest possible way, it was a toddler, not an unxploded e-coli bomb. Yabu.

"bat her away"? Is he nuts?

How silly, Dd and I fussed over 4week old twins in the Drs today and the Mum was fine, neither of us are an infection risk.
You'll have to get a grip if you're going to go out in public.

Look at it this way, if you go on to have another baby your first might be 2-ish and therefore just as germ-ridden as that one. Guarantee you will have calmed down a lot by then. Don’t worry about it, you’re only what, 12 weeks into this whole shebang? But gosh, you’ll look back and laugh at yourself :)

Wow. What will you do when your PFB goes to school and other children touch her, hurt her, say nasty things to her? You'd better keep her wrapped in bubble wrap and never let her leave the house.

Is this for real? Your DH's attitude is shocking. Batting a curious child away because she touched your baby.
Pull yourself together op nothing happened. Total non-event! You need to relax about your baby. She's 3 months old not 3 days old.

I thought you were going to say the toddler slapped your baby. What happened is a complete non event and if you slapped my toddler away there would be trouble.

Your idiot of a dh would probably be ringing the police if someone ‘batted’ your daughter away when she is two.
Never heard such ridiculous rubbish.

You should definitely log it with 111. Maybe the waiting room had a cctv and they could use it at the toddler's trial. (Seriously, 3 months old can be touched, if she is gonna get something it will probably be through the air).

And tell your husband it's a bad idea to touch someone else's child. A really really bad idea. You both need to chill. There is being first time parents and there is being way ott...

How pathetic is this thread that you started op. You actually took the time to write this drivel about a 2year old child. Fgs get a grip

You were being a bit pfb.
Just wait until you get to baby group & start messy play.
My DS would jump in other babies bath water whilst waiting for his own, have a wee in it then get out for his fresh one. 😮

Will your "D" h be as understanding when your pfb is a toddler and someone bats her away from touching a baby? I really do wonder about the threads on here today.

You are overreacting. When your dc is a toddler they will be similarly curious and heavy handed.

Ermagherd.
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So when your baby starts grabbing at things and she goes to grab my child's hair, it's ok for me to bat her hand away?

No, thought not.
It's a toddler that means no harm.

Dear god! Bat a toddler's hand away? She touched the baby ffs.

Wait till she is a toddler are you going to bat/slap her hand away every time she reaches for something she shouldnt? She is going to have very sore hands for a couple of years!